How do I get another personality?!
Question: Hi, I get bullied everyday and I have no one to defend me because my friends play football and I want another personality to try and defend myself. How do I get one? Oh and I do want serious answers!
Answers: Hi, I get bullied everyday and I have no one to defend me because my friends play football and I want another personality to try and defend myself. How do I get one? Oh and I do want serious answers!
You might not be able to change your basic personality, but you can work on how you react to things, and open your mind to different options. You can change the bully-to-victim relationship by keeping the other people off balance, so they don't have a clear role anymore, ie, their bullying isn't working!
When people bully you, is there a certain method to it? Analyze it for a second, and think: First, what do the bullies do. How do you react? And do you need to react that way? Why not initialize something on your own? If you're good at telling jokes, try telling one, and completely ignore the insults they're trying to throw at you. Laugh at whatever they're saying as if it's really funny, and tell them they're hilarious and you never realized how funny they were until now (but don't do it in a sarcastic way! Say it as if you really mean it!)
No need to insult them in return, or make them overly angry. Just don't react how they want you to, ie: scared, nervous, and angry. It's no fun for bullies when they don't win. Just change the rules on them. It's your life, so don't be scared to live it the way you want to.
Good luck!
You can't just get another personality. I think you need to think about adjusting your attitude towards the situation. If you don't like how you are handling it, handle it the way you want, and the way you do things will eventually change, and you'll become who you want to be.
if they physically beat you up, fight back, if they kick your butt keep fighting them the next time soon you will hurt them and they will know they get trouble if they mess with you! If you can get close enuff to one bully headbutt him on the nose or punch him on the nose(headbutt will hurt more) the eyes will water and you have 4-5 seconds before he can see again to let rip!!! If they just torment you and tease you, try to be funny and have a go back! Just show them your not scared coz your a nutter! Everyone gets scared even the so-called tough guys!
never try to be someone your not, it makes things a thousand times worse. your most certainly lacking in self confidence obviously, mostly to do with the bullies i'm sure. They'll be praying on your low self esteem so you really need to work on that which you won't be able to do unless (I'm not sure if you want to here it) you report it. Or at the very least speak to an elder as to how to approach this.
Join after school clubs etc to help to build up confidence.
it is close to im possible to "get" another personality it takes years even decades for the mind to fully adapt to a complete change in personality. i say you change the perspective of the situation . what you can do is chane your attitude if guys are bullying you dont look to others to defend you but dint say somthing thatll make it worse and def. dont fight dont respond the reason most people constantly bully someone is to see the response they get out of them.
for instance if they knock the books out of your hand pickk them up and keep on walking DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT LOOK AT THEM. this is key if you stop aknowledging them they stop aknowledging you
im going through somthing like you are ive gone throught worse all my life(apparnetly im a *****). im buddhist ive found that 30 min meditation everyday.
and find better friends if your friends dont take your side theres a higher chance youll be bullied(your like the lone wilderbeast at the watering hole your the first choice for the lion)
hope this helps
You have the only one you'll ever get unless of course you split the one you have! All you have to do is stand up to the bullies! Don't back down, don't give in! It may be painful in the beginning, however it will end when you stand up for yourself. Bullies always lack something, so find out what it is and use it against them. They will back off once you find the weak spot! Good luck.
If you are getting physically hurt on a regular basis by these bullies, you need to tell an adult you trust about the problem, such as a teacher, counselor, one of your parents, or maybe a parent of one of your friends if you don't feel comfortable telling your own folks. The bullies will not stop until either you change, or someone else interferes with the problem.
When I was a kid I had a couple of bullies, one of them was especially mean, a girl who was quite a bit bigger than me. She used to bully me, push me around, say bad things to me in front of other kids, steal from me, etc. I was so scared and ashamed, I never told anyone what was going on, till one day it went too far and she pushed my head into a brick wall! It hurt so bad I ran home crying and told my Dad. He went to school with me the next day, went to the office, told the principal all about it and gave him an earful. Needless to say, that girl got expelled shortly afterwards, and I never saw her again!
The point of telling you this story is that amazing things can happen if you just tell someone you trust. Do things to help build your self esteem. Instead of focusing on what you can't do, focus on what you CAN do. Think of things you are good at. Imagine that you are strong and confident and always have the right thing to say to make them leave you alone. If you think that way long enough, you will become what you think about. Likewise, if you always think you are weak and helpless, you will be.
Try not to let them know if you are scared. It is OK if you really are scared inside, but dont let them know that. Let them think you are calm and relaxed. If you aren't scared of them, it's no fun for them to harass you. This is just the same as dogs who bark viciously while they chase cars... as soon as you stop the car, the dog stops too, and will just stand there and look at the driver as if to say, "Well, aren't you gonna drive? Cuz it's no fun if you just sit there. I have nothing to chase!" Bullies are the same way. This is a good thing to think about when you see them. Just imagine they are dogs chasing cars, or imagine them as little babies or toddlers having a temper tantrum. Then they won't seem so scary to you.
Good luck, I hope this helps.
you should definitely become the silent type.
ok ok first start out by purchasing "my so called life" on dvd. watch this 1990's drama television series and look and study how jordan catalono acts. he is quiet and mysterious you don;t know a thing about him but you want to know everything
after you perfect that, study brian krakow. he is quiet and nerdy. he takes pictures and isn;t ever without his camera and he is smart and always has these deep philisophical thoughts.
ok now mix those two guys into one beautiful mysterious creation and there you have it. if no one else you'll have cute lttle scene girls lined up to go get coffee with you and smoke some cigarrettes. but never lose yourself.
also you should listen to radiohead and modest mouse and the beatles and smashing pumpkins, sound good?
This is how you set this up perfectly - Go to your principal and simply discuss with him or her that some people are bullying you and tell your principal who.
Also tell a few friends that some people are bothering you and that you might have to defend yourself. (Pretend you are interested in their advice on what to do).
Ask your principal to talk to them and tell them to knock it off.... This will make you seem like the "good guy" later.
First you need to purchase some pepper spray with a strong wide stream. This will make it easier to handle more than one opponent. It is readily available in stores and on the net.
Say there are 7 or 8 guys bothering you. Try to draw them around a corner where there are no witness to how this starts. Pick one of the tougher ones and focus on him and say "we need to talk".
Kind of come close to him and then draw him back by saying "over here in my office in private" with a smile on your face.
When he comes over and gets in your face and says something stupid like "what's up?", with your palms facing out and up by your head, kinda of wave your hands and say "listen, I don't want any trouble".
Then immediately gauge him in both eyes with your thumbs really hard and fast. He will scream in pain and be blinded for several minutes if your did it hard enough.
Then their natural instinct will be to start chasing you. (start running and get your pepper spray ready.
As they are chasing you, spray a giant stream of pepper spray in their direction as they run after you.
You will not be affected because you are running away from the stream.
They will all be basically blinded and defenseless after you pepper spray them. Go to them one by one and spray each of them in the face further.
Next, deliver a powerful kick to the groin to each of them so they double over.
Then deliver an elbow smash (important to use your elbow because it is much harder than your fist) to their teeth and try to knock some teeth out of each of your attackers.
After that, one by one, grab each one by the wrist with one hand and place your other hand behind their elbow. Push with force as hard as you can until you break their arm at the elbow.
Make sure none of them are still standing and then proceed to call the police and explain that you were jumped. Tell the police that this group threatened to kill you, kept coming at you and that you feared for your life.
Also tell them that you spoke to the principal and some of your friends before about that group.
This will teach them a valuable life lesson worth more than gold and give you a new tough reputation.
Best Wishes!
i recomand u shank them