Please help my brother?!
Question: I feel so strongly for my friend, I call him my brother. He calls me sis. We're just that close.
However, he was molested as a child. He refuses to tell anyone even though hes all messed up mentally.
How can i convince him to get help? He won't tell anyone, and I don't know If I should tell his mom or not?
Thank you all!
Answers: I feel so strongly for my friend, I call him my brother. He calls me sis. We're just that close.
However, he was molested as a child. He refuses to tell anyone even though hes all messed up mentally.
How can i convince him to get help? He won't tell anyone, and I don't know If I should tell his mom or not?
Thank you all!
This is a very difficult situation and i think its great that you're taking the interest to try to help him. However, there are a few things you should know. You might have heard the saying that you cant help change anyone but yourself, and that is true. Its possible that he is not at the point psychologically where he is ready to face and talk about the abuse, so there really is no way to make him get help. However, just by being there for him and gently pointing out areas in his life that maybe he could improve if he would get help, could lead him to seek out help. As long as the abuse isn't going on anymore, my advice would be do not tell his parents, at least not yet. People who were abused have trust issues to begin with so "breaking the privacy" of your friendship would probably backfire and he would feel betrayed. This has to be his decision but it will help if you are supportive and helpful in providing info about local therapists, books, etc. Good luck. if you would like some more help, feel free to email me and I'll do what i can. I know how much you are hurting for him and how much you care. take care. Dr. Max S.
hey don't tell anyone advice him, make him tell...if you tell your lifes at risk he may kill you out of anger. Report It
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