Age 46 and feeling like my life is done.?!
Question: I am having a birthday next month....I will be 46. I feel so old sometimes. NO CRACKS, please. I miss old friends that have gone away. I miss old times. I feel like I have done nothing with my life. I love my husband and family and they are clueless about what I am going through. I am depressed about my future. Now that I have whined to everyone...any suggestions. Any one feel the same.
Answers: I am having a birthday next month....I will be 46. I feel so old sometimes. NO CRACKS, please. I miss old friends that have gone away. I miss old times. I feel like I have done nothing with my life. I love my husband and family and they are clueless about what I am going through. I am depressed about my future. Now that I have whined to everyone...any suggestions. Any one feel the same.
Well I am only 19, however I see how my parents are, and it seems that they are making futures for themselves just because life isn't all about the regular get a job, meet someone, get married, have kids, have grandkids.. etc. Although that is all something I look forward to in life, they are all actually subcategories of one category: Personal Experience.
You may feel like your life is done because you have finished all those things, but (considering the age of your children if you have any) it could just be beginning. Make a list of reasonable things that you have not done but always wanted to. Like learn a language, go back to college, go traveling.. etc. After you make this list, try and find out where you have some disposable income and if traveling is something you're interested, go and take a trip somewhere.
You just need to realize that there are many things to do in life, and that you may think you have not done anything with your life, its actually the complete opposite. You have a family, you have a record of old friends whose lives you have impacted,.. If you were not around then those people would never have met you and never have experienced the experiences that you have had together. Don't think you haven't done anything with your life.. your life isn't all about money or a job, its about the experiences. And I can see that you have done quite a lot. I mean.. having a family in itself should be full of experiences that should make your life seem full.
Anyways, I know I'm only 19, but thats how I see it. I hope you feel better, and just look for the positive in every aspect of your life.
Yeah. It's called mid-life crisis.
Apparently it will pass.
I'm sorry your feeling depressed, maybe you should talk to your husband about it and then see a doctor. I just wanted to say Happy Early Birthday and I hope you get out of your slump.
If it makes you feel any better God did not call Moses to lead the children of Israel out of Egypt until he was 80 years old! To God you are still wet behind the ears. You are just not getting warmed up it is far from being over.
Get involved in your community try some volunteer work you won't believe how much better you will feel helping others who need it!
Don't worry about it. When you turn 56, you'll be wishing that you were still 46. Life is short. Live each day as if it was your last.
I just had my 47th birthday and i feel the same. Now that i have whined to you, let me know if you find a cure.
Embrace that you are turning 46. You have bacome so wise over the years you have been alive. Don't think of it as getting older. I am 19 now and I feel I have lost old friends but that just allows a chance for new friends to come into our lives. Tell your husband how you feel and then possibly discuss it with the rest of your family. They will not know how you feel unless you tell them. Your family is there to help you grow stronger. Go to them and let them know. You should also do spontaneous things now in your life. Go for a road trip or something fun like that. Good Luck!
there was a recent study about the 40's and mid way they see depression is common. At this point of your life you are most likely anazlying what you've done/mistakes etc.... and what you have NOT done.... regrets etc.... One thing the study showed was to forgive/let go of what you did not do. Set new goals.... for your new part of your life....a couple of things that will always help fight depression is
1) a 30 min quick walk or a regular work routine
2) Fish oil (omega 3 fatty acids)
3) Positivity....
There are many reasons we have in this world right now to be sad, people are seeing things they've never seen, images etc. people are doing things that have never been heard of so we are bogged down. YOu have to create your world in a positive way and only you and those who love you can contribute to this. Nothing is wrong with the way you feel (im 32 by the way :-) but kinda smart) So do the three things above, move some things around the house, cut your hair revamp your style etc... most of all is your spiritual outlook on life! If you think this is all there is.... then perhaps that is the way in which you'll live. The study also said that!!!! in your 50's if you forgive yourself in your 40's you'll be much happier! Continue to give :-) there is more happiness in giving than receiving -- said by the greatest man who ever walked the earth.
peace and love
No one can make your life magical but YOU!
Now is the time to be honest with yourself and ask yourself what you want to do!!! If you do not have a friend or spouse who wants to join you, pursue your interests anyway!!!
There are clubs, teams and memberships for just about EVERYTHING from sports to travel!
Google your interests and see what is out there!
If life passes you by, you have no one to blame but you! No one can hold you back and anyone who tries does not love or respect you!!!
You've got one chance in this life. No dress rehearsals. Make every day count!!! Live YOUR authentic life.
When you finally bust a move, you will be amazed at how many energetic, fun, positive, supportive people are out there! You will make friends who will introduce you to more and more fun and interesting activities, places, people and events.
Do not be depressed about your FUTURE. Instead, I will allow you 5 minutes to be depressed about your PAST!!! Your future is going to be GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!
You're going through a transitional period in your life that alot of people refer to as a mid-life crisis. I'm going through the same thing. You're looking back and remembering old times and friends and wondering where the years went. You're looking at now thinking am I happy? Is there where I want to be in life, have I done enough? As for the future, no one wants to get old. You will reach a point where you will accept it and get on with business. This too shall pass. My advice would be to get involved in more activities, make new friends, maintain contact with your current friends. Try helping others that need help. Find a new passion in your life. Best wishes.