I feel so depressed... my fiance works the night shift, and I only see him when !
Question: I moved 500 miles away from all my friends and family for my fiance's job, so my fiance is really the only person I have for company. I try to keep busy with school and work, but I still feel depressed when it is just me and the dog on saturday night. I talk to co-workers but they aren't interested in hanging out ever, b/c everyone has young kids. I know it could be worse, at least I'm not a military spouse!! Please offer some hints to keep me from going bonkers.
Answers: I moved 500 miles away from all my friends and family for my fiance's job, so my fiance is really the only person I have for company. I try to keep busy with school and work, but I still feel depressed when it is just me and the dog on saturday night. I talk to co-workers but they aren't interested in hanging out ever, b/c everyone has young kids. I know it could be worse, at least I'm not a military spouse!! Please offer some hints to keep me from going bonkers.
You need to make some single friends of your own that you can go out and enjoy yourself with instead of letting your boyfriend being the master of your happiness. I understand , been there, done that. Only you can truly be the master of your happiness, no one else can. You may think they are making you happy but, as you said you are so unhappy when he is not around, is he unhappy when you are not around. I'll bet he goes out with his buddies, and does just what ever pleases him with out you at times. Find something you are interested in and join a group or a club. Start going to church and make friends there, there is always something going on in a church. Maybe you can afford to occasionally go home for a vacation with the folks or them fly out to see you. Try some volunteer work, Big Sister, Big Brothers, old folks homes, local free clothing shops, write letter to the soldiers in Iraq, they don't have to know you to enjoy hearing from someone back home, take up a hobby that occupies your time when he is sleeping or gone and before you know it, either he will be awake or home from work. Take your dog on long walks, I am sure he will enjoy it and you will both benefit from the exercise (helps with the depression); never know might find a walking buddy. Biggest thing is you have to stop keeping your self in seclusion, the longer you do the harder the habit will be to break. Good luck, I understand, my situations have been a little different but, I have walked in your shoes. There is more to life out there than sitting around home moping while he is gone. Go see a funny movie by yourself or a friend, laughter is great for the soul.
thats hard to say try finding hobbies you like i am in the same situation i moved 2 states away from my family and friend to live with my boyfriend of four 1/2 years we have a 3 year old together and i am always home alone because he works allot so i just try and keep my self busy with things i like to do or i just find something to do around the house i know how you feel though its hard
Enroll in a college course or two.