I am 18 and i desperately want to conceive. What's wrong with me?!
Question: My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married in about 5 years, tho we want to do it right now. My parents havent agreed to that yet. We both want a child so terribly much, but isn't eighteen too young? Neither of us make that much money, im still completely dependant on my parents. But i cant seem to shake this desire for a child. I already babysit, but I want my own, i want to go through the whole process. What's wrong with my head? No normal 18 year old should want this. I want to finish school and get a good job, but I want a baby so bad, I cry myself to sleep sometimes. I don't know what to do. Help?
Answers: My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married in about 5 years, tho we want to do it right now. My parents havent agreed to that yet. We both want a child so terribly much, but isn't eighteen too young? Neither of us make that much money, im still completely dependant on my parents. But i cant seem to shake this desire for a child. I already babysit, but I want my own, i want to go through the whole process. What's wrong with my head? No normal 18 year old should want this. I want to finish school and get a good job, but I want a baby so bad, I cry myself to sleep sometimes. I don't know what to do. Help?
some people are ready younger and some people get hit with the desire for children at a young age. BUT, your common sense is telling you the right thing to do. i'm not going to tell you to wait until you are 30 or even 25, but do wait until you have finished school. wait until you can provide for your child. do you want to have to call your parents every time you need to buy diapers or formula? if you are still dependent on your parents, then your baby will be, too.
you may not be able to shake the desire for a baby, but if you want to really enjoy everything about having a baby, wait. though no one is 100% prepared for a baby, you need to be somewhat prepared. have a way to support your child and be prepared to balance everything. school will stress you out, money will stress you out, and will strain your relationships. you're not abnormal for wanting a baby at 18. but you need to plan for things like this, and you are not ready.
You need to take a break with your boyfriend, date around for a lil bit and then get back with him and if you still want a child then, yes you are a freak.
damn right 18 is too young unless you have a trust fund or a 6 figure income.
Wait til you're about 25-30. THEN get married & think about kids.
You can't put them back!
yes you are way too young first of all. you just need to relax becuase you are wanting to jump 5 years into the future. who knows where you will be or what you will be doing. plus you will not have the funds or even the time to put into it. trust me, having a baby now, will put 10 behind in life and you wont get the dream life you want so bad, you need to work for it...hope that helps
Don't have a baby before:
-finishing School,
-you are at least in your 20's,
-have a good job and earning enough to either pay a hefty rent or buy your own house
-possibly are married to the right person