Need help with domestic violence?!
Question: hi
im having trouble trusting my mum's partner. i can't help worrying about wether he is going to hurt my mum. my dad used to hurt me and my mum a when i was younger. i've dealt with the anger part, my boxing coach helpped me channel my anger into boxing. but im finding it really hard trusting people. i even worry about my brother when he argues with my mum i know he wouldn't hurt my mum but i get really worried. my mum has gone away at the moment with her partner and i've been physically sick worrying about it. im 16 and not really ready to talk about it. i still get very bad nightmares about it and i had thought i was over it but i don't think i am. can any body give me any advice please.
Answers: hi
im having trouble trusting my mum's partner. i can't help worrying about wether he is going to hurt my mum. my dad used to hurt me and my mum a when i was younger. i've dealt with the anger part, my boxing coach helpped me channel my anger into boxing. but im finding it really hard trusting people. i even worry about my brother when he argues with my mum i know he wouldn't hurt my mum but i get really worried. my mum has gone away at the moment with her partner and i've been physically sick worrying about it. im 16 and not really ready to talk about it. i still get very bad nightmares about it and i had thought i was over it but i don't think i am. can any body give me any advice please.
you MUST go see a therapist IMMEDIATELY to talk about it. whether you feel "ready" or not. this is a major problem for you. it is also crucial for your future relationships to work these things out, for if you do not address them, YOU WILL GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH AN ABUSER. it is a FACT. speak to your school guidance counselor and ask for referral to a local therapist. you need at least 1 hour a week for a year (or more) to work on this. this is EXTREMELY serious trauma that you have suffered.
post traumatic stress disorder sounds like.
trust your moms boyfriend...not every man is like your father.
i have bipolar disorder, and i have a lovely girlfriend of 2 years...and i have three sisters. i've never hit them, my younger sister and i just mess around but i'd never cause any pain to them. your brother probably knows it's not good to hit women...why did your mom go away? like vacation and she just left you and your brother alone???
Trust your instincts. God gave them to you for a reason.
Check out http://www.save-dv.org/aboutdv_redflags.... for a list of things to look out for. Report any abuse to the police immediately.
Are there resources in your area to help and support you? Try to find an agency that can.
God loves you and you are precious to Him. He is our loving heavenly Father. Just pray for your Mum and her partner that they both will get connected with God and live a peaceful and happy life. Worry does not help, but prayers are useful. If you love them, pray really hard for them.
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God gives us a wonderful body and a sound mind and life.
God loves us, and we are precious to Him.
The Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation, and qualifying us to Heaven.
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