Cutting? Urgent, please help me!?!
Question: okay, for the past year, i have been cutting myself. Never enough to seriously hurt myself, the cuts never even bleed. I have severe depression and i cant take the world around me at times. I told my friends i had stopped, and i did for 6 months, now i've found myself doing it again. One of my closer friends just found out, and it was so hard explaining to her, bcuz her mom has cancer, so i felt so guilty when she found out. I don't know what to do now. I feel like i've screwed up everything, and i think she might tell people, and then rumors will spread. She wouldnt do that intentionally, but u know how those things happen...
My question is..what should i do? I'm seeing a counselor, but it isnt helping me at all. I cant talk to my parents about thatm bcuz they'll get really mad, and probably throw me out of the house. What would u do if this was u? Please help...
Answers: okay, for the past year, i have been cutting myself. Never enough to seriously hurt myself, the cuts never even bleed. I have severe depression and i cant take the world around me at times. I told my friends i had stopped, and i did for 6 months, now i've found myself doing it again. One of my closer friends just found out, and it was so hard explaining to her, bcuz her mom has cancer, so i felt so guilty when she found out. I don't know what to do now. I feel like i've screwed up everything, and i think she might tell people, and then rumors will spread. She wouldnt do that intentionally, but u know how those things happen...
My question is..what should i do? I'm seeing a counselor, but it isnt helping me at all. I cant talk to my parents about thatm bcuz they'll get really mad, and probably throw me out of the house. What would u do if this was u? Please help...
I used to be a cutter and it was extremely hard to stop
But the only way to stop is to find the strength from within. Once you are determined to do it you will.
Don't beat your self up if you relapse. Every one makes mistakes and its part of your condition.
A lot of time I would cut because my depression would be so intense that I would become numb or overwhelmed. Like a panic attack with depression. I had to find the root of y depression. What event in my life made me so sad? I had to talk about them and take accountability for my faults as well as recognize when other people did me wrong and forgive them/move on.
I had to be extremely honest with my self. What did I gain from cutting and how could I get that with out hurting my self? I gained "control of my emotions" which wasn't true but thats what I thought and so I had to gain control of my feelings by recognizing them and just letting my self feel. The more you let your self feel and let go of control you feel more in control and calm. Thats hard to explain but if you have the help of a counselor to guide you through this, thats great.
I also had to stop all the other addictive and harmful behaviors to really be able to get to the real problems. No drugs, no running away, no lying, and not surrounding my self with destructive people.
Stick in there, stay strong. I PROMISE things will get better. nothing stays the same, things will get better and then worse again but every time the hard parts will get easier to deal with.
Some of the most amazing people come from back ground of mental illness and addictions. Its overcoming your faults that give you the strength and experience to be an amazing person.
Your prolly not cutting yourself deep. enough. umm...to start. Throw away your razorblades/knife. It really isnt worth it.
I would tell them to stop bothering me because I have enough problems without having to worry about you also, and to be honest, you're making me want to cut myself right now. I'm trying to work with this on my own, but please, just lay off because you're making it worse. (Actually, I've said that exact same thing before...)
well if u tell ur parents they will realize they are really making you upset, and will try to stop. you are proably a really pessimistic person, so try to look at life on the bright side of things. enjoy your youth before its too late. Listen to "The Sunscreen Song" by Baz Luhrmann on youtube
I use to cut myself. My counselor suggested many things but the one that set me straight was the threat of being put in the hospital. Talk to your counselor! She should be more concerned!
i dont know if this will help but try it- instead of cutting put a rubberband around your wrist. when you get the urge to cut snap the band against your wrist instead. its supposed to be a theriputic tecnique. try that and see if it helps.I would also suggest going to some support groups. they really do help. Best wishes and get better :)
I think instead of cutting yourself, do other things that make you feel alive & happy to be alive.
I used to cut myself quite a bit, & i realized that nobody from the outside could help me. I had to help myself from the inside.
You need to do whatever it takes to stop and get this under control. Even if it means telling your parents, they may be upset or get angry but they might also be able to get you help. This IS serious and before you know it, you'll have scars that you can't hide, and you'll always find new places on your body were you think no one will ever see, but they know. I'm 31, and have been doing self harm for a really long time, and it doesn't go away, it becomes your only way to take control over "unwanted" emotions, it becomes a life line, you'll tell yourself one cut and you'll be fine.. but you can't stop at one. You'll tell your self at least I'll stay alive if I cut, but your life becomes cutting, and thats all you'll ever have in coping with every day situations, please take my advice and get help NOW!!!!!!!!! I only wish I could turn back time.
Shawny
u need to get a psychiatrsit or a new BETTER counselor and have the desire to change! good luck and stop this by avoiding the tempatations even if it means getting rid of razors and teh otehr thing s u have used. And if its ur naisl cut them, if its a knife get it out of ur room etc.