What do you think it is? Schizo? Bi_Polar? Crazy? Addict?!
Question: My boyfriend who is addicted to methamphetamine and uses regularly, has some of the most extreme mood swings that I have ever witnessed. He told me that he has always been this way, even before using meth. (I'm sure the drug has enhanced all of these moods.) He can be happy and "in love" with me one minute and then literally turn around (sometimes only a matter of minutes when nothing has happened or nothing was said) and become outraged to the point of violence at times. I've seen him change other moods as well, such as violence turning into a weeping cry of "please, I don't know whats wrong with me, don't leave". He said that after these outrages he feels a weight being lifted off of his shoulders yet he knows its wrong. This happens frequently! He's either happy and content with life or hes agitated and ready to explode, and NOTHING in between. No medium with him. Please help. Best answer will be picked.
Answers: My boyfriend who is addicted to methamphetamine and uses regularly, has some of the most extreme mood swings that I have ever witnessed. He told me that he has always been this way, even before using meth. (I'm sure the drug has enhanced all of these moods.) He can be happy and "in love" with me one minute and then literally turn around (sometimes only a matter of minutes when nothing has happened or nothing was said) and become outraged to the point of violence at times. I've seen him change other moods as well, such as violence turning into a weeping cry of "please, I don't know whats wrong with me, don't leave". He said that after these outrages he feels a weight being lifted off of his shoulders yet he knows its wrong. This happens frequently! He's either happy and content with life or hes agitated and ready to explode, and NOTHING in between. No medium with him. Please help. Best answer will be picked.
Ozark Woman has it DEAD ON, thats exactly it. not just for her or me, but for every woman that dates an addict. if its not like that for you now, it will be later
meth changes you. meth addicts lie all the time, even if they truely believe what they are saying. rite now, in his mind, he truely believes that he was like this before he tried meth, thats not true, no matter how much he believes it. even if he had a slight disorder before, it means nothing, meth really does that to guys. every guy that i ever knew on meth had the EXACT same actions and they all said the EXACT same thing.
and if he says he's not addicted to meth, thats not true either, there are 3 types of people, 1people who havent tried meth, 2people who tried meth once and got lucky and never tried it again, and 3people who are addicted to meth.
I had an ex like this, things got progressively worse. And the problem with it, is not only do they change thier mind about thier mood, they change thier mind about wanting to go to rehab. One day he would want to go and the next he would say no. i stayed with him through all this and it turned into physical abuse and sometimes rape. he did still have his good moments though. I had to leave because he was ruining my life along with his.
I have two pieces of advice for you, if you can get him to go to rehab, DO IT, if he says he has stopped smoking, he's lying. and they hide it well when they want to.
if you cant get him into rehab, im sorry to tell you this, but leave now. it only gets worse from here. and 'tweaker boys' as we used to call them, are all the same. EVERY ONE OF THEM. I was around the scene for a long time, trust me, i know.
Girls however, seem to handle meth differently. If he hasnt had you do it already, dont try meth with him, this will even further make you unaware of what he does and it will keep you with him.
people who do meth, its a whole different culture. get out while you still can, and get him out if you can. people never believe me when i warn them that things do get worse and you will loose everything. people think, oh its not like that, well, it may not be like that now, but trust me, it will be eventually, im not exaggerating at all.
im glad i got out, i got completely out of the crowd, i changed all my friends, i completely turned around my life and no one would ever guess that i have ever tried drugs now. so it is possible.
i know most of this is prolly not what you want to hear, but its true.
The drugs first and foemost. A lot of alcoholics and other types of drugs users behave the same way.
Lack of control over anger and other emotions. He has to want help. There is a lot of therapy to teach/train yourself to over come this horrible habit.
Unless he wants help you should work on gettin away from this dude. It will only get worse. Some even kill while messed up. Pf course they sit in prison and cry and are sorry but by them it is too late.
get out of this relationship before you get hurt...refer him to drug/mental health counseling
It's drug induced psychosis. It will get worse until he finally snaps and hurts himself or others.
