I'm so sad and NEED ADVICE ASAP. BEFORE MY OPPORTUNITY IS GONE...???!


Question: im 16. there's this guy at my school who i would always notice staring at me. like last year at lunch i would be walking with my friend and he would be standing in a circle w/ his group of friends but his eyes would be on ME. and i was like 30 feet away. but i ignore his glance. the most recent time was about 1 month ago. he was sitting a few seats behind me in my class and i was turned around talking to this girl behind me and he turned his body so he could look at me. i ignored him again. but here's the thing i'm like him SO MUCH..but i can't bring myself to look at him, its too emotional and it freaks me out. it might be awkward. today i was walking out of my class and he was outside the door kinda and i just totally didn't even look where he was. he probably thinks im a major B**** now...but i don't know how to talk to him? he sits on the other side of the room- the first day of class he sat behind me but i moved to be nearer my friends. but also b/c it made me feel nervous b/c


Answers: im 16. there's this guy at my school who i would always notice staring at me. like last year at lunch i would be walking with my friend and he would be standing in a circle w/ his group of friends but his eyes would be on ME. and i was like 30 feet away. but i ignore his glance. the most recent time was about 1 month ago. he was sitting a few seats behind me in my class and i was turned around talking to this girl behind me and he turned his body so he could look at me. i ignored him again. but here's the thing i'm like him SO MUCH..but i can't bring myself to look at him, its too emotional and it freaks me out. it might be awkward. today i was walking out of my class and he was outside the door kinda and i just totally didn't even look where he was. he probably thinks im a major B**** now...but i don't know how to talk to him? he sits on the other side of the room- the first day of class he sat behind me but i moved to be nearer my friends. but also b/c it made me feel nervous b/c

You dont have to just start out with telling him that you like him.
I would say that you shoud wait for him to be having trouble with his homework or classwork, then you go help him out. And you could try to look at him when hes looking at you. If he looks away fast then hes probly looking at you.

omg like totally dude seriously he was like ummm and you were like umm and.........................

only one way to solve the problem really...

go and talk to him about it
or you could continue stressing over it...

God i wish my problems were as simple as this. Just talk to him. Say hi.

go for it!

if a guy stares at u, its either because you have the biggest reddest zit on your nose, or because he thinks your pretty and that he likes you. I wouldn't back away from him if he really tries to sit next to you and stuff. I would just go with the flow. Dont make an effort to talk to him, let him talk to you. im incredibly shy so i know how you feel

all of your feelings are NORMAL----something u kinda just go through around age 16---some tips would be EYE CONTACT-very important--smiling helps-----wave-say 'hi', how ya doin'-anything-u really can't control what's going to happen-----and u never know, feelings come and go, u might be into somebody else sometime soon--there's no harm in smiling and being friendly, it's good practice-----bet you're a great person who's just a little insecure-------you'll figure it out soon............

rtghs

I was like that once too a couple of years ago.
And he ended up being my boyfriend for over a year. =]
But things ended up not working out because of other reasons, but getting to the point..
Do you have any friends that are friends with him? Thats how it started with me... (My guy friend was his friend too and told him.) And then he started taking to me and yep, because Im way to shy to go up and talk to a guy.
Or if you guys have like.. myspace or something add him on there and send him a message just to get things started and eventually it will be easier.
Hope this helps. =]

strange... i remember this from sumwhere...the whole thing of him turning around so he can look at u when u were talking to this girl, and when he sat behind u, but u moved to be closer to ur friends...omg, i remember this from somewhere!!
..oh yeah, sorry. i dont know what to say.
i mean, the best advice, is 2 just talk to him, but i know how...hard this is. i can relate to ur story A LOT. same exact dilemma (except that he wasnt in any of my classes), but the same staring thing, and how anxious nd nervous u get just 2 see him around...well, the same thing has happened to me, i also started liking my crush last december, but i hadnt the guts 2 say anything.
all i can say..do not let this opportunity pass you! the guy i like had to get a liver transplant, so hes transferring, and now im really sad, cuz the whole last year i didnt say 1 word to him.. even though hes also my neighbor, and now i just feel sa sad, i wish that atleast i couldve smiled or waved at him...:(
just do small steps at a time. i know exactly how nervous u are. u dont have to start directly talking to him, just when u guys make eye contact, do not immediately look away, like u do now, smile a bit, or wave, then look away.
keep up at it
sorry, this is really bad advice cuz im in the same boat as u lol, but hope this helps.
and be thankful u still have him :(

He is obviously interested in you or he would not keep looking your way for so long. How do you talk to your male friends that you do not have the same feelings for? Try breaking the ice this way. How can you "like him so much" when you don't really know him? Establishing a baseline friendship first will make it easier down the road to tell him how you really feel. Good luck!

when you see him looking at you ....smile at him! You don't have to smile and then just keep standing or sitting there keeping a goofy smile on or anything, but just give him a smile and then continue whatever you are doing at the time! Bet cha he will take the next move:-)

Hi there 16 year old. I understand what you are going through. First off don't chase him, too many girls these days and guys really don't like that. They like to make the first move. I think you have been acting just right. You could the next time you catch him staring at you just smile at him. This way he knows your approachable and that tells him its ok to talk to you. Everytime you happen to look up or you feel him staring at you then look up and smile again. Do this until he comes up to you and says hi. Don't be the first to say hi. Some or many people might say go up and say hello. But, whether men are 16 or 50 they want to be the first to pursue. Let him pursue you. I think its good that your not letting your feelings spill over so everyone and him knows how you feel. I don't think he thinks your a B.....he probably knows your shy and thats ok. HE will come up and talk to you if he is really interested in you. But I think its time to smile at him. Just smile at him everytime your eyes meet or you see him staring at you. Its ok to be nervous and shy when you really like a guy. But your doing just fine, really. Let him pursue you, when he is ready he will come up to you. Don't be the first ...ok... Hang in there .. you'll meet one day soon. He may be worth the wait....





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