Is it worth being friends with a depressive?!
Question: I am sick of being friends with depressed people--they drag you down and they are never "there" for others. Can you give me a reason to be a friend to a depressed person other than pity? I've had it.
Answers: I am sick of being friends with depressed people--they drag you down and they are never "there" for others. Can you give me a reason to be a friend to a depressed person other than pity? I've had it.
I disagree with everyone else. Don't let them drain you of all your positive energy. You can try until your blue in the face, but I bet this person has no intention of getting better and likes their life this way, if thats the case, cut your ties or get them help.
My best friend has depression issues. It's really frustrating, because she's usually so wrapped up in her own issues that when I need support or someone to talk to, she can't be there for me. I've realized lately that I can still hang out with her and all, and even listen to her issues and try to help sometimes, but not count on her for much beyond that. It's important to have other friends that you can count on when you need them.
If your friend is depressed the last thing that you should do is abandon them in their time of need. Depression is a disease if you are a good friend you will stand by them and get them help. If they are constantly depressed talk to their/your parent or your school counselor to try and get them help. Don't be selfish and walk away, stay true to your friend and HELP THEM!
Don't leave them. Don't. Depression isn't a choice. It isn't just something that you can suddenly snap out of at will. To help yourself, you need certain things. One of those things are friends. How are you going to get through this without somebody there for you? They probably look to you for advice. All my friends have left me in my time of need, if I even look a bit sad, they yell at me. "Cut the crap!" It's just made things worse. Do this for them. Help them through this.
Common sayings from friends who have "had enough":
"I hate you dragging me down with me."
"You're ruining my life along with yours."
"I can't help you anymore, you can help yourself."
"Stop being overdramatic."
It really doesn't help when you have people walk out on you. They have to drag you down before they drag themselves up.
If you find that you are being affected by their negative energy, you need to take a break from them. Negative energy can affect your thoughts and your own energy vibrations.
Watch this movie to know what I mean
http://www.attractionmindmap.com/the-law...
It would be a very bad thing for your friend if you deserted her as friends really help to keep you up. Her losing you as her friend would probably take away a large amount of the small amount of joy she has left in her life. She may start thinking that her life is meaningless or more so, as joy gives meaning to life. Added to this she will start thinking that nobody wants to be friends with her, weather that's real or imagined, and this will bring her deeper into the depths of depression or maybe even further.
Why don't you take her out on a trip or do some other activities with her that you will both enjoy. If she says that she won't enjoy it know that this is wrong as depressed people have alot of trouble associating joy with things as they are in a very negative thought pattern. When she actually does the thing you may see her smile, her mood lift, her talk about something other than being depressed or all three - this is what she needs to help get her out of this truly aweful condition. Trust me she won't forget the help you give her.