How do you deal with your violent emotions...?!
Question: ...of anxiety and fear. I hear they're really there for our help and protection but I'm sort of afraid of blowing it as a parent.
Answers: ...of anxiety and fear. I hear they're really there for our help and protection but I'm sort of afraid of blowing it as a parent.
Breathing. When you feel fear or anxiety coming on, settle yourself, if you're in a position to, relax for even just a few minutes, and breathe in slowly through your nose and then slowly out your mouth for a duration four times your inhalation. This rhythm puts your body into a state of relaxation, from which you can then rationally order your thoughts, make up your mind and decide on a rational action in response to your problem. This also gives you the time to go slow and think before you act irrationally on fear or anxiety. Fear and anxiety are reminders that tell you you're not living in the present moment and reacting appropriately to the circumstances facing you, but fixating either on a failure from the past or a fear of failure in the future. There is no situation that you face that can't be tackled without giving in to fear, anxiety, or anger. Think of it as a battle for control of your mind and heart, and the enemy is the negative emotion that wants to take control of you, and you have to fight not to let it win. It's hard, it takes a lot of practice and discipline, but i've been working at it diligently for five years now and have reached a state where even when things try to take me by surprise, i find myself instinctively prepared to deal with it.
don't cut ourself it don't work (that good)
so just talk to someone
a little pill called zanax. take only as needed and a lot of deep breaths, and just do the best you can
I deal with my violent emotions by writing in my journal. I tell it like it is and dont hold anything back. If I am not able to get to write then I remove myself from that situation no matter what I am doing. I have almost been fired so many times for getting frustrated and going to cool off for 10 or 15 minutes. sometimes that is needed, I just need to remove myself from anyone around and cool off.
Cant hurt anyone if you are alone. Then when i go back usually the person I am mad at gets the point and if he/she doesnt then I stay away from them. I write about it in my journal later though, eventually everything gets written, lol
Something else that calms me down is driving, just getting on the freeway and listening to music low enough to hear and just cruise, turn off on a street I havent been on. I will sometimes find a park and just take a short walk to clear my head. driving seems to calm me down, If I am too mad to drive then I go lay down, never driven when it wasnt safe to do so though.
Hope this helps, finding a way to vent your anger without violence is always a good thing.
Voilent emotions arose when you dont take control of your mind. You really need to work towords that,when ever you feel that emotion just start taking deep breath and affirm your self that you will calm down and drink cup of water and eat a spoon of sugar and enjoy the sweet ness. Just bring the same sweet ness to the situation and the whole environment becomes sweet and alas!! everything under control.
join groups and get support,IM me when you need me