How can I be motivated to do stuff?!
Question: Im 16, and I have no hobbies, or interests, I have no motivation to work at school, I don't want a job, I never want to go out, I don't mind leaving my room completely horrible for months because I can't be bothered to tidy it.
The most annoying thing is that I have motivation to go out with my friends. I just don't want to, so they get annoyed at me, and I'm losing a load of friends. But I just can't make myself go out. And even now they only go to places I won't get in because I look really young. So Im losing all my friends and I have no way of making any more.
How can I be motivated?!
Answers: Im 16, and I have no hobbies, or interests, I have no motivation to work at school, I don't want a job, I never want to go out, I don't mind leaving my room completely horrible for months because I can't be bothered to tidy it.
The most annoying thing is that I have motivation to go out with my friends. I just don't want to, so they get annoyed at me, and I'm losing a load of friends. But I just can't make myself go out. And even now they only go to places I won't get in because I look really young. So Im losing all my friends and I have no way of making any more.
How can I be motivated?!
I used to be just like you. Maybe a bit younger. You need to start by taking a bit of control of your life i.e cleaning up your room. You have no idea how good a clean room can make you feel. When I am feeling a bit useless I'll do some chores around the house or go for a walk into town where they are other people. It's better to get out and meet with people instead of being alone. Two years ago I lost all my friends because I stopped travelling to the city they lived in. But I made new friends. You could always try to listen to some uplifting music or read some self help books (my mum always buys them, i'm not really into them).
Now as for your friends tell them they are not the reason you don't want to go out. Just tell them you are not feeing motivated. Maybe they will help.
My doctor used to put me on a tonic because he thought I was lethargic, which is basically just like not being motivated.
And one day you're going to have to work. So stay focused in school and build your skills while you still can. Otherwise you'll have nothing to show at job interviews and won't get the job.
I'm a drop out student, who eventually got a highschool certificate. But finding work is so hard.
And you've got to have some interests. You're on the net. Ever thought of learning html?
OK, well I'll leave it at that.
Don't worry, many teenagers go through this. Well I did. I hope you do get motivated to go out, do schoolwork and find work. Because when you're an adult your social life, education and job really do matter.
If your losing your freinds because you are at a point in your life that your not comfortable going out with them, maybe it's time for a few new friends who are a little more understanding, & care about your feelings?
You sound like you got some troubles, beyond simply not being motivated--you almost sound depressed. Either that or you just dont have enough responsibilities. Why don't you join a club or organization, that pulls you out of your room. Force youself to get a job that you have to go to, something where you know that people are depending on you not to screw up. Maybe volunteering in a nursing home where people are really in a place that they dont want to be and could really lose motivation. Set up some goals that you want to accomplish-- and after you do the things that need to be done to get there, think how rewarding it would be. ( You want a new electronic thats out there on the market, working a job will provide the money to get it for yourself.) Maybe yo gotta talk to a counselor, it sounds like you dont really care if you do lose your friends, this is not healthy thinking. Maybe your folks need to demand more out of you. Talk to them too. Good luck.
i'm like you too and i'm 17. there must be something else going on in your life or something has happened at home or somewhere which has made you like this you can't just be like this. i think you should try and solve these problems - if you dont have any maybe you have a hormonal imbalance or something and you should see a doctor. anyway i'll pray for us xxx
It sounds like you might have a depression.
I find that exercise makes me feel good and gives me energy, and it is a way of making more friends. Try it, there is really something to making a physical effort.