How do you get past the pain of child abuse?!
Question: I just can't seem to move on. I keep having flashbacks and nightmares. I am in counseling and on Prozac. It is constant struggle, that I deal with every day. I have tried contacting my father(or lack of a better word) and he never gets back to me. These flashbacks are so painful, seeing what he has done to me, stealing my childhood and innocence. It is just so painful. How do I deal with this?
Answers: I just can't seem to move on. I keep having flashbacks and nightmares. I am in counseling and on Prozac. It is constant struggle, that I deal with every day. I have tried contacting my father(or lack of a better word) and he never gets back to me. These flashbacks are so painful, seeing what he has done to me, stealing my childhood and innocence. It is just so painful. How do I deal with this?
When you have been disociative for a long time and then you start recovering abuse memories, it is very painful and can be debilitating at times. It does get better. The more you remember, the more you begin to realize what a strong soul you are to have survived such an experience. You also begin to realize that the people who abused you were abused themselves but were not strong enough to heal. You begin to see the degree of THEIR pain and have some empathy for them. That doesn't mean you ever have to have them in your life again. Sometimes a confrontation with your abuser can be helpful and at other times it can make things worse. I would recomend healing yourself fo awhile before you deal with your dad. When I confronted my mom about sexually abusing me she told me that it never happened and that my therapist planted those memories in my head. This set me back for a while. Get the book, "The Courage to Heal" and see a therapist regularly. I wish you the peace I wish for myself.
It looks like your suffering from post traumatic stress disorder too.
You will need counseling and professional support to help you deal with everything that has happened to you in your life.
i feel your pain emily.the only thing i can share with you is let go of your pain by accepting God to help you with the trials.He will take the burden off your heart.begin by praying talk to Him by heart. if you need some one to talk or chat in the net you can email me emraenvid70@yahoo.com then we can go from there.hope i can be an instrument of God to lessen your pain.take care.God bless!!!
wll i was abused nd moved in with my grandparents and now i live the perfect life
when i have these flashbaks i just remmeber it a a piece locked away in the past
Flashbacks are painful, but in time they will be easier to handle. Do you think talking to your father would help? Maybe you should ask your counsellor about that before you do it. Time and intense counselling will take care of it. Try going for walks, exercising and listening to music to ease some of the pain. May God be with you.
I grieve for your situation. The same thing happened to me and it was not until I was forty that I realized I was always abused by one of my parents and I believe it effected my whole life. I could have done so much better had it not happened. There is no way to deal with it except not thinking about it. Remember in "Good Will Hunting" when the doctor said "It is not your fault"
getting past the pain is hard i have been there I am trying to deal with it still but the biggest hurdle I overcame by forgivving the person who hurt me.... I came to realize its not my sh*t .. its theirs and they are the ones who need help... .. then instead of going to talk to a therapist one on one I found group therapy the best most people there were going thru same thing so I wasnt alone... good luck , it gets easier if u want it too