Why am i so pathetic?!
Question: I am so sad even when my life is good but i am still so sad and my parents support me but i just hold it in when i need to talk to them
Answers: I am so sad even when my life is good but i am still so sad and my parents support me but i just hold it in when i need to talk to them
I don't tell my parents jackshit. They know nothing about. They seriously have no clue who I am as a person. I am a shell that walks around with a smile on, has a knack for making people piss their pants in fits of laughter, and has a bad temper. That is a front I put on in order to stay within myself... people like the fake me. The real me is something intangible, strange... incredibly hard to understand. I sure as hell don't understand. The few people I have opened up to in my life have found me to be too intense, too thoughtful, too overwhelming. I have, unfortunately, scared some very cool people away. People seem to be very turned off by complexity, and that is all that I am. That is why my mouth remains shut about anything more than surface level conversation.
You don't need to talk to your parents. Talk to someone your own age, or even older (I hate talking to people my age.... I greatly prefer adults.) It can be so difficult to divulge your feelings and personal thoughts to someone you are constantly surrounded by, and let's admit it: parents are often quick to judge. After all, you are a reflection of them, and any worries or concerns of yours become red beacons of failure (on their part) to them.
Scope someone out who gives off that comforting vibe of empathy and understanding. I know it gets old hearing this, but school counselors are great listeners and give awesome advice. The first person I talked to was one of my school counselors, and he has helped me tremendously since then, even just having me vent over the constant conflict in my household. Give it a go...
I am assuming you are in your teens based on your question; I have never been a particularly (or remotely) 'normal' kid, and my teenage years have been the exacerbation of my entire life's issues (amongst other contributors.) However, I'd go as far as to say all kids go through a phase similar to yours. You are starting to mature and think a little bit for yourself, and a lot of things in life seem very awkward. I DO hope some of your discontent is fueled by questioning and speculating on what goes on in everyday life. Life is a bit of a downer in its own right, especially when you realize how little you are able to understand about it. Life does become overwhelming at that age, and it'll take some hard thinking and reasoning to recognize the good things and the bad things, and balance them in your mind. And you'll get more comfortable talking with your parents once you understand more about yourself and things in the bigger spectrum. Once you accomplish tat, you can apply it to all of your relationships and feel more secure in opening up and asking advice from other people.
****, I've rambled once again. Sorry.
Good luck to ya!
Anna
I know you don't want to worry them, but you must tell them how sad you are. I'm sure they would want to know.
Mabee you suffer from depression , it can be caused by a chemical inbalance in your brain.
ur not pathetic. ur just scared what your parents will think when they know all of things that u have been hiding for a long time. there your parents. thats there job. every kid has problems. u'll feel better when u get it out. u may be depressed. its a genetic thing. doesn't matter if your life is good. you can't help it. if you tell your parents you can get some help and then you won't feel so bad all the time which is good. good luck.
then make them listen
be like
"yo home dawgs like, let's coversate."
and like dust the couch and crap and the'll go
"wow our kid is OF THE HIZZ OOK!!!!"
haha
don't kill yourself by the way
life is beautiful!
Why are you so sad? The more you think that the deeper it's going to get. Get your close friends together and do something that makes you happy, like ten pin bowling or anything really as long as you enjoy it and with your closest friends with you it might take you mind off it. be positive and good things will happen, you might even open up to them, but honestly the more you say it and think it the worse its going to get. I bet no-one else thinks that about you
I would suggest looking into cognitive therapy. There are a couple good books that you can read to help you understand the spiral effect you experience when you start thinking too much.(ex: Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Revised and Updated by David D. Burns) They can helps you get under control of your own mind. An actual therapist can help out with this as well but if you are uncomfortable talking to your parents it may or may not benefit you. Some people benefit from having an outside person who is unbias to talk to. Also make sure you eat a healthy diet which can actually effect your mind. Drink plenty of water and take a daily vitamin. It's wonderful to have such supportive parents and to be able to know they are there no matter what. GL
u rnt pathetic. its depression man. getting to the point where u cant take it. wen / if u need to tlk to them, do it. because they love u and want to help u. this isnt being pathetic dont worry. its just being sad. being pathetic is being a lier and a phoney. ive known u for a long itme and i dont think ur pathetic at all. dont hold back. live free and love god and everything will come together