What would you define this feeling as?!
Question: I'm in eighth grade. I live in the United States.
My very close friends moved to Europe last June - they are twins; for convenience, let's call them Greg and Luke. I was informed they were moving in the middle of last March. I have Greg's email address and I am friends with Luke on Facebook. They're not online too much.
I was very sad when I found out they were moving, but the thing is, my feelings don't seem to be changing over time. I've known they were moving for almost a year, but my sad feelings about it have stayed the same in depth.
(At this point, my parents are really exasperated with me...they are unwilling to discuss the matter with me. I do have a therapist, however.)
What are your suggestions on what I am feeling? What is going on?
Answers: I'm in eighth grade. I live in the United States.
My very close friends moved to Europe last June - they are twins; for convenience, let's call them Greg and Luke. I was informed they were moving in the middle of last March. I have Greg's email address and I am friends with Luke on Facebook. They're not online too much.
I was very sad when I found out they were moving, but the thing is, my feelings don't seem to be changing over time. I've known they were moving for almost a year, but my sad feelings about it have stayed the same in depth.
(At this point, my parents are really exasperated with me...they are unwilling to discuss the matter with me. I do have a therapist, however.)
What are your suggestions on what I am feeling? What is going on?
You are feeling a sense of loss. Its normal they obviously meant alot to you and they were a big part of your life, but remember, there is nothing you or they can do to change the situation. You need to remember the good things you did together and smile about it. Try thinking of all the positive things you guys did together. Then , pull yourself out of this depression and enjoy your young beautiful life. Go out or visit some of your other friends and have fun
Sounds like you could be depressed maybe? Although you'll need to provide more information for this to be of any help.
I believe that right now you are depressed because one of the twins that left you kinda liked. Now since they are gone you fill like you should of probaly gone out with him but now you will never have the chance so you are depressed that you let him go.
I think you really miss your friends and that is okay. It would be good for you to have new good friends to keep busy with.
You didn't say how old you were but did mention your parents. You mentioned you had a therapist. Your sadness is part of a grief reaction over the loss of your friends (closeness) and may be part of depression. What you need to understand and come to accept is life is pockmarked with losses of all kinds and there is no avoiding it. The best antidotes I can suggest ar talking to your therapist and investing time and energy in developing some more friends.
Cindy H
Bottom Line Here:
You have a therapist. It is best for you to seek answers within the medical community and not medical advice here.
I am a nurse that has worked in the psych field for many years and I wouldn't speculate on your condition.
Ask your therapist to direct you to a psychiatrist for an accurate diagnosis.
Best of luck to you and I sure hope that you feel better soon.
You are lonely. Experienced a loss. So you have a greiving process to go through; however, it can be unhealthy if you do not make other friends and particpate in other activities. You may not feel like it at first, but you have to force yourself until you start living again.
You are not weird or anything -- everyone feels bad when their friends have to move away -- but you can get better! Good luck! And now, get out there and go to the movies or arcade
poor dear...could be depression..I'll pray...
take care
well,whats so wrong with missing close relationships ? ? also what ,s so unnerving to anyone if your feelings continue for an additional year ? ? anyone instructing you on an acceptable time frame to be over your friends , stick a loli-pop in their mouth. . you miss your friends 1 more day or 1 more year, it is your time , your heart that will recover.o.k. then,there you go.