My therapist told me to "shut up"? What can I do?!
Question: She specializes (or so she says) in Borderline PD & I was simply agreeing with something she said Saturday & she says "Shut up". I so wanted to just walk out that door & never come back. Maybe she had her period but in that case she should have stayed home or taken some Midol b4 work.
I don't think she is helping me though it's only been three months. I think she is too rough on me but what sucks is she isn't a Psychiatrist so I can't report her for unprofessional behavior. My only option is to discontinue therapy b/c I "sit" "roll" over & play dead. I can't even put lotions on my hands or even take a drink of water sometimes. If she hates me so much why doesn't the female dog just say she doesn't want to take me as a patient anymore. She's even charging me the low cost rate.
Answers: She specializes (or so she says) in Borderline PD & I was simply agreeing with something she said Saturday & she says "Shut up". I so wanted to just walk out that door & never come back. Maybe she had her period but in that case she should have stayed home or taken some Midol b4 work.
I don't think she is helping me though it's only been three months. I think she is too rough on me but what sucks is she isn't a Psychiatrist so I can't report her for unprofessional behavior. My only option is to discontinue therapy b/c I "sit" "roll" over & play dead. I can't even put lotions on my hands or even take a drink of water sometimes. If she hates me so much why doesn't the female dog just say she doesn't want to take me as a patient anymore. She's even charging me the low cost rate.
Seriously... You should of walked out. The reason why you are in threaphy is to talk about your issues, not to be told to shut up..... then what is the point of going, ya know? You should find somebody else to see.
wow.
Sounds like your the one with issues.
go right ahead and report me, you asked a question, wanted an honest answer and I gave it to you.
Your first instinct was correct to walk out and never go back to that person they are there to help you not insult you
maybe you should what she says and shut up, if you didn't need help you wouldn't be there would you????
Maybe its her way of therapy, doesn't sound like a good way. Anyway if you want to walk out the door than do it, your paying her, you can go find another therapist.
It is hard to give a fair opinion from this distance since I do not know you and i cannot even make further questions about this matter. the only thing i can think about is: be careful with being switching from one therapist to another. you need to develop a professional relationship with your therapist. I mean, switching therapists too son does not help. think about the context of the expression she used. It may help to understand why she told you that. Even if you do not understand, you can ask her why she told you that. You deserve an explanation.
Have she told you she hates you or that is a conclusion you reached out of the unkind expressions of hers you describe? A parent may tell a child to shut up and still love him more than anything in the world.
You can actually tell her you feel she is to rough on you and be open to where the discussion goes. She may have an answer for you.
I wish I had the gull to say things to my customers about the way they are. I mutter under my breath at least 10 times a day. "Shut-up" "Idiot" "Duh". I am a consultant, and it is amazing that people pay to hear what I have to say only to talk when I'm talking. This deserves a "Shut-up", but I wouldn't say it. Saying this to you is really unprofessional and no matter what your occupation, you need to have a good bedside manner to succeed.
Maybe you just need to listen more and talk less.
Regardless of the situation or reason (even counselor believes she was right) you do not tell anyone to "shut up" That is unprofessional and totally rude. They are many ways to ask someone to wait a minute, excuse me, etc.....and then say what you need to. There is no excuse for the counselor.I would not pay anyone to talk to me in that manner. I would have asked her what brought that on?, What caused her to treat you so rudely and what did you do to make her act like that. Then, I would have politely told her that apparently she had enough of her own problems and could not handle mine. I would have then thanked for her attempt at helping and I would find someone that could listen when I needed to talk or vent or whatever I felt I needed to say. Paid my bill and left. That way, you stood up to her face to face and let her know her behavior was unacceptable and uncalled for. I would have told her that she could never help anyone through intimidation tactics and that maybe she needed needed more social skills and how to treat people with respect before she continued to practice medicine. It sounds to me like she truly was practicing and has no idea how to work with or help anyone.
It sounds like this gal telling you to "shut up" was the straw that broke the camel's back. I've been in therapy a few times and I have found that just like in the rest of our life, we can go to a therapist we don't "fit" with. This means move on. Don't waste your time with this one. You are there to grow and get help, not feel worse about yourself.
By the way, she does not have to be a "psychiatrist" to report her. Is she any kind of licensed therapist? Or is she someone like a woman at church who just helps people? Most people offering counseling have to be licensed, not just the psychiatrists. Find out what her title is, or the letters after her last name.
I'd look for someone new. I did it before and was so glad I did. Good luck to you.
get a life
at the risk of offending you, typically speaking borderlines have serious problems with their therapists. if the therapist is any good and actually challenges their behaviour which may have been what yours was doing then typically the borderline will leave. If you are borderline, you're not going to be able to hear this because typically speaking borderlines can't ever get their head around the idea that their behaviour is wrong or hurtful or illogical because it makes perfect sense to them. I suspect your therapist was trying to get you to stop a particular behaviour and choose a more appropriate one and being borderline you can't stand to be challenged.