My poor friend is clueless...?!


Question: i was pissed off at her and after i said something really condescending and cold she couldn't pick up on it at all! it just shocked me. it just made me forget everything, i couldn't even be angry at her anymore. she can never pick up on sarcasm and is always last to understand jokes, she's really impractical as well.

my question: do you think she could have some sort of mild mental disorder or are a lot of people like this?


Answers: i was pissed off at her and after i said something really condescending and cold she couldn't pick up on it at all! it just shocked me. it just made me forget everything, i couldn't even be angry at her anymore. she can never pick up on sarcasm and is always last to understand jokes, she's really impractical as well.

my question: do you think she could have some sort of mild mental disorder or are a lot of people like this?

Oh darling , there are alot of people that aren't very quick to understand. It does not mean there is anything mentally wrong with them, they are who they are., we want them to be more street smart, but they aren't and there is nothing we can do. I find myself sometimes feeling superior to those that are alittle slower and are not as quick witted, then I turn around and get angry with myself for feeling that way. No everyone has that trait., some are just slower than others,. we just have to bare with them, what kind of friend would we be if we just blew them off because they are alittle slower. I always thought too, if they stay around me long enough, some of me just might rub off on them, aren't I terrible but I have thought it..Just continue being her friend and try to look out for her if you can. After all, that is friends do!

Don't talk like that about the President's wife!

naw some people get sarcasm confused with the real thing

No, but i think you have some anger issues.

Perhaps your friend is ABOVE paying attention to people who make snide and rude remarks?

and you aren't her friend... friends don't treat each other like crap.

Maybe, but she probably just has a different mind set than you. I know plenty of SMART people that often "just don't get it" but they seem okay. Kinda worrying though.

She Could Just Be Dumb Lol.

I think you may have really hurt her and she just did not want to face that maybe you have a mental illness and should seek anger management or anti depressants

umm mabey shes just not the quickest at jokes some people just don't get that stuff it doesn't mean she has a mental disorder

Well if you think she is retarded y are u making fun of retarded people? Thats not very nice! then again maybe she is just serious?? OoRR she has selective hearing? and she doesnt want to hear you ***** so she tunes you out??? hmmmm

theyre just ditsy. if its really bad, then yes maybe sh has something mild, but i have a few friends who are at least average intelligence but do/say really dumb things all the time

No- sometimes people are just clueless. or else they pretend not to notice when someone is being mean. if this person is your "friend" maybe you should stop trying to idetify her as having a "mental illness" and start just excepting her for who she is. for eg. I have a friend who hates fighting- whenever I use to get mad at her she would ignore that I was mad and just keeping talking to me and acting like everything was normal- eventually i thought thats just the way she was and never really got mad at her. you should just try and focus on her positives.

Sounds like she either bottles it up inside or couldn't think of you as being condescending or cold.

There are some people, myself included, who are socially incapable of "reading signals". While I hold a degree from university, have been extensively published and ran my own theatre company for a number of years, I am considered "socially clueless". I understand I have this problem and have taken measures to avoid potentially bad situations by alerting my friends to this problem. They run interference when a situation looks like it could be troublesome for me.

The reason for my social problems stem from a lack of proper interaction with my parents, sibilings and peers at a very young age. Lack of play and stimulation often lead to this problem. Also, this is a behaviour that is sometimes seen in those who have been through trauma or abuse. Usually at an early age.

my sister was always an 'A' student, super smart with books and studing, i would tell a joke, i would always have to explain it to her in detail, it took all the fun out of it. but to top it all off, she would never laugh at the joke....personally, it drove me nuts, i quit telling her jokes.
though she was smart as a whip.

Your friend may have simply not grasped what you were saying because she was not really, really listening at that moment. She may not pick up on sarcasm or jokes because of not listening or it just is not fitting in with her view of the world. A world she has probably very carefully created since she was a child. It could very well be she is impractical because again...she lives in the unreal.
It is a personality trait , maybe a mental issue if she is just unable to cope....probably not an intelligence problem.





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