My mom is making me see this therapist and i dont like her....please help???!
Question: i have seen a therapist for the bast year because i have anxiety. i havent been to one since the summer because i was doing better but i hate gym class alot so she is making me see another one. i thought whatever at first. but once i met the lady i just dont like her i dont know why she just scares me kind of. i dont have a reason for not likeing her i just dont and my mom is like why? and i keep saying i dont know because i honestly dont and then my mom said whatever you are still going. i am terrified of going i am even starting to cry about it and my parents are threatening to take my horse away if i dont go. i dont know what to do i dont want to go back there what should i do?
Answers: i have seen a therapist for the bast year because i have anxiety. i havent been to one since the summer because i was doing better but i hate gym class alot so she is making me see another one. i thought whatever at first. but once i met the lady i just dont like her i dont know why she just scares me kind of. i dont have a reason for not likeing her i just dont and my mom is like why? and i keep saying i dont know because i honestly dont and then my mom said whatever you are still going. i am terrified of going i am even starting to cry about it and my parents are threatening to take my horse away if i dont go. i dont know what to do i dont want to go back there what should i do?
Have your parents talk to someone who's has a child in therapy so that they really understand what the outcome should be. I have a 15 year old daughter and I would never force her to go to a therapist that she didn't get along with because there would be no sense as no progress would get made. Have your parents contact someone one this site who has some experience dealing with teens and therapy. They may not really understand what the therapeutic relationship should be. They may just think that you're being stubborn and willful because you don't want to go to therapy. Have them read some of the answers that you get and see if that helps and ask them to post a question form their point of view and see what answers that they get. It might help them to see things in a different way.
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Why is your mom making you see a new one, it seems to me if the first one helped then go back to that person. Your mom should understand you are not going to get any help if you go in with your mind closed. There are many therapists out there, find someone you like and trust.
Thats horrible. I would kill the person that tried to take my horse away from me...
Just go, that is really odd your mom is FORCING you to go, but just go. Smile. Take deep breaths.
Gym class is a part of growing up. I didn't like it either when I was in school.
You're just having normal teenage problems hun.
Do what mom says, be nice, and you will get to keep your horse.
Tell your mom that their is something in your gut that makes you uneasy to talk to this therapist, and that you would be willing to see a different one with no problem. You might mention that if you are uneasy with this person then nothing will get accomplished in these sessions and she would be wasting her money.
You have a right to feel comfortable with your therapist! And am I right you are going because your parents make you? And because you feel weird in gym class?
I don't know your parents or your particular situation but if your therapist is worth her salt you can tell her how you feel!
She will understand and help find another colleague who you feel comfortable with.
Most of my therapists have truly been nothing but confusing and queer in behavior. What I found out by going to them is if you talk about something they know about they seem to come around and be more pleasing and helpful. They simply go by the books with behavior and try to fit you into some kind of textbook behavior. Thy are human too so try to find something in common with her like dogs, favorite music or something to make her come around to like you. It's not intentional. She's not doing it to hurt you.
Tell a school counselor, and tell them not to talk to your parents, but, let them know you are very upset about this therapist, and ask for their advice. Another option: Talk to your local hospital, call them I mean, and ask them if they know of any free services for counseling, your parents should approve of that, then they won't have to pay very much money, or none at all. If you want to keep this all confidential, talk to the hospital, and tell them about your concerns, and problems. My friend did this and he has anxiety, and other troubles, the hospital helped him a great deal...Good luck and God Bless...
tell mom that you didn't hit it off, and can you try another one ,,, i don't understand what the big deal is,,, you have to see her and feel comfortable with her not your mom tell her,,, im sure you see a doctor tell him how you feel,
I hated my therapist when I first started going to her too. My original one left because another family member was ill, and I was assigned this one. I felt she couldn't help me at all. After sometime though, I found out she was doing the"right" things for me, because I started finding answers to things that had always puzzled me about my life . You could always discuss with your therapist and your parents any problems you are having and see if you could go to another one. The one you have might not be right for you.
I am SO with you. The next time by therapist & my mom gang up on me I am going to say Eff You witches, walk out & I don't care what happens. I sympathize but my therapist IS a btch!
remember:
everything will be ok.
think of it this way: is there anything inside you that you need to say, that you're bursting with, or that you just need to process verbally? every time you go to the therapist lady, close your eyes and start saying it. don't worry about what she will think or will ask you. imagine her as like a diary, almost, only one that can help you with your problems.
some therapists just don't click, and that's fine, maybe you could ask your 'rents if they would find you another to try. but if you're being forced to go to this one, chill out, and see it as an opportunity to shake off your fears and process your emotions. think of it as something to help yourself, rather than something involving another person.
First, let me tell you something..........therapy is the most difficult and most painful and most frightening thing I have ever endured in my whole life. So you are not alone. After many years of therapy, I look back now and I see that it was worth it. The old thoughts, negative things, anxiety and feeling worthless have all gone away. Therapy did that for me.
I don't know how old you are, but I take it you are under the age where you ca manage your own care. That is a pity because I think having more freedom would be good for you. Maybe your mum has never experienced the difficulties of therapy? Maybe that's wy she doesn't understand........If she had, she would never threaten you with taking stuff from you due to your fears and concerns.
I can make a few suggestions for you that may help you through - they helped me anyway:
1. Write to your therapist and explain exactly how you are feeling. I did this many, many times.........it was so useful. i just concentrated on how I was feeling, and I was truthful about it. That may lead your therapist to be able to help you more............
2. Whatever happens, whether you talk or write, make sure the therapist knows what's happening at home. Many consider therapy for children under 18 should include a family member for at least some sessions. If your Mum could learn how to support you, I think your progress would be much faster and easier for you............
3. Being anxious - the reason you are in therapy - is a terrible feeling. It can wreck your life. I would compare it to carrying a heavy rucksack on your back all the time. You deserve to be able to leave it down, relax, and experience the joy of living. It's hard for you to see it now, because you are unhappy and sad and maybe fearful, but by continuing in therapy, you will achieve great things for yourself
I think you should have a serious talk with your parents about it. I dont understand how they can send you to therapy for anxiety because you dont like your gym class but they won't send you to another therapist because you don't like your current one.. wouldn't that spark your anxiety too? Explain to them that you don't have good feelings about you therapist and let them know that if you dont feel comfortable with her that no progress is going to be made. If your afraid to talk try writing a letter to your parents or even to your therapist telling her that you feel uneasy around her. Maybe she will refer you to someone else. Or maybe your parents will get you a new therapist.. hope everything works out.
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