HELP! my real best friend for life just found out she has cancer! how do i cope?!


Question: we just found out when we both got picked up by her mom at school to go to the doctor. it has something to do with her chest but i am not sure. it is deadly and it is really serious...they waited too later and it is hard to save her. i do not want to lose her! i will be all alone all over again and miserable. what should i do!!! this is a serious question so no jokes or rude comments.


Answers: we just found out when we both got picked up by her mom at school to go to the doctor. it has something to do with her chest but i am not sure. it is deadly and it is really serious...they waited too later and it is hard to save her. i do not want to lose her! i will be all alone all over again and miserable. what should i do!!! this is a serious question so no jokes or rude comments.

If she does happen to pass away,cherish these last times with her and remember all of the happy times you've shared.Think about how scared she is,so don't even mention the possibility of her dying.It will make both of you depressed.Be there for her and comfort her.Don't worry Sweetie,and don't let her worry either.Make sure you both have many happy experiences together.There's still hope!Just make sure you two have fun.I'm so sorry this has happened to her and that you have to deal with it all,too.This is going to be hard,and it's okay to be sad.I know you can be strong,and so can your friend.God will help her.And you,too.You both have ALL of my blessings.

And if you EVER need to talk,my email is ariana62442@yahoo.com

You should take these last moments with her & cherish the memories you share. Be a good friend & offer comfort & support. Be available for her to talk & be a good listener. Let her know how much you care for her. You may want to talk to a counselor. Prayers always help. In my prayers.
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The best thing you can do is be there for her no matter what. I know the thought of losing your friend is scary but look at it from her perspective....she is scared she is going to lose her life. Don't treat her different, don't pity her, just be the same friend to her you have always been. If this is the last part of her life then help her make it the best it can be. You and her will both be happy and grateful for that.

bE THE BEST FRIEND YOU CAN BE RIGHT NOW WHEN SHE NEEDS YOU THE MOST. THINK POSITIVE. WITH THE MEDICINE AVAILABLE NOW AND EMOTIONAL SUPPORT AND COURAGE, SHE COULD BEAT THIS CANCER. LOTS OF PEOPLE SURVIVE CANCER THESE DAYS
lOSING SOMEONE IS DEPRESSING LONEYLY AND MISERABLE, BUT IN TIME YOU HEAL AND GO ON.
BE THE BEST FRIEND YOU CAN BE, AND FIND MORE FRIENDS FOR SUPPORT FOR YOU.

You should pray for her health and for yourself. God can help with all things, even if you don't realize it at first.

I'm so sorry to hear about your best friend. Of course, you know what you'll have to do. You need to be strong for her. You need to be there for her. Pay attention to what's going on and always offer to help her and/or her parents out in any way you can. Maybe you two can do a scrapbook together about your friendship. Think of things that you can do to help her... this is not about you. Not yet. Stay in the here and now and be there for her.

Note to Thop (below) - hey friend, you sound like you could really use some help. I'm sorry for the way that you are feeling. I hope you're able to reach out and talk someone...
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Lexi, this is going to be a tough time for both of you. You have to step up and be there for your friend no matter how badly you feel. She needs you now more than ever. My best wishes for both of you.

Don't offer "if there's anything I can do for you, just ask" without giving examples of things that you'd be willing to do. I had cancer in 2006 and got that offer a lot... but didn't dare ask because I thought it might be out of line. The offer seemed to be something that people said because they didn't know what else to say. So be sure to give examples.... you would go grocery shopping for her or with her, you would shovel the sidewalk for her, you would drive her to a dr. appt., you would take care of her kids for a day, etc. Give examples. And whatever you do, keep in contact with her and be her friend. I have a couple of people who wouldn't contact me after I told them I had cancer, and I decided that those people weren't really friends, after all.

Hunny this is going to be a hard battle. But just be there for her. I think you should see someone, so you don't get overwhlemed. Just keep doing the fun things you all do together. Hunny you be in my thoughts, if you ever need to talk, just e-mail me, I will help you anyway I can.

"well, try to confort her by maybe buying her something nice or be by this person's side perhap's when she need's it ? from alan tiger . "

Tell her that there are people like me who are jealous. She is lucky to have such a short life-span. She should learn to be happy about having cancer. I'm serious. As for you, sorry about your friend.

How do YOU cope!? She's the one that has the cancer. You have to be really unselfish now and be there for her. She's going to need a lot of support now.





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