I want to run away from my life?!
Question: I am 20 my ex gf 25 broke up with me in Nov 2007, we live 100 miles apart, she said she didnt feel the same way as i did, i loved her so much, she said she wanted to be friends, and wanted space, but i was off work for six weeks recovering from an operation so it was dwelling on me, i kept, ringing and emailing her, until she changed her mobile number, blocked my emails and she said she didnt like me anymore, she says nothing i say or do will even want to make her be friends with me! I , Iove her so much and i want her back, cant bear the pain anymore. I have been through so much last year and this year. I was diagnosed with depression and obsessive compulsive disorder and I really cant do this anymore, I want her back, but i think she is seeing someone else I want to talk to her but I cant.
Answers: I am 20 my ex gf 25 broke up with me in Nov 2007, we live 100 miles apart, she said she didnt feel the same way as i did, i loved her so much, she said she wanted to be friends, and wanted space, but i was off work for six weeks recovering from an operation so it was dwelling on me, i kept, ringing and emailing her, until she changed her mobile number, blocked my emails and she said she didnt like me anymore, she says nothing i say or do will even want to make her be friends with me! I , Iove her so much and i want her back, cant bear the pain anymore. I have been through so much last year and this year. I was diagnosed with depression and obsessive compulsive disorder and I really cant do this anymore, I want her back, but i think she is seeing someone else I want to talk to her but I cant.
My advice is to run away from your life. I know it sounds crazy, but your 20 years old, unless your in College, or somehow have a hella good job, why not? Think of any place in the world that you would like to live, tell your family what your doing, and go for it. (And find a good counselor once your there, and keep up on your meds).
I also agree that you should be careful and not contact her for a while, because of the risk of a restraining order. Perhaps with time she will contact you again, and maybe not, but that is up to fate to decide.
A change of scene would serve to distract you in the time being, and perhaps give you a new way of living life, and work out better in the end :).
It's just a thought to consider!
Well....the fact that she's a little bit older may have something to do with it. She prolly has differnt interests and thought about life now. If she doesn;'t want you back then ther's nothing you can do..everntually she could file a restraining order...so don't push your limits but just try to keep positive and move on. Love is a strong thing...so just give it time and get some professional help...it will help you through it....my best of wishes.
Been there, done that, it totally sucked.
STAY AWAY FROM HER.
What I did was to go back to school, get a new set of friends, join a church group, go to Bible study (and I'm not particularly religious). Be around other people who didn't know you when you were part of a couple. Take part in activities with other people.
The pain will never go away, but in time, it'll be less, and you won't dwell on it the way you're doing now.
take some time for yourself. sounds like you need it
i have OCD and depression too, so i know what it feels like to just want to escape.
have faith in yourself and give it time.
you have to understand you followed her with the calls and emails and it just pushed her away.
maybe send her one last email on a different account explaining how sorry you were/ and you were going to give her some space and hope you can be AT LEAST friends one day.
it will work out.
you will find someone else.
have faith in who you are.
i know how you feel, same thing happened to me with my ex, he lived about 100 miles away and just decided out of the blue that he didnt want to see me anymore. i think because of the distance they thinks its easier or something but its not its much harder knowing you might never see the person again. But time is a great healer and you will get over her, and you should start to think to yourself well if she is like that (could just shut you out of her life) then shes really not a nice person and doesnt deserve your love. If she can do this to you when your recovering from an operation and depressed then shes shallow and uncaring and you can do much better than someone like that. I also have depression and have been taking fluoxetine hcl (prozac) for a few months and feel alot better, i know some people are really against anti-depressants, but they ease the pain and do make you feel better, they would definitely help with your ocd (although in the first 2 weeks it may get worse) you should talk to your doc about it if you start to feel very slow. Dont do anything silly, you sound like a sweet guy and some girl out there will be lucky to have you one day , take care x
Stop already. It's over. If you really do love her then leave her alone. And if you take a deep breath and think about it logically wouldn't you prefer to be with someone who respects and loves you for who you are? Someone who would be proud of the love you have to share? This obsession you have is not love. You need to help your brain (and heart) rewire itself. Start exercising, eating healthy foods, and read about depression and obsessive compulsive disorders. The sooner you educate yourself, the more easily it will be for you to help yourself. Move on.