My Life TOTALLY SUCKS! Do you Agree or Disagree??!
Question: I totally HATE my life & here's why:
1. I was physically & emotionally abused, and sexually molested at the ages of 3-4 by the owners of a preschool I went to. Cuz of their threats I never told anyone till I was 17 & my life was in shambles & then they didn't believe me
2. Because of several chronic medical conditions, I can't work & am on disability. But because its not enough to live on, I'm almost 30 & still live with my parents.
Yet, even if I could work (which I can't) even part-time or at home employment, the rules of my disability are so strict that if I earn anything more than $500 of BEFORE-TAX INCOME a month, I not only lose my disability but also the medical coverage that goes with it. In other words, I'll be COMPLETELY uninsured with NO way to pay the medical bills for my conditions.
3. Most of my so-called friends, my age, are scattered all over the country & barely ever make any effort to keep in regular contact. I've had NO close friends in almost 12 years.
Answers: I totally HATE my life & here's why:
1. I was physically & emotionally abused, and sexually molested at the ages of 3-4 by the owners of a preschool I went to. Cuz of their threats I never told anyone till I was 17 & my life was in shambles & then they didn't believe me
2. Because of several chronic medical conditions, I can't work & am on disability. But because its not enough to live on, I'm almost 30 & still live with my parents.
Yet, even if I could work (which I can't) even part-time or at home employment, the rules of my disability are so strict that if I earn anything more than $500 of BEFORE-TAX INCOME a month, I not only lose my disability but also the medical coverage that goes with it. In other words, I'll be COMPLETELY uninsured with NO way to pay the medical bills for my conditions.
3. Most of my so-called friends, my age, are scattered all over the country & barely ever make any effort to keep in regular contact. I've had NO close friends in almost 12 years.
Whoever said you are an attention seeker, didn't even bother to read your complete question and just made a stupid comment. I feel for you. It sounds like a hard life you've had. I know this will sound very clique but therapy can really help you with the abuse you experienced in your childhood. It can help you heal the past wounds and that can be a start for you! about the parenting part, I think you should talk to someone about your feelings about sex ( Maybe to a therapist?) becasue it's not normal. Again, that might be due to the things you experienced as a child which can all be healed through therapy. In the meanwhile, I think you should work on these issues for a couple of years and If you hopefully do get married and have kids, that would be good but if not, when you are more stable, adaption sounds like a wonderful choice! give this a try! My blessings will always be with you.
I think your'e an attention seeker.
Too much to read.
Wow...
tldr
or need a tldr version because im not reading that
If you think it does, it does.
Try reading the book, "We're All Doing Time," by Bo Lozoff.
We all have problems Sweetie, you need to talk to a psychiatrist about your problems they know how to help you over come it.
Having us tell you yes your life is bad isn't going to help you overcome your problems in fact it will probably make it worse.
I could give you the low down on my life like when I had to help clean up the brains and blood from when my aunt used a shot gun to blow off her boyfriends head or when I was raped and got pregnant by my best friends husband but in the end that doesn't matter.
You need to get off your pity party and get help, go out and do something for yourself even if it's just to go to the park or a walk around the block
I'm sorry. May you have a better than average afterlife!
After reading that, I am almost suicidal. You need to quit wallowing in self pity and move on with your life. Get out of the house and make friends, quit making excuses.
Good Luck!!
NO chill out babe
Try joining a service program. It'll help you to enjoy life and focus less on all the negatives that have happened to you. I say help other people... that's what i do when i feel down.
life only sucks if you choose to. You always have room to improve, it's your choice if you want to sit here and complain instead of doing something
Ok...
Just to get this out of the way now: It's YOUR life to live. You are just existing right now. It is your life. You are old enough now to make decisions about how you will live it.
Get therapy. Tell your story to someone who can help you work through your difficult past. If you continue to use the past as the reason why you can't live in the present, then you will never be happy or find happiness.
Only YOU can decide to make decisions for change to improve your life.
Best wishes to you.
i would say your life has been harder than some
but its never too late to turn it around
just try something that makes you happy
church perhaps
talk to someone
just smile
if you can
yeah it does problem with today is that if this were 1850 someone would just out ya out of your misery. Im prolly a bit blunt when i say this but maybe put the meds down and just grow up how hard is it to hold a steady job? not that hard actually
wow... thats really bad
well at least you have the good things in life...
just join clubs in your spare time.. you will meet new people... *ahem ahem*... guys
and who knows... you might meet the right one! hehe!
just go out and enjoy your life!.. leave all the bad things in the past!.. theyre there for a reason!.. so dont look back at them!
just have fun and look for the future!
good luck!
