When someone tell you almost every other day....?!
Question: that he wants to commit suicide. And he only wants your help....can it mentall mess with your head also?? This happened to me and I cant deal now with the after effects. He was an ex bf, needless to say he has not or will not ever take his own life. But now I battle what he said to me in my own head. Like how could he do this to me?? Most likely it was for sympathy, but even so, I believed him. Now it has consumed me and I do not know how to deal with it. Please help.
Answers: that he wants to commit suicide. And he only wants your help....can it mentall mess with your head also?? This happened to me and I cant deal now with the after effects. He was an ex bf, needless to say he has not or will not ever take his own life. But now I battle what he said to me in my own head. Like how could he do this to me?? Most likely it was for sympathy, but even so, I believed him. Now it has consumed me and I do not know how to deal with it. Please help.
Well, you have already started to move on. Many people use suicide threats for the purpose of getting attention or keeping people in a relationship out of guilt or fear. I can understand being upset about being manipulated like that. Perhaps you should speak to a counselor about it.
Good luck,
Dana (M.S. Mental Health Counseling)
Can you possibly move away without saying a word to him. Just disappear and move somewhere else. Dont tell him your going anywhere. Might be easier that way
I had a friend did the same to me. Yeah, it causes you to get screwed up and pissed off. Eventually you forget. Being around nuts makes you nuts.
You have suffered due to his head games. I dated someone like this when I was a teen and had a friend who was like this as well. My ex never acted on it unfortunately the friend did. Whether they act on it or not it consumes us and when they do act on it, it is worse. It is important to remember that this is their issue and there is only so much we can do. The damage is done, although very unfair to you. Consider seeing a counselor to help sort out your feelings and to learn to let the feelings go so you can move on. And of course, to learn how to not let this ever happen to you again - and that is not easy chore....
P.S. After not seeing my friend for almost a year, he started dating someone just as self destructive as himself, he came to me in a dream screaming for help. I awoke at 2:21 am - the exact time he was hit by the train....So, please consider the counseling - it is a heavy load to carry.
I think you need to work on being well. Surely you have offered this bf the advice of "seek help". Beyond that, there really is nothing you can do. You can't will him to do it, and he's controlling to act as though you can. Only he can help himself.
Try to be conscious of this type of person in the future, so you don't end up being in a relationship with someone who needs to be "fixed". We all need to be supported, but fixed is a whole other story.