How do you get a guys?!
Question: How can you get a 23 year old guys confidence up and thier self-esteem up and get them to believe in them self again while they think they have failed everything in their life and them thinking they are just a failure?
Answers: How can you get a 23 year old guys confidence up and thier self-esteem up and get them to believe in them self again while they think they have failed everything in their life and them thinking they are just a failure?
By showing your love towards him, and by talking to him and making him look at the positive aspects of his personality.
Additionally, as he has "failed everything in their life", he might essentially be working for himself and his loved-ones only, which is what most of us do and is termed selfishness. People often fail when they keep on working only for themselves.
Ask him to work for society by becoming a social entreprenur, to invent inexpensive things that make people's lives useful, etc. (I suppose that he's a technologically educated person, if not ask him to learn). That way he will become a boon for his family and friends as well as for the society. This will make his self-esteem go up as he would have found a new purpose for his life. Ask him to do yoga and meditation as they will reduce his depression and increase focus on positive things.
It's nice to see that still there are people like you who want to help others. Good Luck!
Once lost it can be very hard to regain.
Sometimes you have to step in the opposite direction. Take your first step without seeing the staircase. Do what you love to do in life. One great cause of failure is lack of concentration.
Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless--like water.
Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup,
You put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle,
You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot.
Now water can *flow* or it can *crash*!
Be water, my friend.
-- Bruce Lee