How can I be less like a snob????!
Question: how can i act less confident and stuckup? for example, if a guy is checking me out i pretty much always ignore the guy's glance and everything no matter how hott he is. i think this makes me come off as unapproachable and snobbish and i don't know how to fix this. i've only had 1 boyfriend like 3 years ago. im 16. how can i quit doing this b/c i hate how i do this because im really not a snobby person? also my friend said her first impression of me was i was a snob!how do i change this! i want to be approachable and not appear snobbish! im sure i could have had quite a few boyfriends let alone guy friends if i didn't do this! there's this guy at school who i have a big crush on, he's always looking at me, but i ignore him everytime! i have no clue what to do..im so confused. i am a very nice person but i have this problem that i seem snobbish. also, i moved to a new school like 2 years ago and i never got a really solid group of friends here. so everyone probably thinks im a snob.
Answers: how can i act less confident and stuckup? for example, if a guy is checking me out i pretty much always ignore the guy's glance and everything no matter how hott he is. i think this makes me come off as unapproachable and snobbish and i don't know how to fix this. i've only had 1 boyfriend like 3 years ago. im 16. how can i quit doing this b/c i hate how i do this because im really not a snobby person? also my friend said her first impression of me was i was a snob!how do i change this! i want to be approachable and not appear snobbish! im sure i could have had quite a few boyfriends let alone guy friends if i didn't do this! there's this guy at school who i have a big crush on, he's always looking at me, but i ignore him everytime! i have no clue what to do..im so confused. i am a very nice person but i have this problem that i seem snobbish. also, i moved to a new school like 2 years ago and i never got a really solid group of friends here. so everyone probably thinks im a snob.
You need to deal with your underlying subconscious feelings about being insecure and afraid of boys. You act snobby & aloof as a way of building a wall around you to protect yourself from being hurt or rejected.
I don't know how many times you've had to change schools, but that makes it harder too.
For now, just try to make some friends, boys or girls to hang out with. Smile, maintain eye contact & ask people questions about themselves & really listen.
Maybe try to go for counseling so you have someone on your side & can learn to show people the nice smiley you.
I think you are confused. You really need to look at yourself and see why the situation makes you so uncomfortable. I seriously doubt it is because you are truly confident. My bet is you are seriously insecure and only once you become truthful to yourself and others will the answer come to you.
i used to have this problem. Everyone said i was snobby and stuck up, when i'm really the nicest person in the world! I talked to my friends about it, and i asked them why they thought iwas snobby. Come to find out, i didnt smile, i was always so serious. From there, i realized that i walk with a swagger, the supermodel walk if you will. Got rid of that (for the most part). Lastly, i started talking to strangers :). Just people in line, casual conversations... small talk. When people see you being approachable, they approach!!
I say talk to your friends, and tell them that it really bothers you that people think you're a snob. And you want to know what about you makes you snobbish, and help you come up with ways to .. stop being snobby.
Well, people tell me I'm a snob as well, but for me its a defense mechanism because I'm not that pretty and I compensate with intelligence.
But frankly, this is all in your hands! Only you can talk your self into looking your crush in the eye and saying "hey there."
I haven't met you so I don't know how you would come off to me, The Ice Queen, but just smile when you meet someone and be relaxed so you will be perceived as laid back instead of "snobby."
I'm sure you aren't. And perhaps, people are intimidated by you and mask it off as "you" being snobby... Not sure.
But at least you're lucky enough to be pretty so you needn't have a defense mechanism such as myself.