Why is this still haunting me?!
Question: I don't know how involved you are with answering your questions, but I havea few questions on my list on page 7 about the way i was treated when i was pregnant at work. This situation has scarred me for life i think. It haunts me day after day and at my new job i am always so scared that I am not doing something right or I am not good enough for this job because that is what they drilled into my head at my past job. They criticized me the whole time i was pregnant from everything from my hair to my clothes and required things of me and not of others such as taking down unltrasound pictures in my ofc because they looked gothic. I was written up numerous times for things that were far from true (if they were true I would be admitting it by now-- they weren't) even upon my return I was treated poorly. How can i forget about this and get my self esteem back-- it's been 3 months since my employment ended with them and I still tear up at the thought of what they did to me!
Answers: I don't know how involved you are with answering your questions, but I havea few questions on my list on page 7 about the way i was treated when i was pregnant at work. This situation has scarred me for life i think. It haunts me day after day and at my new job i am always so scared that I am not doing something right or I am not good enough for this job because that is what they drilled into my head at my past job. They criticized me the whole time i was pregnant from everything from my hair to my clothes and required things of me and not of others such as taking down unltrasound pictures in my ofc because they looked gothic. I was written up numerous times for things that were far from true (if they were true I would be admitting it by now-- they weren't) even upon my return I was treated poorly. How can i forget about this and get my self esteem back-- it's been 3 months since my employment ended with them and I still tear up at the thought of what they did to me!
you sound somewhat hypersensitive (like me)
you let things get to you very easy and sound very anxious (like me again) haha
if it affects your life negatively, then i suggest someone to talk to. (seeking professional help)
im not calling you "crazy" or anything along those lines, but when people can't see outside the box anothers help is sometimes what is best.
They should just teach you coping strategies or possibly CBT.
You have done nothing wrong. These people just treated you poorly and there's nothing you can change about the past now, but you can move on and help yourself for the future
(by god i sound corny but i hope this did help) x
If the things they said aren't true, then you should not feel bad.
Unfortunately, work can be just as bad as high school or worse. If you can find at least one or two people that you can get along with this will help get you through.
My other word of advice would be to try not to take things so personally, although this is easier said then done. You must consider the source and remember that when people are insecure or feel threatened they sometimes behave this way.
Another thing that may help is to develop friendships outside of work by becoming involved in social groups that share the same interests you do (i.e. scrap-booking, reading, bowling, acting, etc.)
You'll feel a lot better once you have your day in court with the company that allowed this to happen. Find yourself a good lawyer and file suit against them for maltreatment of an employee due to pregnancy ( this is a form of discrimination)- against pregnant wormen.