I'm 16 and have anxiety..need tips on ways to relax in public situations?!
Question: I am 16 years old, have severe anxiety and depression, and am doing a lot better lately. Just wondering what some techiniques you use that work on getting yourself less twitchy and more relaxed in public situations or situations just that have a lot of people..anything you do to help yourself. I'm working with my therapist on ways to help, and I am supposed to ask other people who have it if I am able to..what they do and how they handle anxiety situations! 10 points and thumbs up to the best one!
Answers: I am 16 years old, have severe anxiety and depression, and am doing a lot better lately. Just wondering what some techiniques you use that work on getting yourself less twitchy and more relaxed in public situations or situations just that have a lot of people..anything you do to help yourself. I'm working with my therapist on ways to help, and I am supposed to ask other people who have it if I am able to..what they do and how they handle anxiety situations! 10 points and thumbs up to the best one!
I had a bad problem with this same issue...be sure to tell yourself EVERYTHING is fine. Mine would get to the point where i couldn't breath. If that happened I would say to myself everything is fine and repeat it..if it didn't work i would leave the group or go outside to get a fresh breath of air. It would calm me and I would be fine. Mine would happen mostly in the car (bad experience in car once). I would say the same thing and roll the window down and let the air hit me in the face. I repeated that sentence over and over in my head till i believed it and it worked. I hope this helps you and good luck!
the best thing i found when i was your age and had the same prob was to be around a couple close friends i am comfortable with, and just try to lighten up and not take life and everything so seriously, and to not care as much about what everybody thinks about you.. its not easy i know, but just know whoever likes you for who u are is good for you and whoever doesnt then they dont matter cause they dont/ wont ever be a part of your life! Good Luck, and i hope the best for you
anxiety means we don't feel being in control. Thats the root cause. And in that case no matter what u r suggested u can't execute it since you r not in control to do it. And taking medicines won't help for long.Once you start using it most probably you'll be dependig on it. So the best way is to relax by meditation. DO some yoga. After you relax your mind every day like that you will gain confidence to tackle those anxious situations. Then when you 'll be facing the same situations again your confidence reserve will come into play. And once you break that jinx you won't feel anxious again.
My boyfriend suffered from anxiety really badly, and went to see a counsellor who gave him this tip he said worked really well.
When you are in a situation which makes you anxious, think of all the possibilities and outcomes. Oh this is hard to explain...
Ok example-say you are getting picked up to go out by a friend, who is half an hour late. Often anxiety is caused by all the possibilties whirring through your hear
"Oh they must hate me and don't wanna pick me up"
"They have been in a car accident and are in hospital"
So instead deep breathe, and think about good possibilties.
"They are having a little car trouble"
"They took a nap and are running late" etc
Then try to distract yourself. In a public situation, you can do the same thing.
Worst case scenario-you might do something embarassing. So think of ways to prevent/deal with it, to distract you from thinking about it.
Maybe "Ok,I'm gonna remember to hold the handrail going down those stairs with these heels on!"
or "If I say something funny and no one laughs, I'll just say "Wow,sorry guys,that wasn't very good was it?!" and laugh it off.
These techniques help you focus on solutions rather than problems.Hope it helped and best of luck!
go to bathroom breathe in paper bag, practice watching ur beathing n counting
Build confidence before entering the situation. Try some self-talk therapy, I know it sounds corny , but it's effective. Ask your therapist if you could role play some "social situations", that you would be uncomfortable with in her office. Even ask her/him to bring in one person you don't know at a time, then gradually bring in one more and so on. The counselour will understand this type of CBT therapy. Best of luck to you.
Make relaxation a habit of your body and mind and with that state face life situations.Since you are in consultation with a Therapist, he would advice you on the techniques of relaxation and how to desensitize yourself with anxiety provoking situations.
Deep breathing exercises ( pranayama ) and Meditation also will help you.