I need some help and advice?!
Question: Im 16 and currently going through loads of ups and downs in my mind. I dont know whats wrong with me but i feel like no-one else is going through it. Somedays i feel good other days like today i feel ugly, unliked, inadequate and i feel like theres nothing good about myself. Has anyone got any advice,
Cheers :)
Answers: Im 16 and currently going through loads of ups and downs in my mind. I dont know whats wrong with me but i feel like no-one else is going through it. Somedays i feel good other days like today i feel ugly, unliked, inadequate and i feel like theres nothing good about myself. Has anyone got any advice,
Cheers :)
I know what you're feeling.
Am I to understand that these feelings generally occur during your school time? If so, I'm going to assume it is the other students that give you these ups and downs.
You may be feeling this way due to the treatment you receive by the other students. I don't actually know what days have set you in these feelings, but your general perspective of yourself might be being too much reflected in the perspective of others ... or in other words or similar, your self esteem.
Say for example some girl walks past you but doesn't make eye contact, you may possibly interpret that as she doesn't like you/ doesn't find you attractive or aren't worthy enough person, therefore, you get negative feelings about yourself. Or like on your good days, someone may eye you up all day making yourself feel more attractive.
You have to know who you are, regardless of what other people think of you. Don't let them shape you or make you think otherwise about yourself ... most of them are out to do it in their own defense of feeling the same way.
Hold strong mate and know who you are.
I feel like that every day too, nothing helps. The only thing that really helped was a sociologist. But it is lots of money.
Don't worry about it. What you are going through is normal. It's called hormones. You will go through this for a few more years, then everything will calm down. Your body is changing inside which makes hormone levels change also. It's a natural process of growing up to adulthood. So, don't worry. Just be glad your normal.
Well, there's a lot going on in your mind when you are that age. There's hormonal and neurological changes going on inside you, and you're trying to develop your own identity while also trying to fit in and be popular.
You could try writing a list of good things about yourself or good things that you did today.
Good luck,
Dana (M.S. Mental Health Counseling)