You have most certainly been through a lot, but that doesn't nessacarily mean your lifes sucks. You are still moving forward in life and you haven't given up. And for that I admire you. I haven't been through these things like you, and yet even I feel like giving up sometimes. And then to hear your story and know that you appreciate your life and would never dream of taking it away, makes me smile. You should be really proud of what you have accomplished and what you still have to accomplish. Having a boyfriend or husband isn't only about sex. I know there is a man out there who WILL love you. And if you think I'm sounding crazy right now, tell your self to shutup. I'm not lying!! If you take your time and wait, you will learn how much you love life. Even with your past, it's time to move on. Look to the future. Make the best of it. Don't let any disability slow you down. Don't worry what people think. It's your life, so go have fun and experiment with it.
ciao
Wow. Lots of bad things here.
1. Would you consider doing volunteer work?
2. Are you getting counseling?
3. You sound very angry. ("so-called friends...") In the most nonjudgemental spirit, I do need to point out that being angry is not a good way to make friends. You might need more counseling to help you get over the anger.
4. Don't have a child! Having children would complicate your life immeasurably, and would not be fair to the child. There's a reason the adoption agencies wouldn't approve you, right?
5. You need to get out of the safe-and-miserable rut and make some changes. What does your counselor suggest in the way of changes? Have you tried them?
I think the issue is not if your life sucks or not, it's whether or not there are any positive changes you can make in your (admittedly, currently) lousy circumstances.
It sounds as if you have had a very sad life...I agree with that. However, my daughter, who has gone through many of the same traumas you have has gradually pulled herself out of this situation and into a happy, healthy, and productive life.
Yes, it took a lot of counseling. It took a lot of help from family, too. The key word here is GRADUALLY. Your life will not miraculously change overnight but it can change. Just as an example, you say you can't work. Why don't you start by changing that statement to, "I don't know YET what kind of work I can do, but I am going to take steps to find out." Here's another. "I may not have many, or any, friends right now, but once my life becomes more productive, I'm sure I'll make some friends through the course of daily living."
That's just the beginning. If you get some counseling to get to the bottom of some of the issues which arose from the abuse you suffered, you will have hope (again, GRADUALLY) that you'll see yourself worthy of a love life and a sex life.
I hope you'll start taking some of these steps so you (eventually) won't feel that your life sucks anymore.
Guess what i have all the same problems as you and more......stop complaining...go to school...get a degree....deal with it...no one cares.
Quit whining!!!!!!!!!!!
You sure your not on disability for a mental condition?
As far as being a virgin, You woulden't have this problem if you were good looking. When life gives you lemons make
Lemon-aid.
WOW.....I'm kinda sorry I came into your room. I really don't know what to say. I feel sorry about what you went through in the past, it must have been terrible. I can't think of anyone who has gone through what you have. Reluctantly.....I have to agree with you. I'm 60 and because of my many chronic medical conditions I've had to go on medical disability. It doesn't pay much but I get by. I get $1050.00/month. I have a van, had to apply for subsidy for my apartment, have Internet..telephone and cable that I have to pay for. My apartment rents for $750.00/month, I pay $280.00/ month, the province pays the difference. My utilities are $130.00/month. Vehicle insurance, gasoline..etc runs about $150.00/month. The balance is for groceries, smokes, clothes...etc. Because I'm on disability all my medical needs are paid for by the government. At one time my medications alone were around $500.00/month. Thank God it's covered under healthcare. By living at home with your parents you are limiting yourself to benefits you would otherwise be entitled to. Since you have Internet access, find out all the benefits you would get if you had your own place. You need a change. To hull with the past, you can't change...you can learn by it but reliving it day by day is taking you down. You are belittling and degrading yourself. It wasn't your fault and who are you taking it out on....yourself. You need a change of scenery, a life of your own, new friends...male and female. And don't be so hung up on the sex thing...if...and when the time is right...you'll know. You need to move on, grow into the budding beauty inside of you. Time to be happy now, throw the past away and start fresh. You will make it. You'll find out you're entitled to more benefits when you're out on your own.
R~
Your life does sound like it sucks and i know how you feel. Being the victim of sexual abuse can live with you forever. Do you know what helps me cope is prayer. I feel really good when i pray. It feels like all the bad thing in life just go away and you can do anything. You just got to believe in yourself. Belive you can do it. Dont think negatively this just puts you down. I dont know how to explain it but once you belive in yourself its like youv`e got this power within you and you can make changes in your life, you feel confident. You feel alive and in control. The thing is you control your life. Some things dont turn out the way you want them to but you still have that control to change things around.