Is this rape?!
Question: Ok i had sex and i told the guy i wanted to stop cause it was hurting and he said let em finish! and we did even though i wanted to stop! Is that considered rape?
Answers: Ok i had sex and i told the guy i wanted to stop cause it was hurting and he said let em finish! and we did even though i wanted to stop! Is that considered rape?
No. You consented then changed your mind.
Yes and no. While I am no expert I read an articl some months back where it depends largely in what state it occured. Some states say if you initially consent it isnt rape, but more and more states are moving to the if you say no it does constitute rape.
No. If both finished
You say stop...he is supposed to stop. Freakin jerk
Any unwanted sexual contact is rape. If you said no at any point it is rape. Good luck with this. Rape is one of the most difficult things to prove.
Yeah, I'd say yes and no, too. Mostly no.
You should have said no in the beginning.
abuse...not rape
No i dont think it would be in a rape category, but more in an abuse category. You wanted to have sex in the beginning, but the only reason you wanted to stop was b/c it hurt? i dont think that counts. Not saying he was right cause he wasnt, but if your mad @ him for not listening, then rape isnt right to pin on him, i think sexual abuse...
yes
In the circumstances as you described, NO.
In law only by forcing or an underage child.
I agree with Terriblt that it is a form of abuse. Rape would be if you never consented in the first place.
But either way - rape or abuse - it still hurts emotionally and causes lasting damage in future relationships. I suggest you talk this over with a counsellor.
And please be careful about who you have sex with. Its not something you should be doing unless you know the guy very well and really love him. Its a hard lesson you have had to learn!
Depends. After he said he wanted to finish if you said no again, then yes it was rape. If you agreed to finish after you first said stop then no it's not rape. Sorry but there's not really enough info to say for sure. And as for the idiots who say you can't say no during sex, or if you consented first then changed your mind it doesn't matter. If a doctor was doing a procedure that you consented to, then you asked him to stop he would have to, it would be illegal for him not to.Sex isn't any different.
It's your body and people need to respect that. Either way, he's an a-hole for arguing with you and I would dump him. Even if it's not rape now, if he can't respect you when you say no, he may rape you later. You were in pain, and regardless of how close he was to finishing he should have stopped.
And for people that seem to think guys have no control over themselves when they have sex and can't stop or they shouldn't have to, that's crap. My boyfriend has stopped before when I was in pain and I know it's hard, but if you love someone it shouldn't be too difficult. I'm sure I'm going to get thumbs down for this, but oh well, it's the truth. No means no.
even though u had consented at first, as soon as u say no, he should stop as soon as u said no its considered rape
To many ways to interpret this incident. The only thing I can say is that if you said NO, well no means no. And in your question you said "WE did..." which doesn't look like you're "blaming" him, you're actually taking blame as well. If you feel physically violated, well it could very well be an "assault" (sorry I can't use that "other" word, personal). Only you can make that decision as to what happened. Good Luck, and email me if you'd like.
Hmm was it rape or were you being rude? I am not Socrates but for future reference there is a common ground to compromise on. P.S. I think this question is for an intro course.
Yes and I will be happy to kill him for you... Free of charge!!!
Did you blow your rape whistle? If there was no rape whistle, there was no rape. You have to think of it like a pass interference call in football: yeah, there might be some illegal contact in there, but unless the whistle is blown, there's no foul.
Yes. He should have stopped. I stopped when a girl told me to. I may have gne a little more ,but when she said I was hurting her I stopped. I don't think I even got it in all the way and it really sucked ,but I stopped.
Be smart and flexible. Even if its hurting, you can't expect him to stop. There are other ways to get him finished, so entice him to pull out, so you can finish him in another way.