What does it take for someone to get help?!
Question: How bad does it have to get for someone with a mental health
problem to realize they have a problem and get help?
I am really worried about someone but the person always denied they have a problem.
I am not talking to them right now, because they were cruel to me and it is not my place to be worried. They were cruel because they are sick.
Part of the disorder is that they see everything and other people in black or white, are hypersensitive to abandonment and rejection, are prone to rage and believe the world is against them, and do not take responsibility for themselves in a relationship.
There is nothing I can do from my current vantage point but I am wondering generally if these people just go on and repeat the same things and use other people to try to make their lives better, without realizing they need to fix themselves first?
Answers: How bad does it have to get for someone with a mental health
problem to realize they have a problem and get help?
I am really worried about someone but the person always denied they have a problem.
I am not talking to them right now, because they were cruel to me and it is not my place to be worried. They were cruel because they are sick.
Part of the disorder is that they see everything and other people in black or white, are hypersensitive to abandonment and rejection, are prone to rage and believe the world is against them, and do not take responsibility for themselves in a relationship.
There is nothing I can do from my current vantage point but I am wondering generally if these people just go on and repeat the same things and use other people to try to make their lives better, without realizing they need to fix themselves first?
You are right. The majority of people like this live in their little denial forever more. Some lose their jobs, their wives, their kids, their homes and STILL don't get it. Others finally realize all the trouble comes down to them and go get help. Getting help often takes lots of tries. Don't let them take you down with them. You did the right thing.
They have to realize, themselves, that they have a problem. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink.
You can tell your friend they need help, you can give them all this information, and help them 24/7, but you can't guarantee that they'll actually use the info, or accept your help, or even care that you think they're sick. You can't help ANYONE that doesn't want to help themselves
try to get your friend to go to this site:
http://psychcentral.com/
It sounds like it might be Borderline Personality Disorder.
All you can do is be there for them when you can. You can't force them to get help.
Sometimes, yes, they do just go on and on and it hurts to watch from "afar" or intimately.
Sometimes, they will loose someone they thought they loved and so they may start to wonder what the heck went wrong and get motivated to seek counseling. But until it hurts them, they just go on and on.
Some times people never get the help that they need, there are people who live in denial all of their lives. Sometimes it takes some thing drastic to get their attention to make them realize that it's not the rest of the world it's them. But as you have realized sometimes you just have to leave people alone so that they can deal with their life's on their own time and in their own way.