How do you get over a painful past?!


Question: one day at a time, taking baby steps. go see a councilor, talk to your pastor, priest, etc, you have to get it out to get past it.

when my father died of cancer, i was devastated, lost, and felt so alone. i sunk in to 6 years of depression. my councilor asked me to write a letter to my dad to let it out. i did this weekly, and it seemed to help.

one of the letters, i put in the flower container on his grave. it was my final letter of me finilly having closure of his death, but not of the memories of his life. that was. 8 years ago, 6 years after his death.

i still miss my father, but i can function with out him now, i could not before. he was my superman, cancer was his kriptonite. it took a lot of patience, and small steps, but i let it go. so can you.

call your county health care agency, ask for the county mental health clinic, or ask for a referral to a free clinic, or low cost clinic. you can do it if i can. take care, barbara


Answers: one day at a time, taking baby steps. go see a councilor, talk to your pastor, priest, etc, you have to get it out to get past it.

when my father died of cancer, i was devastated, lost, and felt so alone. i sunk in to 6 years of depression. my councilor asked me to write a letter to my dad to let it out. i did this weekly, and it seemed to help.

one of the letters, i put in the flower container on his grave. it was my final letter of me finilly having closure of his death, but not of the memories of his life. that was. 8 years ago, 6 years after his death.

i still miss my father, but i can function with out him now, i could not before. he was my superman, cancer was his kriptonite. it took a lot of patience, and small steps, but i let it go. so can you.

call your county health care agency, ask for the county mental health clinic, or ask for a referral to a free clinic, or low cost clinic. you can do it if i can. take care, barbara

You have to pick yourself up and put yourself back out there...even with the possiblity of getting hurt again.

Join a gym, look for a new club to join, take a class at your local college or arts center. Meeting new people usually helps. The best way to get better is too move on; there will still be bad days, you just have to keep working on it. And it does take work!

If it's too that point, see a therapist.

Good Luck!

Cheese, wine and bubbles

It is hard to do but you just keep going. You will never forget things that hurt you but it makes you stronger to presevere. I have been through many heartaches including losing my husband a few years ago raising a two year old on my own. It gets overwhelming and hard at times but I have to keep things in perspective and change how I react to things or I will sink. You just keep going no matter what. Good Luck to you!

You will never be able to be completely over it, because your past is part of your life. But that doesn't mean you can get past it, & make your life better. Time is the biggest tool you will need to get through painful memories. You also need to remember that the past is the past, you cannot go back & change it, so you must accept it & move on.
Good Luck

It is such a general question that it is tough to give an accurate answer as, in life, there are so many problems that we may have to face and the way to deal with them depends on the problem and most of all, on ourselves.

I like the answer about joining a club. No matter what has happened in life, who you have lost or the terrible things that you have seen, YOU need to carry on. Let your problems make you stronger and continue with your life.

I wish you all the luck in world. Wish I could help if I could.

Remember, you can not help take car of others unless you take care of yourself first,

Take care.

Metta!

Breath out and breath in slowly.
Knowing that you're breathing.

Pain causes by not getting what we wanted.
Both sides or single side, however, if the wishes were not fulfilled, someone is going to be hurt.

Don't cling to the lost or the pain but think of it as another natural event. Nothing lasts forever... even your inhale or exhale. Even a city, a planet, a sun, etc...

Cherish what you have, make the best out of it.

I don't know what kind of pain you're experiencing, I know pain and I accept it as a part of life. Then I don't like to be in pain so I let it go.

Hope you see what I'm trying to say. You can e-mail me if you want to discuss further more.

Hope you feel lesser pain because someone who doesn't know you... care.

May you be happy!

talk about it.





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