Son into drugs?!
Question: i know most say turn away and kick them out blah blah, our son is 22 yrs old, had health issues (bad heart) and he hates the world because of it, he has turned to a few bad kids (2) and i belive crack cocaine. I have put him in a rehab before, he must of fell off the wagon.My question here is !!! what way can i get him in a 6 month res rehab , can i take him to court and force it ,( due to using the law as he is harming himself and CAN harm others ) or sit and wait for police to come to my door and say come to the morgue we need idenity of a kid. walking away from an addict only adds death or trouble, as a parent there is a responsib, to try and SAVE a kid who doesnt know what their doing. and his habbit his FRIENDS (2 of em) help him . they . and NO i cant stop a 22 year old from having who he has in his house.. i am not responsible for his freind and NO i dont want police involved, jail does not SOLVE the probelm , root of prob is it. fix
Answers: i know most say turn away and kick them out blah blah, our son is 22 yrs old, had health issues (bad heart) and he hates the world because of it, he has turned to a few bad kids (2) and i belive crack cocaine. I have put him in a rehab before, he must of fell off the wagon.My question here is !!! what way can i get him in a 6 month res rehab , can i take him to court and force it ,( due to using the law as he is harming himself and CAN harm others ) or sit and wait for police to come to my door and say come to the morgue we need idenity of a kid. walking away from an addict only adds death or trouble, as a parent there is a responsib, to try and SAVE a kid who doesnt know what their doing. and his habbit his FRIENDS (2 of em) help him . they . and NO i cant stop a 22 year old from having who he has in his house.. i am not responsible for his freind and NO i dont want police involved, jail does not SOLVE the probelm , root of prob is it. fix
First of all i have a few things to say,, Your good parents, and im sry for I completely knowing what your going thru.. my son is 23! he also moved out an has his own place and does what he does! he moved to a different state so i cant do anything to him to help, but he keeps in contact all the time now. Here in my state all i have to do is sign papers to the mental health hospital and they will pick him up, keep him for 3-10 days. depending on how many people will be a witness for me and what they find in his blood. and yes they can dry him out and keep him clean while he is in there, but nothing an honey i mean nothing will keep him clean, but him! He has to want to do this for himself not for anyone else. My suggestions are NOT to give him money ever! if he's hungry feed him and give him food to take home, be there for him like u are right now. But we have no guarntees that our love is strong enough to keep him out of jail and out of the morgue! My son's friend overdosed and i called my son SCREAMING at him and attacking him verbally telling him that i will without a doubt call his doctor,,< to have his meds removed from him. I told him that everyone in the family specially his grandparents are going to know everything that i keep to myself. an ohhh so much more, and i scared him out of his mind!! now these days that i know of he's drinking still with his meds. he's not into anything big like crack or coke or injecting himself as needles scare him <thank god>your son as mine did has to hit rock bottom.. by himself!! tough love i guess they call it that but i think its horrible even tho it works! My son drank and drove and hurt himself and some girls car, he was taken to jail an was sued for the car! 40.000 of damage he caused and i wont and havent helped him one bit, he lost his license an had to go to drug and AA meetings as he did complete. He has a year from November to go without his license. But i know it doesnt stop him from driving!! Im sry for u, as i am for me and im more sry for our children, but dont give up on him. but when he does fall down hard, dont pick him up so easy, we learn from our mistakes, as u know... sometimes they have to too,,good luck to u, i will say a prayer for him and for you guys tooo,,,If my son didnt move he would of been in the mental health hospital until they were sick of seeing me!!!!!!lol take care ok x0x0x0x
bonnie j
Many people turn to drugs when they feel that there is something in their life that is insignicant, or perhaps they feel insignificant. Perhaps you can provide, or turn him to something that can show him that there is something. Maybe introduce him to a new girl, introduce him to a instrument....he's 22, but you're still his mom.
Well, call the cops. Do it anon. I'm not saying spy on him but if he comes home for a visit and starts doing stuff, call it out. You can't make him do anything and you can't control him, either. You have to show him by your example to not hate the world, no matter how old he happens to be. I worked in a clinic with a lot of rehab people--those who were on probation, who had been in jail, and frankly--jail helped them a lot. There's a lot of rehab programs in jail that REALLY sober people up. They can go through a lot of problems in their lives--what they're doing, how they can change it around. If you really care about your son, you'll do what you can to help him, and leave the rest up to God. Honestly, if you care enough to be worried, care enough to do what it takes to stop it--even if it doesn't sound like the nicest things.
No jail, I guess your on your own. If Jail and rehab won't get through to your child then why do you think you can? I'm very sorry you have to go though this but you really need to think about your son, not about you keeping him out of jail at all costs.
Kudos for you for not walking away from him. You sound like a very strong parent because most would just walk away. Good luck...!
Well, you can try to help all you want but, most people don't realize that they need to change unless they hit rockbottom and want to change on their own. It totally sucks but that's what I've noticed anyways. =/
Your son is 22 years old. Unless he is retarted or educably slow....let him go. Be a good mother. Be kind. But DON'T give him money at all. Don't be an enabler.
He will have to make up his own mind to straighten up.
I have 4 grown children and I'm NOT going to live my life worrying about them. They know where I am if they need me. I'll help them but I will not force my help. I'll not give my grown children money. I might possibly buy an item they need but they are GROWN.
Yes, they may die....and so may I. It is as much their place to love and care for me as it is my place to love and care from them. It should be mutual.
And, I can stop anyone I want from coming into MY house. As long as we pay the bills.....we have a say.
And, jail can solve a multitude of problems. I did have one son who went to jail....it literally changed his life. He is a decent citizen now and before he was on his way to drug addiction.
I'm the president of the straightedge club at my school.
What we try to do is support the person emotionally so he or she won't feel like the world is against him or her. So my advice is this: don't try to control him, or pretend you're not controlling him even if you're trying to.
Most people get into drugs because of emotional problems, so tackling those problems will surely prove to be a good start.
Remember: rehab doesn't work unless the person in rehab WANTS to stop! Get him to want to stop first before you try anything.
Good luck, by the way.
prayer I think is your only other answer. If you don't want to turn him into the police and he won't go to rehab get on your knees and ask God to intervine. Pray for new friends pray for safety pray for a changed heart in your son. God is bigger then ANY problem let Him fix it. Good luck
There is nothing so late that u thinking that u have to go to a morgue to identify him or went to meet him in jail.
It is the only thing which will help him that u r still beliving him and u r with him to avoid this bad habbit. Never tell him what may happen to him in intial just tell him that life is so beautiful and u r just 22 so there is so much which u have to live and see. straight way go with him for a outing with some relatives or good friends with u.
It will help him then u can go to rehab for proper cure.
try an intervention, you may or may not have heard of these. you, friends, family, and a neutral person you and your son does not know will sit down with him and discuss the situation. call NA - narcotics anonomous they can probably give youadvice and information. good luck.