Caring for someone with this screwed up personality can drive you to destruction yourself.
I was involved with someone that sounded just like your guy, one minute he was the most wonderful person in the world, blink your eyes, he was telling me that he was involved in the JFK plot, and wanted to lock me up so "they" would not get me. It is heart wretching to see this, When I tried to leave he would stalk me, he pulled knives on me, tried to do some really weird crap to me sexually(?), he was impotent most of the time and blamed me...beg me not to leave. The last straw was when he said he would kill members of my family if I left him....I got a gun told him bring it on I would blow his crazy freaking head off, he had enough mental problems the police would give me a medal for taking care of him....he then left me alone, but told everyone he left me because I was crazy....guess I was for putting up with him as long as I did....life got very sweet after he was out of my life, I got a restraining order so he could not come near home, kids, job, family, anywhere within 50 feet of me....he morphed onto another fairly fast. Stay away, stop trying to cure him....he will kill you if you dont get away.
He could be bipolar or have schizophrenia but if he's a meth addict you'll never be able to figure it out. If he has a mental illness and is self medicating, it's quite a problem. The addiction has to be dealt with, but talking to a mental health nurse(by yourself if you have to) might help. My son has schizophrenia and was taking all kinds of street drugs. Once we got him in hospital, because he was psychotic, things became clear. The meth addiction will cause all the mood problems by itself. He must get help! You cannot tolerate the violence from him. If he is never made to get help, he will continue his lifestyle until it kills him. Sorry to be so blunt, but he needs help!
Drugs alter your mental state just as the changes in brain chemistry can trigger episodes in mood disorders and other mental illnesses. Most times, mentally ill people are not dangerous to those around them, but meth addicts can be.
Unless your partner wants to get help from an appropriate place, makes significant behavioural changes and lifestyle choices, you need to get out of this relationship because his problem is too big for you to deal with alone.
The reason I think that you need to get out of this relationship fast is that it is becoming an unhealthy situation for you to be in. While it may sound like I'm suggesting you abandon your guy when he needs all the support he can get, you shouldn't have to be in a toxic relationship with an abusive person.
Could be that he's got schizophrenia, but the drugs are triggering it to be worse - they certainly won't be making things any better that's for sure. Schizophrenia does seem to be triggered by a lot of drugs even in people who showed no signs previously, eg: even canabis.
As above, he needs serious help to both get off the drugs and then find a treatment that works. However having seen what someone with similar problems did after they got a bit annoyed one day, you really want to get as far away from him as possible.
If he goes off on one, then he probably won't be able to control it with the drug addiction too and you'll end up being the punchbag, however much he doesn't want to do that normally. Very similar to a lot of domestic abuse cases too. They might be sorry for breaking your arm, but they'll do it again.
If you still want to know him, I'd give him an ultimatum that he has to immediately go to a doctor to get treatment for the drug addiction and also seek professional help for the other which might have to come after the addiction is sorted (so they can figure out what it is). Then when he's all clean and doesn't pose a risk, then you'll consider taking him back.
Whatever you do - protect you first!
Drugs first and foremost. A fair number of people with mental illnesses self-medicate with drugs and/or alcohol so that wouldn't be too surprising. What you describe doesn't at all fit schizophrenia! Violence is not part of bipolar with very few exceptions, none of which you mention. What you do describe possibly sounds more like borderline personality disorder, or simply immature coping skills. The later could be the case depending on when he got into drugs seriously.
i've been there...he's just an addict if he stopped today it will stay take him a couple of years to get back to "normal". saying that he was that way before is just an excuse to not blame it on the drugs
People who seek out drugs are usually suffering from emotional problems to begin with. Sounds like a combo of both the drugs and emo problems. You need to move on until he gets some serious help, because until then he will not change. Gl!