Stressed out to extremes?!
Question: think im the textbook definition of stress. i cry at least once a day and i am very emotional - even the smallest things make me feel like crying. i feel helpless and like i have no future. i get very nervous, and i laugh a lot. i get embarrased very easily. i sleep at 9:30pm and im exhausted during the day. my heart rate goes very very fast and as a result i avoid talking to people. i am very very obsessive and i worry about things which are pathetic. This is ruining my life. I put myself down a lot and i let people walk over me. I feel like im not worth anything. I'm 17 - i guess my background does contribute to it, my dads very controlling and talking to my parents wont help its natural to them to be like this because they are irranian even though we are living in England. My grades are dropping - ive been feeling sick lately and dizzy and asking to go out of maths class because i can't focus. It's sick, i don't have an arranged marraige but i feel like my whole purpose
Answers: think im the textbook definition of stress. i cry at least once a day and i am very emotional - even the smallest things make me feel like crying. i feel helpless and like i have no future. i get very nervous, and i laugh a lot. i get embarrased very easily. i sleep at 9:30pm and im exhausted during the day. my heart rate goes very very fast and as a result i avoid talking to people. i am very very obsessive and i worry about things which are pathetic. This is ruining my life. I put myself down a lot and i let people walk over me. I feel like im not worth anything. I'm 17 - i guess my background does contribute to it, my dads very controlling and talking to my parents wont help its natural to them to be like this because they are irranian even though we are living in England. My grades are dropping - ive been feeling sick lately and dizzy and asking to go out of maths class because i can't focus. It's sick, i don't have an arranged marraige but i feel like my whole purpose
Listen. Your 17. 1 more year and you can go away to college. Dont worry about your family and that tight grip your father has on you. You can leave and never go back. it is so much fun living on your own. You can do whatever you want. Bring girls over, smoke, drink and the list goes on. This isnt the end.
That sounds like depression. You said you feel hopeless? Your heart rate goes up? You get embarrassed easily? You cry alot?
Those are all signs of depression, and you should first figure out what it is that's making you depressed. Have there been lots of deaths? Family problems? Or anything else that's constantly in the back of your mind? Notice your dreams, that may help you. And exercise more, eat right, and listen to music. Tell someone how you feel, too. Someone you can absolutely trust.
See stress treatments, at ezy build, below on page 42. Practise daily, one of the relaxation techniques on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i; whichever works best for you, but the mindfulness breathing for 15 - 20 mns is ideal, although the progressive muscle relaxation can be learned quickly, and takes only several minutes, if pressed for time. Employ the EFT version for use in public, for which you can reasonably claim that you have a headache, as you massage/tap your temples, but it may be advisable to restrict yourself to subvocalising (saying it to yourself, in your mind, not aloud). Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o refer. "Even though I sometimes suffer from stress, I deeply and completely accept myself". You can also multitask, using the gazing technique, as you walk/jog or exercise, by focusing on a distant object, noting any thoughts which flash across your mind, without pursuing any particular train of thought, just gently redirect your focus to the gazing. Yoga, or Tai Chi may suit others, better. Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily, replacing 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements, or a teaspoonful of the oil (I spread mine on toast, and mask its strong taste with fishpaste, and pepper), in the winter months only, and eat healthily, in accordance with your "nutritional type" as determined at http://www.mercola.com/ SEARCHBAR. http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Is there a school counselor you can talk to, or a suitable teacher? You may be suffering from depression: many of the treatments are the same as those for stress. My standard post follows, but, if you are young, antidepressants are unsuitable for young people. See depression treatments, at ezy build, below, in section 2, and consult a doctor, to eliminate thyroid problems, etc. as possible contributing factors: also seek a referral to a therapist using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy. It is your decision, and yours alone, as to whether to take any antidepressants offered, but, before you do, read section 1, and check medications out at www.drugs.com so you will be on the lookout for side effects, like sexual dysfunction. My strong recommendation, however, is to follow the advice of my doctor, his associate, and also Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN NP, and Dr. Mercola, at www.mercola.com and many others: avoid antidepressants (pages 2V, and 2Z refer, & antidepressant websites: page 2). The reasons why we all share the same view on this are explained in full, as you will find, if you read the whole section. All of their advice, (except prayer, because many people are not religious) I have incorporated into the "core treatments", including occupational therapy, relaxation techniques, and exercise, with others as options, such as the supplements: Inositol, or SAMe, or herbal remedies, like St. John's wort. If you are diagnosed with clinical (major) depression, antidepressants may be necessary for a while, which will give the treatments time to become effective. The antidepressants themselves need at least several days, or even weeks to begin becoming effective. It's a good idea to taper off them slowly, with medical advice, after several months, say, to a couple of years, at most, because they are only effective in the long term for about 30% of people. Because of this, you would be well advised to begin the treatments immediately, and maintain them. I'd just thank your mental health care provider, and pocket the prescription, trying the treatments for a few months, to see if they are sufficient for you, before considering filling it (unless clinically depressed, and having great difficulty functioning, or suicidal, in which case I'd take them). If the amount of daylight you have been exposed to recently has reduced, perhaps due to the change of seasons, see Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.) in section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris and, instead of taking 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily; replace 2 of them with cod liver oil supplements for the winter months only! (or, as probably a better alternative to the 2 cod liver oil supplements: 1 teaspoonful of cod liver oil, with a little butter, to ensure its use; I take mine on sourdough rye bread, or toast, covered with fishpaste, and pepper, to mask the strong taste). Consider having your doctor test your vitamin D levels, using the 25 Hydroxyvitamin D test. Optimal levels are 50 - 55 ng/ml (115 - 125 nmol/l. It should be above 32 ng/ml. Those people who receive adequate exposure to sunlight, daily, won't need the vitamin D from cod liver oil, but many people, particularly those in latitudes far from the equator, find this difficult, to achieve. Move out as soon as you can, and make your own decisions, but avoid drinking, and smoking.
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