Why am I so confused at 21 years old?!
Question: I am not sure what to do with my life and my time, I'm not going to school right now and I am so confused about my life. I feel so pathetic when people always ask me what I've been up to and how I spend my time. I always have to lie to them just so I don't make them think that I'm a loser. I do have a part time job working at the ports of Los Angeles/ Long Beach, but I am not working because work has been really really slow, even when I do work it's not enough days, I average no more than 5 days a month. I need to at least register for school because I need my health insurance. I've been searching for a second part-time job so I have something to do with myself and my time. My parents split up recently, and not having my mother around really hit me hard, because she was the one who made sure I took care of business, but that's no excuse. Is there any advice you can give me to help get my life on track, I'm not feeling sorry for myself, I just need suggestions.
Answers: I am not sure what to do with my life and my time, I'm not going to school right now and I am so confused about my life. I feel so pathetic when people always ask me what I've been up to and how I spend my time. I always have to lie to them just so I don't make them think that I'm a loser. I do have a part time job working at the ports of Los Angeles/ Long Beach, but I am not working because work has been really really slow, even when I do work it's not enough days, I average no more than 5 days a month. I need to at least register for school because I need my health insurance. I've been searching for a second part-time job so I have something to do with myself and my time. My parents split up recently, and not having my mother around really hit me hard, because she was the one who made sure I took care of business, but that's no excuse. Is there any advice you can give me to help get my life on track, I'm not feeling sorry for myself, I just need suggestions.
Because you're still young. Some people don't know what they want to do, until 40 or 50.
You shouldn't worry so much, you're not unique in this.:)
MOST AT YOUR AGE ARE.
maybe you should go to like the navy army marines airforce like it would realllly help you out in the long run they reallly ensure a good future
Because the world is a confusing place. Big world, lots of choices. Sit down with a counselor at your school, and ask about getting an aptitude inventory. Maybe you can isolate your aptitudes and interests and think about a goal.
you can try to read book title:
PURPOSE OF DRIVEN LIFE
thats a good book, try to understand the meaning of life thru that book
Dude, i'm 21. It's just finding your feet, same as me. I think we'll get there in the end, remember - we are not even a quarter through our lives yet!
your 5 years older then me eldery
you are still young. dont yet know all your likes or dislikes. you barely even know who you are. dont worry i was in the same boat
It sounds like you are going to jump out of bed one day and make something happen. The thoughts and concerns you are expressing tell me that you're unlikely to remain a slacker much longer.
Just decide that the day you are going to change is today, then do it. There are no secrets--just perspication, perspiration and hard work!
read the bible. i dont care how you get to one, if you own one or go to the library, but just open it up to psalms. its about in the middle. bring a notebook and pen to write down your thoughts. and also, since you are confuzed, cry. alot. And pray. it will help. trust me.
Firstly, please dont be so hard on yourself. You're only 21, you're bound to be confused about what direction to take in your life, and you've got plenty of time to decide! I'm 27 and I have only just finished my degree, still dont really know what I want to do and I'm going travelling for a few months to get my head together. Most of my friends of a similar age hate their jobs or move between jobs, it's really not uncommon.
I think the key is to stop thinking about what you should be doing and start thinking about what you want to do. Do you want a career that helps people? Do you want to be a doctor, a writer, a singer, a carer, a chef, work in finance? What really interests you? The world is your oyster, you have plenty of choices. Do you want to go travelling maybe, rather than make a career decision? Is there something you'd like to study? You need a goal and direction in life that you passionately want to achieve - base this goal on your strengths and what you enjoy doing. Once you have a goal, all you need to do is plan how to get there. You may need to save up, get some work experience for it, start applying for jobs etc, but what you need to do will only become clear when you decide what you want out of life. Look for career guidance websites to get some ideas.
Good luck
listen! you first have to sit alone in a dark room. think what you are what you can do? what potential you have? what is your status in you society? how people take you? what people want you to do?
I hope your basic needs are being fulfilled, come out man after getting answer above mentioned..be socialist and then after you actualize your inside and yourself.
i bet there would be a way for you and a bright future. i dont what people think around you in US, but generally people do think they they do effect your life. listen people but do according to your potential.
best of luck
If you truly cannot find any job and you don't know what to do, there are a couple of options. You could apply for student loans that you don't need to pay off until you graduate. This is a good way to go if you are going to try to get into a nursing field or something. Usually you don't need that much money to make it through school and the job pays well.
Your other option is to join the military. I served on active duty for 6 years and made many friends and acquaintances who joined just because they didn't know what to do. It ended up being the best decision they ever made. If you want to avoid the war, then join the Navy or the Coast Guard, odds are you won't have to step foot in Iraq. You are still young so don't think that it's the end of the world.
