Why can I not shake this depression, I was widowed on March 24 , 2006?!
Question: My heart is sad all the time, I attempt to make myself happy yet it is to no avail. I feel lost in this world and have for so long it is driving me mad. Suicide is never an option. What can I do?
Answers: My heart is sad all the time, I attempt to make myself happy yet it is to no avail. I feel lost in this world and have for so long it is driving me mad. Suicide is never an option. What can I do?
I skipped the counseling when my wife passed on March 9th, '02 (we'd been together for 14 years and married for 9.) You're right, it's like tearing the scab off a wound. What helped me was having understanding friends - they let me talk it out when I felt the need to, but didn't bring up the topic themselves. Never keep yourself from talking about her - the ideal situation is to eventually be able to talk about your life together without the pain, not to simply avoid the memories. You'll always miss her, but talking about it - when YOU want to and not at some arbitrary counseling session - helps you become accustomed to hearing her name, to thinking about stuff you did together. Don't try to avoid the topic all the time - that's like sweeping dust under a rug. Sooner or later, there's too much sadness and hurt for the rug to cover and it all comes out at once. And always remember that you'll have to deal with how you feel about it at some point. Shying away from your emotions won't help - it just stores them up for later. Eventually, when her name is once again commonplace in your speech, the pain will cease to be attached to those memories - it won't be easy at first, but the rewards are worth it.
Good luck, mate - feel free to email me anytime.
You need to find someone you can speak to open and very candidly. Until you learn to deal with the pain, it isn't going to go away. Go to a professional if you need to. Sorry for your loss bro.
I think since its been going on a while you need to see your doctor. Tell him how you feel. There is no harm in taking anti-depressants. I've taken them. You don't have to take them forever - I took them for about 6 months. Just long enough to get you out of the "funk"
Have you tried grief counseling? That might help. I am sorry for your loss.
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Professional counseling, diet and exercise. You might need to get on an antidepressent for a temporary period as well. Sorry to hear of your loss. The fact that you can asks about this is a big step in dealing with it.
When you find out, let me know
Short answer because I'm in a reall hurry is to Google "5 steps of grief."
I know what you mean.Just hang in there life will get better. Just remember it will never be the same. Talk to someone you trust about your feeling. Sometimes its good just to talk. If that doesn't help you go to a doctor or therapist. Losing someone is something you never get over but it is something that does get better with time. Just remember that you have family and friends that will be there for you. It takes time to heal and to get through the emotions that you need too. Hang in there and good luck.
You are grieving. What you feel is completely natural and normal. Two years is not a long time when someone you loved has died. I would suggest getting some grief counselling for yourself. If you live in the UK you can call Cruse Bereavement Care, and they will set up an appointment for you.
Edit: Reading about grief is no substitute for TALKING about it. You need to talk about what YOU have been through, how it makes you feel, how it has affected your life. Believe me.
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talk to a professional you shouldn't suffer like this....i'm sure that's what your partner would want you to do..get some self help books and try to stay busy
I can imagine how you feel. However, dwelling on your loss does not make you any happier. You have to bid him farewell because life goes on.
You are also not doing your departed love/mate any favors..... You are tying him down to this your emotional plane. Departed souls have to be released to go on their way. Attachment is all fine - up to a limit. We have to remember that thoughts are all powerful, permeating, interacting on all levels of existence. The earth plane is only one among many. As long as you are trying to tie down his "essence", neither one of you will find happiness and resolve from agony. Be Free and enjoy life! I am sure "he" does not want you to be unhappy. True love is an unselfish affair.
I've been there. It's really hard to move on after the death of a loved one. It can take years. I'm so sorry for your loss. It feels like no one can understand the emptiness, but it helps to talk. There are times when it's really difficult and I have to avoid certain situations because it brings up memories. I don't know if I'll ever truly get over the loss.
The best thing that's helped me is staying active, increasing my folic acid and B-12 intake, and talking about it.