How can I survive this Feb 14th :(?!
Question: I always get so sad this time of year. I see all these lovey dovey people and these red hearts and valentine cards and stuff and I get so depressed. I mean I'm just a lonely guy...ever since 2/14/06 when I asked out a girl and I got the "I have a boyfriend" answer...granted its a shame I didn't know her well enough before asking...but thats another story. Last year I locked myself away in my room all day, and missed my classes. This year I'm at home and I don't know how I can live and I'm scared I'm going to do something rash and that I'll regret on Feb 14th. And I don't want to...I'm gonna go to school and see these red hearts and roses and chocolates and then my depression and anxiety is going to reach critical levels and well...D:
Help!
Answers: I always get so sad this time of year. I see all these lovey dovey people and these red hearts and valentine cards and stuff and I get so depressed. I mean I'm just a lonely guy...ever since 2/14/06 when I asked out a girl and I got the "I have a boyfriend" answer...granted its a shame I didn't know her well enough before asking...but thats another story. Last year I locked myself away in my room all day, and missed my classes. This year I'm at home and I don't know how I can live and I'm scared I'm going to do something rash and that I'll regret on Feb 14th. And I don't want to...I'm gonna go to school and see these red hearts and roses and chocolates and then my depression and anxiety is going to reach critical levels and well...D:
Help!
Relax! Most of these 'hopelessly happy' couples are phony anyway! All for show! Look at the divorce rate in this country! Also, maybe the girl that you asked out 2 years ago really did 'have a boyfriend'. Don't take it personal if someone doesn't go out with you for a date, or have the same feelings for you that you may have for them. It's just part of the life cycle. Rejection happens daily, you just have to learn how to "not sweat the small stuff".
As humans, our 'reactions' to lifes ups and downs dictate our demeanor, like if you immediately take personal offense, you are likely to be having a high anxiety or depressed day, as where if you just see someones 'no' or 'I already had plans' or 'I have a boyfriend' as an opportunity for you not to have wasted time on someone unworthy of you, and that they made room for you to grow with someone else down the line, your mood will be upbeat and more positive!
Love yourself first, and you will be able to love and find love in others. Unfortunately it only works when done in that order. Good Luck!
I'm sure there are other people in your position. Just go to school and mingle with them
it may sound corny but Feb. 14th is not just for romantic love. take time to do something for yourself. splurge on a new jacket. spend the time relaxing. do something for your parents.
you'll never know who is out there. everyone has a very own special someone you just have to keep thinking that you'll have the right person for you.
I know the feeling, I'm in the same boat. It's hard to see all these lovey dovey couples, and want to be them. See, I have this guy I like, so on February 13th, I'm going to bake some cookies for him and bring it to school for him the next day. I don't know if it'll work, but, we'll see.
What you can do, is nothing. Lets face it, it's only a holiday. By letting it affect you this badly, you might as well give up on love. So instead of celebrating it as a lovey dovey day for couples, for now, celebrate it as a day to love your friends and family. When you finally get the girl of your dreams, make sure you celebrate it with her and let her know just how much spending Valentine's Day with her means to you and I'm sure she'll like you even more for it.
u have to be a teenager for this to hurt so bad but there are other fish in the sea My goodness son get over her My Mother In Law died Friday and her birthday is Feb 14 now that's going to be hard on us!! every year and we r grown-ups now get over it
Go to school, laugh at everyone who has a valentine because high school relationships are usually pointless. Be happy you don't have a clingy g/f hanging on your arm whose ripping you apart from your friends, is probably cheating on you and bringing you into the hugh circle passing around STD's.
Go buy yourself a box of really nice chocolates. Eat them and savour each one. Every time you eat one, do it in the name of all the rest of us who don't have a Valentine Sweetheart either. You aren't the only one. Go buy yourself one of those head bands that have the hearts on those springy things. Have fun! It only lasts 24 hrs.