Can you help me understand this??!
Question: see i am a self injurer and always right after i do it i feel a sense of clarity and all the stress is suddenly relieved i mean see thing is its well looked down upon and i guess i dont understand why that is...i mean so i have some more scars than other people so...i mean why is it such a big deal...because i know i would be so much more worse if i didnt do it so why is it so bad...why should i feel remorseful???
Answers: see i am a self injurer and always right after i do it i feel a sense of clarity and all the stress is suddenly relieved i mean see thing is its well looked down upon and i guess i dont understand why that is...i mean so i have some more scars than other people so...i mean why is it such a big deal...because i know i would be so much more worse if i didnt do it so why is it so bad...why should i feel remorseful???
Some animals self-harm, albeit not with a knife. Farm animals often do so when STRESSed eg. when kept from a mate. [source: first-hand experience, TV, Internet]
Dogs often obsessively lick, which causes scarring to their skin. [source: first-hand experience, TV, Internet]
If you want to have scars that's your choice, but usually they're not pleasant for other people to look at, and sooner or later other people are going to have to deal with the consequences of you stressing your body so. (Each time you cut this causes a chemical reaction in your body which makes you feel good but is not totally benign; plus there's the risk of infection. The remorsefulness is also a chemical reaction; it kicks in after the happy/painkilling chemicals wear off.)
The mental state you describe pre-cutting does not appear particularly pleasant and, to be frank, you wouldn't cut if you felt good beforehand? Wouldn't you rather get off the roller-coaster than carry on as is? You seeing a shrink indicates so.
Have you had your blood tested for pressure, thyroid, diabetes etc? Have you been tested for allergies? These and many other disorders cause incorrect levels of hormones/neurochemicals, which can cause the pre-injury symptoms you've explained.
Other causes of stress include chemicals in the home (eg air fresheners, new carpets), food additives, poor diet, poor sleep routine/hygiene, substandard air quality, insufficient exercise, electromagnetic exposure, unpleasant home situation (eg bullying parent), poor posture.
If nothing results from the investigations, your medical history could be evaluated for other clues, for example a bump to the head. Of course your history should have been inspected by the shrink or the referring doctor, but in my experience this does not always happen.
Even if a cause of the pre-injury symptoms cannot easily be found, there are many medications (many are known as anti-depressants) that could help regulate your condition.
Note : the wrong anti-depressant can aggravate symptoms. perhaps you're already on medication and don't realise this.
I do hope you feel better soon. Let us know how you get on?
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(I am not a doctor)
Oh sweetie - its a big deal because it is dangerous. I understand it gives you the "clarity" you feel you are otherwise lacking, but it is not the way to get it. You need to talk to someone about this, it is very very dangerous, and will lead to further injuries. After some time what your doing now for comfort wont be enough, and you will need to do more. Please, seek some help. What you are doing is crying out for help, and you think noone is listening. But people are listening sweetie, you just have to trust them and yourself. And maybe right now your scars do not seem like such a big deal, but they will 5 or 10 years from now. And the remorse you feel is because you are smart, you know you need help. You know there is a better way to deal with your problems. Please, take my advice - and all the great advice I am sure everyone here will give you - and get some help. Good luck, and be brave.
b/c ur a craaaaaazyyy woman
no normal person would even think of hurting themselves
you shouldnt harm yourself because its not right. If the only way to relieve yourself from stress is to hurt yourself then you need some professional assistance. There are other ways to relieves stress and anxiety, you just need to find whats right for you.This is your only body so you should make the most out of it.
Sounds like you need help. Yes, it is bad for you, and could be more damaging to your mental health than you think! Talk to someone, like a therapist or a close friend. It's an addiction, and like all addictions, it's unhealthy.
Not to condemn you or anything, but cutting yourself is a big deal. If you absolutely need to harm yourself physically just to feel good, there is obviously something wrong emotionally.
Think about it- have you ever seen animals cut themselves or do self harm? It's not normal in nature.
It's best to seek some type of help.
i don't understand but maybe if you take up something like kickboxing or something along those lines it might alleviate some of the stress
Hi,
well, part of it is that you would hopefully love yourself enough that you wouldn't want to hurt yourself.
or that you wouldn't hurt inside so much that feeling physical pain was the only outlet you had for release and clarity.
there are far better ways to confront and deal with the issues in your life.
it may sound silly, but how about keeping a journal, and instead of hurting yourself you pick up a pen and start writing. just let it flow, talk about all of it, anything that comes to mind. write for hours, cry your heart out on paper, or do it on the computer, it's amazing what putting things in black and white can do. at least TRY it, you may be able to resolve a lot of things you are unwilling or unable to face and deal with. you have nothing to lose by trying.
anything that keeps you from doing physical harm to yourself.
i understand that in the short-term it helps you feel better, but ultimately does it solve your problems that are causing you the pain? does it make you feel proud of yourself in the end?
be brave, and face your thoughts, you can't run away from your head forever.
try to seek some counseling for productive ways of managing your stress and pain.
i mean, do YOU want self-injury to be your only coping mechanism? surely there must be better solutions, if you'll just give them a try.
Best Wishes
I totally understand, the big deal is that one day your going to cut too deep, and it also ends up controlling you, you'll end up making it part of your daily routine. I myself am also struggling with cutting as well as other SI. If I could I'd be cutting up my entire body right now, cause it's so much easier then dealing with my thoughts and emotional turmoil. However, I wouldn't have a therapist any more either. So, please do take this serious, it will control you, and take your life. Get help for it NOW, I quit smoking almost 5 years ago, and compared to SI behaviors, smoking was way more EASIER to quit. Please at least consider getting help.
it seems like injuring yourself is a way of relieving. Still, this is not a good way, since it's very dangerous. I suggest you find another way to let emotions go or seek for help. Can't you cry a lot to let these emotions go. That's what I usually do. I take a moment for myself (usually in the shower) and cry untill I can't cry anymore. believe me, thats a much healthier way of letting these emotions go. good luck. I'll pray for you