How do i help a teenager that cuts her self?!
Question: You need to get her to help before (god forbid) she cuts in the right place and dies...If she doesnt want to go for help... If she cuts alot but doesnt die...she most likey doesnt wanna die she just wants to cause pain to release mental pain...
If that is the case here a list of thing that she can do to hurt herself without any risk of death or serious blood loss and also infection
Snap a rubber band on your wrist...wear the rubber band always
Put an ice cube on your wrist.
You can even pinch
She can also squeeze a stress ball
She can sit and relax in a bathtub for a while (with razors gone and out of reach so there is no temptation
She can just snuggle up tight in a warm blanket
have her talk to you or someone she trusts about her problems on her mind
If NONE of these work...then get medical help or a therapist...if things get out of controll dont hesitate to call 9-1-1 or you emergency hot line...look in your phone book in the yellow pages or in the front for a suicide prevention hotline
Good Luck and god bless
RubbaBubba
Answers: You need to get her to help before (god forbid) she cuts in the right place and dies...If she doesnt want to go for help... If she cuts alot but doesnt die...she most likey doesnt wanna die she just wants to cause pain to release mental pain...
If that is the case here a list of thing that she can do to hurt herself without any risk of death or serious blood loss and also infection
Snap a rubber band on your wrist...wear the rubber band always
Put an ice cube on your wrist.
You can even pinch
She can also squeeze a stress ball
She can sit and relax in a bathtub for a while (with razors gone and out of reach so there is no temptation
She can just snuggle up tight in a warm blanket
have her talk to you or someone she trusts about her problems on her mind
If NONE of these work...then get medical help or a therapist...if things get out of controll dont hesitate to call 9-1-1 or you emergency hot line...look in your phone book in the yellow pages or in the front for a suicide prevention hotline
Good Luck and god bless
RubbaBubba
www.twloha.com
ask her to prom so she won't be so lonely
tell a counselor, or a parent, who can help, but be sure and tell them that you came on your own, and getting mad at the teen could only make it worse, and the person might be made, but in the long run, it will be okay.
Get her to a psychiatrist. It's a form of ocd. They have meds that can help with that.
are you helping her cut herself? if so, buy here a knife?
If you are trying to help her stop, maybe some type active communication with her. Be her friend, let her know that you are there for her and that you care. Listen, learn, and react.
listen to them! your child/teen is going thru something & its their way of dealing with whatever it maybe. start by listening & try to figure out what is going on. one thing to not do is tell them not to cut, they most likely will do it anyways, which could be worse. & sometimes its not attention seeking like others day. there are other ways a kid can gain attention. cutting is more into problems. i cut, its not for attention, its cuz im hurting inside. depends on how a person feels i guess. good luck.
this video might help.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=ZdT0YItIJnc
Google this, i did a project on it for fccla, but you need professional help.
from a former cutter, don't be freaked out, be concerned.
thats why you cut, for attention, you want some one too see that theres something inside hurting you.
by going to a responsible adult
You can try to talk to her to find out why, but someone HAS to be informed as most people that do this either do not think they are worthy of living or get to like and enjoy the pain where they can not do without it. She honestly needs serious help.
Band-Aids, a straight jacket and counciling.
See self harm, in section 16, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Print/refer, and advise her to contact them, when she feels the need to cut, and to seek therapy.
i used to do this.
i did it to vent my anger. i guess it depends on why she is doing it.
she might just want attention, be depressed and not know what to do, she might feel numb...there are many reasons.
However, what she really needs is for people to show her that they really care about her and she's not alone. She needs to discover something that she's good at or that she enjoys doing. She needs people who want to spend time with her and not ridicule her.
I hope she gets better. In reality, cutting doesn't do anything except give you scars that will be a constant reminder of what you're going through at that time.
Talk to her and try and get her to open up to her parents and if that is not an option, a trusted teacher or clergy member. This girl needs HELP and is in a lot of pain emotionally and obviously physical pain. There is help out there....My niece was a cutter. Here is a site that may offer some help and insight.
Deal with the problem that is causing it. You don't say but it's mostly likely depression. Other things like hallucinations, Body Dysmorphic Disorder, etc, can cause it but in the end whatever the problem is that's causing it needs help. In the short term try to provide some stress relief. Cutting usually comes from a sense of frustration.
Trying to physically stop it isn't going to be as effective as you think. Body checks usually just result in better hiding of the cuts and may go as far as internal cutting like labia or tongue.
She needs a psychiatrist to help her. What you can do is try to get her to one. If her parents don't know about this, they should. Best of luck.
As someone who works in 911, get her some help, it is a very very serious problem with todays youth. It is a form of self mutilation that only leads to more serious issues. Most of the time there is an underlying issue that is the stressor. Be a friend and get them some help. God bless and good luck
Its hard but telling someone is the best, and this is coming from someone who not only had to deal with friends cutting for a few years but I ended up as a cutter myself. The best thing you can do is talk to someone who can confront them and get them professional help. Best people to tell would be her guidance counseler or her parents. That way they can diagnois why shes cutting whether she has emotional problems or shes depressed or something tramatic happened in her past. Whatever the reason, she can get help resolving that and then be helped to stop the urges of cutting and make sure she doesn't relapse and stuff.
Please remember that self injurious behavior is because someone is not able to express their feelings .It is a way to cope with stress, and helps her feel better, in a unhealthy way. It is similar to a person who has a drinking problem.
You need to build a trust level with the cutter. She needs support and understanding. Not criticism.
She needs to learn healthier coping skills. It takes time and patience. Learn to be a good listener, and if you can get her into a therapy.
Self injury can escalate and it can be a problem for many years that will not just go away on it's own.
get her to see a psychotherapist or psychologist or doc. Self mutilation is an addiction. It's hard to stop, I've been doing it for several years, I finally lessened the cuts to 1 every 3 months or so while I was in therapy. But a year after therapy stopped i started again. Just get her to a doctor and they will help. The rubberband trick is ok. now this may seem off but get her to replace blades and knives with maybe a pin. yea its not good but a pin scratch is honestly better than having a gash =(
i'm assuming this is either your daughter or some 1 who are close too, and for that i'm sorry to hear about this. I have personally been there myself, i started when i was just 14 years old, my parents tried to help/stop me but at same time didnt know how to be there for me or what to do so pretty much turned a blind eye. If i was to suggest anything it would be not to lecture her, do not get angry, try to look into her life as see if you can see any of her problems, and help if you can. Talk to her but do not lecture, tell her you will not judge her or think differently of her etc, tell her she is not alone and that if she wants to stop there is help out there. she will not stop until SHE is ready. hope this helps
Ask them if they can tell you why they do it, whats happening before, during and after she cuts. Its best to seek help from a psychologist or counsellor
Tell her to grow up and stop being an attention seeker