Who am I???!
Question: I have recently realized that I suffer from a defense mechanism called introjection ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Introjectio... )
to summarize: "...introjection means incorporating attributes, attitudes or qualities of an absent person of high significance (for example, an absent working mother or a recently deceased relative) into oneself."
This means that so many of my personality "traits" which I believed are mine, are actually somebody else's. This is the way I dealt with the traumatizing situation of the only person I ever truly loved leaving me. Now I'm having an identity crisis because I now have no idea who I am. I was a different person 2 years ago and now I'm somebody else, but its not me! Who am I?? What do I do?
Answers: I have recently realized that I suffer from a defense mechanism called introjection ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Introjectio... )
to summarize: "...introjection means incorporating attributes, attitudes or qualities of an absent person of high significance (for example, an absent working mother or a recently deceased relative) into oneself."
This means that so many of my personality "traits" which I believed are mine, are actually somebody else's. This is the way I dealt with the traumatizing situation of the only person I ever truly loved leaving me. Now I'm having an identity crisis because I now have no idea who I am. I was a different person 2 years ago and now I'm somebody else, but its not me! Who am I?? What do I do?
It must seem like an infinite loop of torment; you developed this defense mechanism to deal with the emotional pain of your partner leaving you; but through "introjection" you're constantly reminding yourself of that person.
You developed your defense mechanism to protect yourself from thoughts and feelings that were too painful and unpleasant to bear; the cause was very probably, as you say, your partner leaving you.
You'll have to face the root cause of your anxiety. In your case that will probably mean lots of very unpleasant emotions and feelings while you adjust to not being with your partner anymore. It can be extremely painful.
But when it's all over you'll be your old self again.
how do i know you will read this and not someone-else?--so you are k-k get your own personality and dont copy someone else
Who are u? Who am I? Who are they?
Hey, this whole life is a search or rather a journey...and its the path you choose thats important...to heck with trying to define yourself right now anyway...words... words... eh....
Its actions. What you do speaks so loud I can't hear a word you say.
Get out there in life and define yourself by your actions....find out who you are ...by doing...not by going inward but by developing some character...integrity and belief or self confidence in discovering you.
Hope this helps...
Look, I know you may feel this way right now... but soon you'll be someone else, and this will all be forgotten. now sleep my child, sleep.