Do they sincerely mean what they say?!
Question: I have a friend that is bipolar. I went to visit him today after his mother issued a mental health warrant on him for drinking (ALOT) 3 straight days, driving, sleeping very little or none at all and saying crazy hateful things to everyone...strangers, you name it...but especially to the people he loves most. Well, he said many things he has never said to me before...all the sudden I'm vain, selfish, stupid, I look in the mirror all the time and use my looks to get what I want (I am attractive and he has always been attracted to me but has always told me how intelligent I was and that was what made me beautiful). He has been saying these and other very hurtful things to me since he started drinking. What I need to know is, does he know he is saying these things? Does he honestly mean them, maybe subconsciously? The doctor said he was experiencing psychosis. It hurts to hear these things from him, even though I realize he is mentally ill....he was always so sweet, smart, and caring.
Answers: I have a friend that is bipolar. I went to visit him today after his mother issued a mental health warrant on him for drinking (ALOT) 3 straight days, driving, sleeping very little or none at all and saying crazy hateful things to everyone...strangers, you name it...but especially to the people he loves most. Well, he said many things he has never said to me before...all the sudden I'm vain, selfish, stupid, I look in the mirror all the time and use my looks to get what I want (I am attractive and he has always been attracted to me but has always told me how intelligent I was and that was what made me beautiful). He has been saying these and other very hurtful things to me since he started drinking. What I need to know is, does he know he is saying these things? Does he honestly mean them, maybe subconsciously? The doctor said he was experiencing psychosis. It hurts to hear these things from him, even though I realize he is mentally ill....he was always so sweet, smart, and caring.
Your friend is very ill. His brain is not functioning properly. Alcohol is not a truth serum, quite the contrary. People who have illnesses like this will self-medicate attempting to releive their symptoms. Mental illness does not cause the person to just let go and spill information out of the brain. Thoughts are influenced by mood and emotion and are subject to our control if we have the capacity to do so. Right now, your friend does not. If I were you, I would stop taking this personally, and focus on your friend's health. Please, whatever you do, don't tell him later what he said. It will only succeed in shaming him and that would not help him in the slightest. Where he is right now, is a very very frightening and helpless place to be.
YOUR FRIEND is going threw a manic stage.saying things he dont even know hes saying.his mom has done the right thing forcing him to get treatment.if you love him stand by him until you see hes not the same guy whos saying theses things.he most likely isnt on his meds.mom knows this.when they go into manic stage they or not them selfs.hes runing from his own mind an hurting everyone who loves him.but its not the guy you know an love you have to hang on to that right now an help his mom get him into treatment.
when he si back on meds an stable you will see the friend you had come back.
help get him help worry about what hes said later.i bet he wont even remeber
thats part of bioplor manic high an very depressed low.
This is a tough one. If he's having some kind of psychotic episode, he probably doesn't really know what he's saying. As a mother, I would tell you to stay away from that person. He sounds very self destructive. But on the other hand, he probably needs a friend during this hard time. So like I said, tough call.
One thing I know is bi-polar people blurt!
My brother will tell you every single solitary thought going thru his head whether you want to hear it or not when he is manic.
but think of it as just finding someones secret diary and learningall their private thoughts about everyone they love and hate. .Diarys are never meant to be read by anyone else. but these people have almost no control over telling you their private thoughts about you. Don't take it to heart, as much as you possibly can.
I am sorry you got hurt. Bipolar people do that when they are manic, as your friend is. Does he mean it? No. You are not even talking to the real him - you are talking to a bunch of screwed up brain chemicals that don't even know you. When he gets his bipolar under control you will see the real friend again.
It is very hard to admit that you need help.Just be patent with him!Try to understand that he is sick.GOOD LUCK!