My mom wont listen?!
Question: My mother and I had a talk not to long ago about how i've been feeling. I have social anxiety. When with people i feel like they're all judging me and making fun of me. Im afraid im going to say something stupid so i dont say anything at all. I've had an anxiety attack before, in a restuarant, my heart was pounding, face was hot, i was dizzy and shaking. It wasn't a severe one though. I've been to a counselor and took pills but...nothings changed. Im off the pills cause they weren't doing anything and they made me feel weird. I guess my mom thinks everythings okay...but its not. Im homeschooled, because of my anxiety, i have no friends, im depressed....im pretty pathetic huh? I have been telling my mom i feel the same but she just wont listen! Im alone all day cause my parents work. When they aren't working they ignore me. What can i do to really show them how im feeling?
Answers: My mother and I had a talk not to long ago about how i've been feeling. I have social anxiety. When with people i feel like they're all judging me and making fun of me. Im afraid im going to say something stupid so i dont say anything at all. I've had an anxiety attack before, in a restuarant, my heart was pounding, face was hot, i was dizzy and shaking. It wasn't a severe one though. I've been to a counselor and took pills but...nothings changed. Im off the pills cause they weren't doing anything and they made me feel weird. I guess my mom thinks everythings okay...but its not. Im homeschooled, because of my anxiety, i have no friends, im depressed....im pretty pathetic huh? I have been telling my mom i feel the same but she just wont listen! Im alone all day cause my parents work. When they aren't working they ignore me. What can i do to really show them how im feeling?
Watch the Exorcist. Mimic critical scenes.
That should help.
write a letter, in your handwriting, be very detailed. and mail it, even if youre in the same house
Get a cap gun, and fire it everytime you feel something like that coming...
I heard it calms you down!
same as the guy above write a letter or look her in the eyes and explain or when you go to the councler ask her to come in to while you talk and pretend shes not there and let it all out
I think you should actually go up to your mom, and tell her that you actually NEED to talk to her. Bring her into a quiet room and have a serious conversation with her. If that doesn't work, then, I dunno. ):
1st u need to see a doctor cuz if u feel depressed and dont seek help it will get alot worst and soon but u may want to use "bad words" it helped me 1 time just dont be afraind to talk to her
I agree with Katie.. write them a letter. seeing something in black and whie might help. If not, is there a relative you can talk to? you NEED to talk to someone.
awww no your not pathetic at all!! sometimes i feel like that too
yeah i agree with katie you should write them a letter.
You show them like while they are talking you be spining your head
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One day, possibly at night or on a weekend. Sit them down and say that you all know that you've been having a social anxiety problem for a long time. You know that you've tried to help it and fix it but it hasn't helped.
Tell them to look at you from when it started to now and ask them if they've seen any change. Then just say that you know you haven't.
Tell them that you know you've attempted to express yourself before through all of the therapy and other things, but the fact that you feel like they don't honsetly care or know makes you hold back some feelings. Then say that if they know how you really feel then they can fully understand what's really going on.
Tell them that you feel like it's the only real way that you think there will be any improvement. Say that since they are the ones whom you are with the most that you feel that they should be the ones to understand you the most.
Hope it helped :]
Feel free to ask for more help.
You just have to keep communicating with them. Try getting out more. You may have to start at a distance in order to become comfortable enough to engage. At a distance see yourself communicating with others. Listen to what others say in conversation. You will notice many times the right things is not always said by anyone. Start on the outside working your way in. It will be difficult at first but practice makes perfect.
Act out. Change yourself temporarily around your mother. Do things differently that you wouldn't normally do, or go out of your way to be different. That will show your mother that you mean business.
Or you can combine my suggestion with the ones above -- write a strongly worded letter.
anxiety attacks come to often to people..so in the first place dont judge yourself pathetic..if i were you,.. translate your emotions through something that will make you busy and gratifying..arts..sports and or reading a book will do.and have a soul searching within yourself..admit what is wrong and try to change that,,appreciate what is good and try to convey that in your everyday living..and dont think that you do it for others..it is for you own good sake..start this and have a clear anxiety-free future!first..breath in and breath out.. :D
Well you are not alone on this. General anxiety disorder. Social anxiety. You need counseling. Depends on what meds you were on if they helped or not but you really need good counseling because now is the time to get this under control. Just go to your mom and say "I want to see a counselor and if you care about me you will listen to me and get me one."
you poor thing. I know this probably doesn't help but you know no one is talking about you right? You need a shrink to talk to. Stay on your parents. If you keep bugging them they will eventually give in. Tell them the whole thing is making you suicidal. I bet they will listen then. it goes with out saying ending your life is never an option. I don't want you to do that. good Luck
IF you have an older sibling or one that still lives at home and is old enough to communicate with your parents, set it up to talk to them when you KNOW your mother will overhear it. Tell the sibling you WISH your parents would listen to you , that you still have the anxiety and that you don't like having it. IF your parents are gone all day, who is homeschooling you? IF they hired a tutor ,tell that person and they SHOULD talk to one of your parents about this at least. I feel that the anxiety is not an easy thing to overcome but it can be dealt with, I have some too and have to remind myself that I must make the best of a given situation regardless of the circumstances. Try making friends online to practice your social skills and then try that in person. I have felt some hesitance to say much to strangers in person as I don't want to sound like a babbling idiot but I remind myself all that I come across are just human also. How do I know they don't have the same hesitance? Try joining a hobby you like, you can focus on what you enjoy and share it with others that like the same thing too and that way you might be able to make friends through this. I feel that there is only one way to overcome an obstacle and that is to go through it. REAL friends like you and want to be around you. IF they would laugh at something you said they are laughing WITH you and NOT at you. They find what you say then amusing, that's all. They will still be your friend and they still want to know you.
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