Help with my childhood memories?!
Question: My sister and I had it rough growing up,my father use to beat and cheat on my mother and even when she was pregnant with me he beat her badlly,I dont know how I survived sometimes.He use to do such crazy things to me and my sister one was he would make us let him smell our hands every morning he said to see if we had been playing with ourselves? this isnt normal is it,Its something I had toattaly forgotten guess i wanted to forget but my sister brought it up it seems she has a harder time than me dealing with our childhood.How can I help her cope I get so worried about her she drinks every night now and gets so depressed me on the other hand it hurts but iam trying to move on.
Answers: My sister and I had it rough growing up,my father use to beat and cheat on my mother and even when she was pregnant with me he beat her badlly,I dont know how I survived sometimes.He use to do such crazy things to me and my sister one was he would make us let him smell our hands every morning he said to see if we had been playing with ourselves? this isnt normal is it,Its something I had toattaly forgotten guess i wanted to forget but my sister brought it up it seems she has a harder time than me dealing with our childhood.How can I help her cope I get so worried about her she drinks every night now and gets so depressed me on the other hand it hurts but iam trying to move on.
well thats awful what you and your sister had to go through. its definitely not normal. i think it would really help her if she saw a psychologist. she is obviously in a lot of pain from the past and frankly i don't blame her at all. i don't know if you would be willing to but maybe if you suggest both you and your sister going to see a psychologist together and talking about your tough childhood together it would help your sister and probably help you too. it would also make her feel more comfortable to go and see a psychologist. i don't know if you want to think about the past but i think it would be good for the both of you. drinking a lot and being very depressed is a dangerous combination. its nothing to be ashamed about to see a psychologist. i just started seeing one myself.
I know how it feels, terrible things have happened to me in my childhood, I just think to myself, the past is the past, nothing can happen to hurt me anymore, it is all over, there is nothing to worry about. If you cannot convince yourself to let it go I think a good way to go is to talk to someone about it, like a therpaist or somebody professional, or maybe a friend. I suggest you do the same for your sister. With your father try getting him some professional help.
EVERYONE deserves a second chance.
The Emotional Freedom Techniques, or EFT for short is a new method of processing the energetic responses to emotions, and has been very effective in cases like this. It sounds like this would be just the ticket for you and your sister, and it's something you could do together. You can get the Free Get Started Manual at http://emofree.com
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You have had a terrible childhood and no child deserves this. In regards to your memories they are surfacing for a reason, and I believe it's for you to accept what happened to you and your sister. To deal with it and finally overcome it. Seems so easy, I know it's not. I would suggest that you seek out some one professional to discuss these issues with you and your sister. Your sister's drinking will not help as drinking may numb things for a short while and not very long. Drinking is also a depressant and stops you from growing. Please get the help you need and try and forgive your parents. Actually I feel sorry for them as they have lost so much in abusing you and your sister. I know you will get better and start enjoying life as soon as this is behind you. I wish you all the best.
I'll tell you what I would do...this might seem crazy but I would confront him...and I would do something reallly really bad to him...i mean really bad...not something that would get you in jail or anything try something emotionaly scaring for life...that p/rick has no rite to do that to you...if he's dead piss on his grave or something, if it was my dad I would do the same...
I too had some terrible things happen to me when I was younger. I later found out I had PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and got therapy for it. It really really helped me, and I'm sure it could do the same for you : ) : )
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