How to ask for help? I cut myself.. i know that i need help but i don't know!
Question: I really need to stop it.. i cut since i was 16 years old, now i'm 23 but i still do it.. and what is worse for the fist time a week ago i started to burn myself and i just don't know why... i don't feel depressed or anxious or stressed.. i just can't understand... I'll be graduating from college next semester and start graduate school after it... i just feel worthless how in the hell am i going to be a proffessional with an awful mental problem.. i don't know!!! help plz...i want to ask my family doctor but i just don't know how... what should i tell him.. how should i tell him.. what do i tell the nurses when i make the appointment.. 'cause they always ask u .. why do you want to see the doctor? I really feel very confortable with this doctor i like him a lot.. but it is so embarrasing ... i would really prefer to stay with him.. i don't want to go with a psychiatrist... I don't know.. please give me some ideas.. Thanks!! (excuse my spelling... i'm in a hurry!!)
Answers: I really need to stop it.. i cut since i was 16 years old, now i'm 23 but i still do it.. and what is worse for the fist time a week ago i started to burn myself and i just don't know why... i don't feel depressed or anxious or stressed.. i just can't understand... I'll be graduating from college next semester and start graduate school after it... i just feel worthless how in the hell am i going to be a proffessional with an awful mental problem.. i don't know!!! help plz...i want to ask my family doctor but i just don't know how... what should i tell him.. how should i tell him.. what do i tell the nurses when i make the appointment.. 'cause they always ask u .. why do you want to see the doctor? I really feel very confortable with this doctor i like him a lot.. but it is so embarrasing ... i would really prefer to stay with him.. i don't want to go with a psychiatrist... I don't know.. please give me some ideas.. Thanks!! (excuse my spelling... i'm in a hurry!!)
You definitely do need help, it is not normal to harm yourself. You are doing it to either feel something but, most likely you are feeling your life is out of control and this is something you and you alone can control so you hurt yourself, how & when you want. Try your family doctor, I know the nurses are always nosey. Maybe you can tell them it is of a very personal nature & prefer only telling the doctor. Instead of first saying something to him, show him what you have done to yourself and ask him for his help. There are medications that can help but, I am pretty sure he will want you to get some counselling too. I was afraid of counselling also at first. Now there are times I can't hardly wait to get there, because I know I am talking with someone who cares, without judging me. Good luck I will keep you in my prayers. Please don't put this off, what if you accidentally cut yourself too deep?
See self harm, in section 16, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and contact them, when you feel the need to self harm/cut. Print this Q & A: highlight/underline, and hand it over to your doctor, saying you feel uncomfortable talking about this. To the nurse: "Migraine headaches".
Just tell them. It'll be hard but thats what you have to do. Its good to hear that you want help! Just say to your family "I have a problem can ya help me?" And if a nurse asks you just say it straight, who cares what they think. The important thing is that you take care of you!
Take it from me I am 23 now and I just recently stopped doing tings like that about 2 years ago it is hard to ask for help cause you don't want people looking down on you. Although you need to think of on thing if they truely care about you their not goig to look down on you and judge you they will be willing to help and you wuld be amazed as to who would help you through something like that. If you don't want to talk to a family member or friend about it go to pathways and ask for help from them and they will keep everything private nobody even has to know that your getting help. You don't have to go to a crazy doctor to get help all you need is support from a loved one or a true friend thats all.
there are other people that have come up with more embarrassing problems.
at least you want help though. i think that you should just come right out with it and say that you would like to get help and will except any treatment in order to make you quit because you think it will have an effect on your career. if you ask straight forward and tell them that you are willing to accept the treatment im sure they will be more relaxed that you are going to compromise.
hey, its not like you are being dragged to the doctor and have to go through an intervention type thing. i d consider you pretty smart for noticing the problem and wanting help compared to a lot of other people that cut.