How can i be more talkative and confidnet ?!


Question: When i normally get around people im really quiet and not my true self. How can i stop acting like this and carry on a conversation ? I tend to avoid social interactions because of this problem .


Answers: When i normally get around people im really quiet and not my true self. How can i stop acting like this and carry on a conversation ? I tend to avoid social interactions because of this problem .

Confidence comes from inside you. You have to believe in you. You have to know how awesome you truly are. No one can tell you this to make you confident.

Try to think about why you act the way you do around people? Are you worried you may say something stupid? Are you worried that they won't like you? It helps to know what the reasoning is, so you can start dealing with it from there. Real friends will accept you and like you for who you are. They will make you feel comfortable being whoever it is you want to be.

There are lots of books out there that give advice about dealing with shyness.. like practicing what to say in certain scenarios etc. Did you ever read the book "who moved my cheese".. in it, they ask the question, "what would you do if you weren't afraid" .. Ask yourself this question, and then do it.

relax man, you're just kindda shy and maybe you have some social anxiety problems..it happens to the best of us. you should love yourself, and be true to the people you are around....everyone has a different personality, i doubt you are evil so people won't hate ya. just crack some jokes...just be like hey my name is "_____" what's your name? believe it or not, the people around you are the same way. some just wait for others to have the first word in the conversation cause they're scared of rejection, i guess like you are. i am way too talkative, and kindda hyper even with my adderall, so i don't really have this problem...but my girlfriend is kindda shy around people at school when we were freshman (we're juniors now) and she always jokes with me and her friends that she was always scared to say something to them so they she'd wait for them to talk. just be calm, you need to believe in yourself because you're never going to be stronger if you just avoid it....i bet ya have a lot of great qualities people look for in a friend. just take a beath, wait a minute, and say something. don't be worried....it happens to the best of the best.

have faith,trust yourself, feel and think postive and say to youself i am okay look at yourself and relax

You just need to relax. This sounds like a possilbe anxiety problem and there are meds out there that really do help with this. (Speed also works well, but I don't recommend it) Just kidding. My advice to you is that if you dont want to take meds, then you need to just plundge in. It will get easier the more you do it. You'll be fine..

Having been shy most of my life, I understand. It can be very hard. Some things that have helped me at social gatherings: try to find someone that you have something in common with; hang out with the ones who love to talk and only need a good listener!; stay informed to as many current events as you can, such as the candidates/election, sports, oil prices, etc., because most people are interested in something current going on and staying informed gives you more to talk about; at any time you can silently listen to other people conversing, absorb it all in, learn the art of conversation by really listening to others participating in it, it may sound like a dumb thing, but I learned how to be a better conversationalist by learning from real 'talkers'!; finally, try to not be too self focused or to self criticizing of your conversations. Instead of self-focusing on yourself, re-focus on who you are talking with and learn to get really interested in what other people have to say. Don't to be critical of your own opinions and ideas... being able to SHARE those ideas and opinions is many times what really makes up 'conversation'!

well guess what ull find someone to really be confident around and it will cme out naturally well thats just how u are





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