Will someone please help me?!
Question: i think im the textbook definition of stress. i cry at least once a day and i am very emotional - even the smallest things make me feel like crying. i feel helpless and like i have no future. i get very nervous, and i laugh a lot. i get embarrased very easily. i sleep at 9:30pm and im exhausted during the day. my heart rate goes very very fast and as a result i avoid talking to people. i am very very obsessive and i worry about things which are pathetic. This is ruining my life. I put myself down a lot and i let people walk over me. I feel like im not worth anything. I'm 17 - i guess my background does contribute to it, my dads very controlling and talking to my parents wont help its natural to them to be like this because they are irranian even though we are living in England. My grades are dropping - ive been feeling sick lately and dizzy and asking to go out of maths class because i can't focus. It's sick, i don't have an arranged marraige but i feel like my whole purpose
Answers: i think im the textbook definition of stress. i cry at least once a day and i am very emotional - even the smallest things make me feel like crying. i feel helpless and like i have no future. i get very nervous, and i laugh a lot. i get embarrased very easily. i sleep at 9:30pm and im exhausted during the day. my heart rate goes very very fast and as a result i avoid talking to people. i am very very obsessive and i worry about things which are pathetic. This is ruining my life. I put myself down a lot and i let people walk over me. I feel like im not worth anything. I'm 17 - i guess my background does contribute to it, my dads very controlling and talking to my parents wont help its natural to them to be like this because they are irranian even though we are living in England. My grades are dropping - ive been feeling sick lately and dizzy and asking to go out of maths class because i can't focus. It's sick, i don't have an arranged marraige but i feel like my whole purpose
It sounds like you are suffering from a feeling of lack of control over your existence. It is a proven fact that people feel more stressed in their lives if they feel like they have no control over their situation (at work for instance). They studied it with lab animals by giving them a small unpleasant punishment when they pressed this or that button. The animals that were allowed to have control over the situation were much less stressed and more composed.
I am not sure what advice I should give you since I do not come from a traditional patriarchal culture like your parents. The thing is, you are growing up in a Western culture, and you won't be exactly like your parents. You'll be a mix of both cultures, something in between. Middle Eastern parents are sometimes upset about that.
I suggest that you focus on getting a good education. THAT is within your control. THAT is your power: becoming a smart educated WOMAN. You can work hard, and get good grades. Having a diploma will give you opportunities in life. The important thing is to gain the skills to be able to stand on your own two legs, and take care of yourself financially. If you have marketable skills, you'll never be stuck.
You're not an adult yet, give yourself time. You'll sort out your identity/self-esteem issues.
You need to speak to someone at achool about how you feel maybe if you cant trust speaking to your parents. I can understand how you feel about the controlling dad, i never used to talk to my dad about anything as he would tell me what he would do all the time and expect me to think exactly the same , even if i didnt. Do you have many friends at school?? you need to find a group of ppl you can trust and get along with and go out and do some things you enjoy doing. it wont always be like this i think being 16/17 is a tough age. A lot of women all the strive to be is married, i think if you do what you want to do in life and are happy it doesnt matter. but if you are feeling really down you must talk to someone about your problems, if not a friend then a fmaily member you trust.
Some females in our culture have a similar problem leading to depression. The chemicals of depression sets one's mind up for indoctrination later on. This is usually associated with religious practices or family structures. Crying is a sign of the first stages of depression. In our culture the prime cause of sadness would be the boyfriend or the cold wife. Generally it is a loner personality that is so abused.
What do you see when you close your eyes? And what about when you open them? How dramatic is the difference? We are entitled to our fantasies. Indeed, we really ought to see them as essential to our well-being. What's the point of a life without dreams? It's true too, that some dreams are best left unfulfilled. They are more enjoyable in the imagination than they would ever be in reality. Yet every so often, we have to get a little of what we want, if only to maintain the tantalising illusion that the rest might just be attainable.
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Try writing about how you feel and write down what you really want from life.
Be honest about what you really want and follow it.
Have courage and believe in yourself!
I think there are some famous Iranian women authors.
Try to find those books because those women went through all that and came out on top.
Find a friend of any age that doesn't want anything from you that you can share with.
Learn to pray for what you want or learn to visualize what you want it will come to you!
Talk to other Iranian or muslim girls who may have the same problem and see how you can help each other...
Be honest about the anger you feel inside.
Get involved with a sport so you can vent your anger in a healthy way...
Try to be positive even if everyone around you is negative!
God provides courage from within if you ask for it, it will be there.
Respect your self because your body is Gods temple.
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