18 and so stressed what to do????!
Question: iam 18 and i have lost my job about almost two months ago i been in so many interviews and nothing i owe so many bills car, insurance, hospital, mom medicine, cellphone, school. we just found out my brother is going to prison i got very sad my mom got very sick she has diabetes so she is very stressed out which makes me even worse i hate seeing her sad and my relationship with my boyfriend is not going well he work only mornings and is always tired he never wants to hang out with me its always about his cars im so stressed i cant stop crying i have so much anger i cant get it out can some one please tell me how to take all this stress out no rude opinions please!!!
Answers: iam 18 and i have lost my job about almost two months ago i been in so many interviews and nothing i owe so many bills car, insurance, hospital, mom medicine, cellphone, school. we just found out my brother is going to prison i got very sad my mom got very sick she has diabetes so she is very stressed out which makes me even worse i hate seeing her sad and my relationship with my boyfriend is not going well he work only mornings and is always tired he never wants to hang out with me its always about his cars im so stressed i cant stop crying i have so much anger i cant get it out can some one please tell me how to take all this stress out no rude opinions please!!!
Everyone goes through what your are going through. I am goign through worste. I was caught masterbating at work and it was put on the news. I lost all o m friends. I went to my fathers wedding recently. There was about a hundred and fifty people there. My own grandfather was making a speech and he made jokes about what I did. Everyone including my emediate family was laughing at me. for some reason it didnt bother me. Aterwards I was like damn how could they do that. I have a really good friend that has been in jail since last october. it looks like he is going to be in their for alot longer. This friend treats me better than my own family. He has never laughed at me because of what iv'e done. Can you imagine that ? A friend that treats you better than your own family ? He is more than a brother to me. I feel for him. so many things happend to me back to back. First I got jumped while my brother was there and he didnt do anything to stop it. Then I lost my good paying job. After that I found another job and I was caught masterbating and it was put on the news. NO one likes me. Eveyrbody knows me becuase of what I did. I wish I could switch places with you even or a minute. I am not one of those people that will ridicule you. I understand what you are through. Don't be so hard on yourself. You will ind another job. Count your blessings. At least you have a boyfriend who cares about you and a family that does as well. I hope you read what I wrote and you have an understanding o what I am going through. I want you to say to yourself maybe my life i'snt so bad after all.
running.
it gets you
in shape
and gives endorphins
and makes you tired so you sleep at night..
less time to think about whats going wrong in life.
Sorry that all this is happening to you at such a young age. Studies show that exercise reduces stress dramatically. I dont know if you are religious but meditation (sitting alone, quietly, drink some chamomile tea, whatever works for you) and prayer can do wonders also. Take some time every night and go for a quiet walk/jog by yourself and unwind. Yoga is very relaxing also. Crying is also very healthy for you, but if you have feelings that you are losing control, you should see a therapist. Trash the stigma that comes along with them, they are just people that you can talk to that will not judge you. At the risk of sounding like a weirdo, its true, if you take care of your body, your body will take care of you.
Do nothing until you have a plan that makes you feel joyous. Turn to your own heart to listen for conclusions rather than looking outside. The world often seems big and confusing and even contradictory... up/down, right/left... which direction is safe and fun? Its all for the best whatever happens and you will believe that when your heart is invited to the party.
You must secure your own oxygen mask first. Worrying about everyone else? Why? What can you do to help them? You can do a lot - when your happy and filled with joy. Until then just focus on yourself and remember every person has the strength to do the same. Even if... they die or are hurt... although not pleasant to think of... it happens and it is part of life. Would you choose to have never been born if you knew in advance it would hurt this much? Me neither. It is worth it to experience the love and joy and exciting moments to endure the others. What you choose to think of at any moment is your choice alone, anyone who tells you otherwise is probably just pulling your leg to see if you fall for it hehe.
Lighten up, being depressed and unhappy doesn't help... laughing in the face of a horrible tragedy is adventurous and surprisingly the results better too.
Hope this helps :)