I am dealing with depression and its taking a serious toll on my relationship. P!
Question: I have been in this realtionship for just under a year, and i love him very much. I have been dealing with depression for many years, and it just recently began to really effect me again, for the past month i have had feelings of apathy towards my boyfriend, i overall just feel indifferent. I know i love him, but i miss feeling like i am IN love. I just began taking anti depressants, so im at a complete loss. I dont know if the apathy is a side effect of the depression, anti depressions or if we are just not ment to be. I dont want to make any rash decisions, but this feels wrong and i have no idea what to do.
Answers: I have been in this realtionship for just under a year, and i love him very much. I have been dealing with depression for many years, and it just recently began to really effect me again, for the past month i have had feelings of apathy towards my boyfriend, i overall just feel indifferent. I know i love him, but i miss feeling like i am IN love. I just began taking anti depressants, so im at a complete loss. I dont know if the apathy is a side effect of the depression, anti depressions or if we are just not ment to be. I dont want to make any rash decisions, but this feels wrong and i have no idea what to do.
After a year you should be slipping into that comfortable love that does not scream at you 24/7. Depression does make you feel this way though. I know, I have been there. I for a while felt like I could careless about my husband and it took almost losing him for real to jerk me out of the feelings I was having. You need to seriously think about if you would miss him if he were gone.
it may be the antidepressants,just wait for them to take full effect before you make that kind of decision. good luck.
You need to talkt to the doctor about your feelings. They say not all depression drugs will work on everyone if your feel like this and you do have depression i think your in need to change your meds. this is a serious matter you should let this affect you presonal life, take care and talk to your doctor.
The depression might be causing you to feel less affection for people you are close to. Sometimes the "infatuation" phase of a relationship can end, and the love can become less intense but also have a chance to be deeper and more meaningful and lasting.
I think you should get some counseling, with your boyfriend or individually, or both.
Dana (M.S. Marriage and Family Therapy/Mental Health Counseling)
A downfall of anti-depressants is that they can sometimes make you "numb". You should first speak with your doctor about this, perhaps a change in medication is in order for you. Is your boyfriend understanding when it comes to your depression? Is he knowledgeable on the topic? Speak to him about it. Tell him how you feel, and ask him to help you get through it.
Certain anti-depressants will make you just not give a crap about anything which could explain your apathy. You should tell your psychiatrist about this as there may be a different drug you can try that will better treat the depression without affecting your overall feelings in the relationship.
Whatever you do, don't make any rash decisions. It does take time to see if you are on the right dose, right med, etc. Don't be afraid to be up front with your boyfriend about it. That way he won't take it as being something wrong with him, rather that you need some time and understanding from him while you sort through your treatment.
I agree with z, don't neglect it. make sure they make the right evaluation and diagnostic before taking all kinds of pills. look for the right doc.
I have a problem like this...but it's on the other end of the spectrum...I take anti-depressaants, and I feel like he doesn't love me enough...my depression is affecting our relationship..
All I know is that if you realize it's not your fault, nothing to do with how you feel about him, and that your relationship is just the same, then you should be fine staying with him. Other than that, I don't know how to tell you how to deal with these feelings towards love...
Just grin and bear it I suppose...it's what I've been doing...
It's just the way your depression is making you feel i think..Doctors are always too keen to put people on anti-depressants which doesn't actually solve the underlying issues..
I've suffered from depression in the past and it had detrimental affects on my life...
But there is light at the end of the tunnel..