Hi, im 21 years old too and i have days like this to. my boyfriend of 3 years is kind of dealing with what you are going through. I dont know really who you are and what your about but my bf was really smart in high school and he wants to go to school he just has no clue what for, so just because your not going to school you shouldnt beat yourself up about. a lot of people really dont know what they want to do with their life and sometimes its even better to wait then paying thousands of dollars for something your not even sure about. he also works at a job where he feels like hes going nowhere. So dont feel like your the only one. also i think your parents split up definatly impacts your not matter what you may think. this is a situation you kinda need to figure out on your own bc you know yourself the best. Think of what YOU really want in life, in my opinion if you want to go to school, go for what YOU want. also your parents relationship isnt your fault, i know its on your mind but NEVER blame yourself, it will only cause more problems for you. Your just in a rut and youll get out of it, your just a little lost and you will find yourself again. your not a loser either lol just because you have a part-time job and not currently going to school doesnt mean your a waste of life, your just unsure and alot of people are at 21 years old so dont think your the only one!! i hope this may cheer you up and give you some hope!
Ok look I am gonna be honest with you. Its time to finish growing up! Remember that it was your parents marriage not you that makes it so Mom is not there. But for what ever reason you now have to grow up and take care of yourself. Kick yourself in the butt tomorrow morning and go enroll in school, fill out a FAFSA and likely you will not need your Dad's /or Mom's income information at your age. So it will be based on your income alone. ( check with finanacial aid on that to be sure I believe you have to have filed your own income taxes three years to qualify) . Even if not it for sure will be enough to pay for tuition and books.
Why do this?
1. Its your life -your education- your future
2. You want to have nice things
3. You only have yourself to rely on now
4. Even if you dont know what you want to do yet - going to college for two years in a general education program can add as much as $500,000 to your pockets over your lifetime.
Taking a specific course for 4 years can add $1,000,000 to your pockets so is it worth it?
5. Ask the college about job opportunities-most have jobs for students!
6. The job will make it possible to move out on your own even if in a dorm, or with a roommate.
honey--don't feel bad, it took me until i was 35 to realize what i really wanted to do. you need to take a job so that you can bring home an income--take a job in anything as long as your paying the bills, it makes it easier. ck with the library and see if they have a book by Dan Miller titled "48 days to the work you love". i found it to be very helpful in figuring out what i really wanted to do and what i was passionate about. it's tough but everything will work out--i promise.
first of all your only twenty-one...you really don't have to quite know what to do with your life....but you should get out there..get a job or two to see what you like...maybe then go to school...i have 6 kids...last one just graduated from college...she changed majors alot of time...guess what she wants to be in management at WALMART!!!of all places...but she is happy and thats what she wants so go for it....get out and see the world...see what you like...where you like...your young...enjoy along the way...good luck...quit livin at the folks...thats gotta be a drag
Well, I think is either, you gave up or you are just to lazy to do something positive with your life.
I am assuming you have no kids therefore, it should be easier for you to accomplish your goals now.
The first thing you should do is go register yourself for the upcoming semester. Go do something you like to do. There are a lot of trade schools out there where you don't need to go to school for the full four years. Skip all that and take classes on something that you are really interested in, but make sure you stick to your commitment. Make sure you don't drop out or change your mind in the middle of everything. Always stay focused. Even if your mom is not always around, I am sure your mom will be proud because parents always want the best for their kids no matter the age. And you have to remember, they got divorced for a reason, and you weren't it, so let them live there lives if they are happier apart. Your parents divorce should be the reason why your life collapses plus keep in mind that you are already an ADULT, you don't need mommy to help you in your life decisions.
Second, you get yourself a part-time job, where it will be close to your home, that way you don't lose a lot of time and money on traveling. That will give you enough time when you have to do homework or study for a test. Don't look for something that will take your time and focus, because once you are done with school you can focus on finding a job well suited for whatever you graduated from.
I have a nephew your age....he has no clue what he wants to do from week to week...this week, he wants to be a bouncer (Wow, great life......:-(...Good luck with that....at least it unique.)
At your age you need to wear different hats...find out what you dislike, before you can find out what you do like!
When I was your age, I wanted to be an Astronomer...but then I came to the realization that I would be spending a ton of time on top of a mountain or in some cold place, only reasearching what I was told too and not being able to afford much, unless I got a job in a University teaching....That was just not the life style I wanted to have.
So ...find out what you don't like first!
(Had about 13 different jobs in my life...not including computers)
All that stuff you just said is really asking someone you don't know to tell you to GET IT TOGETHER AND DO IT, There, now you have my permission lol
No, seriously we all felt like that before and many times. But, when i do feel like that, I usually ask myself, "what is interesting to me or what am I really good at", and I start doing it, I mean literally do it, that's the only way my guilty feelings seem to fade little by little till i can stand myself :)
so I start to harmonize and put words to my harmony and I would sit down and write a complete song and start sending it places. Yeah I'm a songwriter Shh. When i know I put my work out there, it makes me feel like I really did do something to change my life for that time. Taking action, whether you succeed or not, at least you tried and you keep trying till you get what you want, because there is nothing in life we can't get if we don't put our minds to it.
So think about what you want to do right now and build from that and don't wait for the future, let the future wait for you.
I strongly suggest therapy. This is unusual behavior being that you are 21, not going to school, unmotivated, etc. Sounds like depression to me. Don't look away or you will be 40-50 years old and in worse shape then you are now. Do you want that, or would you prefer to pursue happiness and fulfillment? Click link for review of therapists in your area and get help today, you deserve happiness.
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well you probably souldnt be wasting your time on yahoo answers