Do you think i have abandonment issues?!
Question: I have a wonderful relationship with a guy that i might be engaged to in a couple months. Somehow i feel like hes gonna leave me. Ive never had someone rip my heart out like that. I trust him with my whole heart and ive never felt this way about a guy before. Hes my whole world. He said hes never cheated on a girl before and im his whole life and all he needs and he wont leave me. Somehow i feel like he still could.
The reason i think i have issues with abandonment is because when my mom got pregnant, my biological father ran, signed me off, and has never spoken to me. Do you think that is what is affecting my relationship insecurities?
Answers: I have a wonderful relationship with a guy that i might be engaged to in a couple months. Somehow i feel like hes gonna leave me. Ive never had someone rip my heart out like that. I trust him with my whole heart and ive never felt this way about a guy before. Hes my whole world. He said hes never cheated on a girl before and im his whole life and all he needs and he wont leave me. Somehow i feel like he still could.
The reason i think i have issues with abandonment is because when my mom got pregnant, my biological father ran, signed me off, and has never spoken to me. Do you think that is what is affecting my relationship insecurities?
Absolutely. It is the fear of abandonment. You are insecure because of what happened earlier in life with your dad. I saw a Psychologist for this because I was the same way. However I couldn't control what happened to me, my dad was killed. You could also experience separation anxiety. It's not a fun thing. I was so terrified after my dad died that I was afraid to let my bf leave for work out of fear he would never return. I honestly would suggest you talking to someone about your fears. I wish you well.
we all have abandonment issues , dont let it mess with you life...
yes I do think you have abandonment phobia because of your child hood , and I would suggest getting therapy for that. Don't just let it follow you all the days of your life because one day it will become and issue .
Never depend or love a man so much that you do not know what you would do without him . You need to learn to love yourself first . If anything happened to that person , u have to know that there is still life to live . Nothing is guaranteed in life , so u must realize that . If you continue to be insecure , it can put a strain on the relationship and that would be all bad ... Get help sweety !;O)
Have you ever been in for therapy or psych evaluation? You may wish to look into this if not. Feelings of abandonment could be signs of some emotional issues or disorder that you may need treatment for. Childhood trauma such as you described often is what triggers this. Therapy and medication can make a huge difference. You want to be in the very best health you can be for your future husband and children. Please do not think of it as being "wacked out" and freak or anything. These conditions are really prevalent and treatable. I don't want to make this in to more than it really is, but if you really feel concerned about it, and it seems as though it may already be causing "issues"...well, it just may be worth looking into. At least research the possibility. You see, I had abandonment issues all my life and had no idea I had disorders. If I had known, I would've been treated and avoided serious complications in relastionships. I now know better....late. Don't waste years in misery.
yes i have the same probelm but try dont think he will do the same thing as your father did just leave you if he really loves you and he might propose then he is the one
I think the other answerers have covered the abandonment part of things fairly well. But as far as your boyfriend goes... test him? Is he going to run when things get difficult? Well, make things difficult and see if he wants to work them out, or run. If he want's to run, let him, because if he'd run over a little thing before marraige, what happens when a serious problem arrises after you're married? You'd likely join the majority statistic (I think 75%) of marraiges that end in divorce. Don't marry until you're sure he'll stick by you no matter what and be willing to work things out. Hope you can find this somewhat helpful.
No i dont think that's the problem,i think your so independent and cant belive this guy realy wants to do everything for you.also knowing what your mums been through its stuck in your mind.I think he does love you but dont wear the same shoes your mum did.Looks like your mum done a great job on her own so show the ace card or everything may reverse.I think you have been a listener and sympothyser for your family and i do belive you are smart and you are the one to make sure this never happens again.