Can you take a compliment?!
Question: I was just wondering if i was the only one who cant
Answers: I was just wondering if i was the only one who cant
yeah i can take a compliment ;D it's nice to be encouraged then you get spurred on to aim higher for better things and get rewarded, even verbally like compliments.
maybe it's coz you think people are being sarcastic so you can't take the compliment, or that you just keep putting yourself down so when others compliment you then you think they're lying.
Why cant you?
no, i cant either
I'm always suspicious when I get them. I get them all the time too.
depends, whatchya got?
..only if I know the compliment is true.
I hate em!
why can't you? it's really cool. you feel like that person treasures you.
easiest way to take a compliment is to say thanks
yeah - even if I don't believe them
I always seem to just tell the person they are lying. But I think when they keep saying it, they might actually mean it, so I say thank you. Its a good way to get them to stop too.
No you are not, it is very difficult, the temptation is to put yourself down, say something like, oh this old thing? or say, yes but my bum looks HUMONGOUS!! Now I try to smile and say thanks! It is nice to compliment people, if it is heartfelt, next time someone says something nice to you, take a deep breath, smile and say thank you! It does get easier. x
It is rather pleasant to hear some one complimenting.At least you can accept with grace.....it is criticism that's hard to accept or digest.
Yes, I can. Teach yourself to say "thank you" when someone compliments you. It's the courteous thing to do. A sincere compliment is an expression of how someone favorably perceives you or what you are wearing, for example. By not accepting their kind words you are, more or less, rejecting what they feel.
no i love them and love giving them,too
I'm going to guess you don't give compliments. Try giving simple, sincere complilments i.e. I like your hair that way. That shirt looks good with your eyes. You tell the funniest jokes! etc.
Once you learn how to do that , accepting compliments will be a breeze. You'll realize they are just simple, positive observations...nothing deep and profound that you have to fret about..
In psychology we call this 'giving a stroke". It means making a compliment about someone. They can be conditional:
"I like you BECAUSE you have blue eyes"
but better still unconditional:
"You are an amazing person"
Taking positive strokes is much harder than giving. Those who struggle to take then are often insecure, or have experienced a lot of put downs by others.
I tell my patients that taking a compliment does not make you big-head, it does not make you conceited. Taking a compliment makes you feel lighter, happier and alive. Think about how you feel when you pay someone a compliment and they reject it.
There are a lot of strategies to help you learn to accept that it is OK to take a compliment/ For starters look for a book called "Games People Play" by Eric Berne, it will start to explain some of the ways in which we often reject positive comments about ourselves and explain how we relate to others.
In a specific answer to your question, there was once a time when I could NOT take a compliment, but now I can, and when I do, I burn brighter, feel lighter and more positive about my place in the world
Hahaha no way! i always get bashful and try to change the subject im one of the girls who dont like being the center of attention when someone does give me a compliment i just smile and look away or say what time is (Excuse) happening god i like them in a way but i just dont know how to go about them
I don't need compliments I already know I'm perfect in every way!
depends on how the compliement is said...if its sarcastic then no its not genuine, if its by a truster person then accept it gracefully..
You are beautiful and sexy and intelligent. Why can't you take a compliment? Give me ten!