If only i could turn back time...?!
Question: Right now i'm quite depressed, my nan is very ill and my grandpa just passed away. My dad might as well not even know me he talks to me that little, and my mum and her bf are constantly together and she's only happy around him it seems.
Its like I look at my grandparents dying off and think "That will be my mum and dad one day, and that will be ME one day too..." and it really upsets me.
I really desperately want to turn back time so that all this would change, my parents would be together, my grandparents would be fit and healthy, and i liked myself better as a baby.
I'm only 15 and i think that this is quite serious because i cry ALL THE TIME about it.. and it is constantly on my mind and it's starting to make me feel like whats the point in living anymore? You just live, and die.
I would never take my own life but i hate having these thoughts, please help me, give me any advice, have you been through this before, etc?
Answers: Right now i'm quite depressed, my nan is very ill and my grandpa just passed away. My dad might as well not even know me he talks to me that little, and my mum and her bf are constantly together and she's only happy around him it seems.
Its like I look at my grandparents dying off and think "That will be my mum and dad one day, and that will be ME one day too..." and it really upsets me.
I really desperately want to turn back time so that all this would change, my parents would be together, my grandparents would be fit and healthy, and i liked myself better as a baby.
I'm only 15 and i think that this is quite serious because i cry ALL THE TIME about it.. and it is constantly on my mind and it's starting to make me feel like whats the point in living anymore? You just live, and die.
I would never take my own life but i hate having these thoughts, please help me, give me any advice, have you been through this before, etc?
aw im so sorry to hear what you are going through.Trust me i know how it feels,i always wish i can turn back time too=[im 14 and lately after losing my mom am always feeling so sad too.YOu should go talk this out to your mom,and tell her everything that you are feeling.Im SUre she cares,she is you MOM.you just have to try to be positive and have a more positive look on life...u know.life is to short to be depressed.you have to make the best of everything.im sorry to hear that your grandpa past away=[ but he was probably old so its natural and normal.im sure he is looking down at you and wants you to be happy.i hope you will get happy soon=]
Ps.I care=]
Soon enough, you'll have the choice to start your own family - and hopefully do a little better than your parents.
Stiff upper lip - it's not your fault, and even if it was, you couldn't change it.
Concentrate on improving your own life, and stop worrying about other people.
Darlin' you are growing up and it's not fun, is it?? But pay attention to your gramma BEFORE she passes. Turn your depression into doing positive things for her. You will never have the chance once she's gone. I'm sorry that your parents have no time for you, but you do have your nan right now, so turn your love on her.
I know about wishing we could turn back time, but that is living in the past and it doesn't do anything positive for you right now. Remembering the past and looking over memories is a good thing. Just don't get caught up in it.
If you don't feel better soon (after trying things that people tell you, on here) maybe you should see a doctor. They might be able to help you. But don't go on anti-depressants unless some capable person is there to watch you. At your age they are dangerous without supervision.
I speak Gods Blessing on you, darlin'
A very good friend of mine went through something pretty similar when she was about your age and what I learned from that is one very important lesson - be very careful not to jump into situations just because they seem like an escape.
In her case she went off with a guy at 16, was preg. at 17 and divorced by 25 with 4 kids. However she's very bright and proving it now by doing a psychology degree at 30 and I'm helping to turn her life round, however I'm sure her advice would be simply look before you jump.
Life sometimes does this to you - it throws you a challenge and it's not always very nice. But if you can stay strong and focus on you, then you'll beat it, stick two fingers (1 in the US) at life and then go off and make something great of yourself...!
I promise - it does get better, but just think about life changing decisions before you make them.*
* Doesn't apply if someone asks if you want to go on a foreign beach holiday or a tour of a chocolate factory! ;-)
PS: Remember the most important thing I can tell you, there are people who really care about you....see the list here.
Years from now your going to die too ,, and your going to find out that there is this long trail with trees on eather side and benches along the trail under the trees for people to set as they wait for friends and loved ones and going off this main trail are lots of littler trails that lead off into worlds filled with things and places that only you could have possibley come up with ,, and that special someone will be there waiting for you or perhaps you will be their first ,in which case you will have to take a seat and wait , but even the wait will be heaven ,,,,,,,but don't get in a hurry god has plans for you here see what it is he wants then do your best to do it and then you can go join up with that special someone ,untill then ,, have some fun ...
You are grieving and all the past experiences get you thinking about who is next and then when it would be your turn. You need a chance to grieve. If you don't have people close to you to be able to express your grief and cry when you need to, consider a grief support group.
think about the good things in life! ur grandpa had a great life! ur nan, loved him dearly, (mine didn't) and ur mom is happy! u have friends, and a great life! ur special, and u have lots of friends, and lots of people are there to cheer you up! :)