Can someone help me out?!
Question: Depression, nervous breakdowns, arguments...etc.... I mean everyones walking around with gloomy faces. Well, im probably having the worst problems going on in my life being my husbands in Iraq for the year and my moms very sick but i manage to try to stay positive. But everyone is bringing me down. Any words of encouragement before i give up & join the slump?
Answers: Depression, nervous breakdowns, arguments...etc.... I mean everyones walking around with gloomy faces. Well, im probably having the worst problems going on in my life being my husbands in Iraq for the year and my moms very sick but i manage to try to stay positive. But everyone is bringing me down. Any words of encouragement before i give up & join the slump?
I'm in the SAME BOAT, except my husband is out in the Gulf on an aircraft carrier...not Iraq..., leaving me to do all the worrying and leaving me to be both mother and father to our son. My mom had quadrupole open heart bypass surgery, a few heart attacks, a stroke, diabetes, she's blind in one eye, and she just got diagnosed with MS. I'm 3,000 miles away from her and have a phobia of flying now. She can barely walk, and we don't know how much longer she will be with us. Words of encouragement? Hmmm... good question. The only thing I can do is sit and remind myself how awesome it will be when my husband gets out of the military. As for your mother, I am sorry, and I understand. Unfortunately, we can't control these things. You might want to sit down and write her a long letter. It will make you feel better, and it will give you a chance to say all the things she should know if something were to take a turn for the worst. I have yet to write mind. And after that, maybe write one for the hubby as well.
We're in the SAME boat sweetie. Don't give up! :) Watch an inspiring movie, listen to your favorite music or try some new tunes.
Happiness is an attitude.
The 81year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with her hair fashionably coiffed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. Her husband of 50 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window. "I love it," she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy. "Mrs. Jones, you haven't seen the room .... just wait." "That doesn't have anything to do with it," she replied. "Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn't depend on how the furniture is arranged ... it's how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it ... It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I'll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I've stored away ... just for this time in my life."
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watch some comedies and keep around positive people. i stopped being friends with one girl because she was a downer. negative ALL the time.
hang tough. God wont allow more than you can handle.
everyone goes through hard times, i am sorry for you but you still do have to think more happier. say its only for a year, next think i know he will be right in my arms again, write him more letters and call when you guys can ! be there for your mom. but stay very busy. go out even if its to the food store for 5 mins. its better to get out with the freash air then stay in. dont worry it always cood be worster be happy
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everything will work out - hard times make us stronger. Your husband will come back to you and life will be better soon, take up a hobby, work out, take long walks to clear your head, keep a journal of your feelings and remain positive.surround yourself with optimistic people, stay away from t hose who bring you down.
You will become a stronger woman from your expierences
support your mother in rough times and she'll support you in your rough times.
good luck
never forget to love yourself
Don't let others determine your mood or your state of mind. Be your own person. You know how strong you are so you need to let others know that you are that strong. That depression isn't going to ruin your life. I would be dead right now if I let it ruin my life. Just pull yourself up keeping pushing. If your going through hell keep on going. and remember it always gets worse before it gets better.
Seems as if you are really in your own space, "My problems are the worst problems of all." Maybe you need to think about something outside of yourself, do things for others. Get out and breathe some fresh air and start something new.
Others should not be able to bring you down, only you can do that to yourself.
When people greet you open with a big smile, if thay ask how things are going just say fine, and let slip that your fine ,and positive people make things easier for you. you are a strong person, so don't let others bring you down,,," be happy" good luck susie.
i hear you. my mother has been abusing me since i was very young. both my mother and father are alcoholics. but all of my friends called me positive patty. they are all VERY negative about life in general. they find something small and make it huge. i think it is my take that people who have had a seemingly positive life growing up and protected from the bad things in life from their parents, which is typical of children who grew up in the 80's. it was the ideal parenting style at the time. as they enter adulthood and enter the real world, any minor problem affects them in a hard way. they dont understand how to react because they are not used to it. those of us who have experienced hard issues in life before are used to it. we can tackle any problem and find the positives in it. we are stronger b/c of our misgivings in our past.
anyway, my friends are extremely negative and it has taken a lot of energy to help them find the positive in life. so sometimes i take a break from them b/c it only brings me down. sometimes we need to focus on ourselves so we dont adapt to their attitudes. we experience "learned behavior" from negative people and adapt to their negative coping skills. take a break and hang out with positive people for a while. i did that and it helped a lot. i am friends with the "negative" crew again. i dont try to make them positive but i listen to their complaints about life. i am empathetic but dont try to fix them. i learned a lot being away from them.
they dont call me positive patty as much anymore but its better that way. i dont feel pressure feeling as though i need to live up to that expectation. its ok to feel sorry for yourself sometimes. but remember, people like you can deal with hard times, they cant.
stay strong and dont let their attitude affect you.
You could try moving in different circles, a change of company, or scenery maybe ? Spend a little time with someone your not so close to, and who wont dwell on your current problems, someone who wants to talk more light-heartedly about other issues in the world - a change of subject could be the diversion you need. You dont want to be growing grey before your time, you still got to LIVE. I mean, look at all the petty problems some of the people on this 'site' find hard to cope with ! thats gotta make you laugh ! They think they have problems ?Perhaps your stronger than you think, or give yourself credit for. All you need to do is to come up for air now and again - give yourself some space.Lean on a stranger if you have to. There are good people all over this world, and it can be of great benefit to share and interact with them without being too serious, all the time. You'll get through this - and you'll be stronger for it. x
No one can change the world so you're more comfortable. Gee too bad.
how do you know that u're having the worst problems? everyone has their own problems and handle it in their own way. if everyone is depressing you, then leave
Ava
We live in a depressing time right now. Here is a great song that makes me smile.
Always Look on the Bright Side of Life
Some things in life are bad,
They can really make you mad,
Other things just make you swear and curse,
When you're chewing life's gristle,
Don't grumble,
Give a whistle
And this'll help things turn out for the best.
And...
Always look on the bright side of life.
[whistle]
Always look on the light side of life.
[whistle]
If life seems jolly rotten,
There's something you've forgotten,
And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing.
When you're feeling in the dumps,
Don't be silly chumps.
Just purse your lips and whistle.
That's the thing.
And...
Always look on the bright side of life.
[whistle]
Always look on the right side of life,
[whistle]
For life is quite absurd
And death's the final word.
You must always face the curtain with a bow.
Forget about your sin.
Give the audience a grin.
Enjoy it. It's your last chance, anyhow.
So,...
Always look on the bright side of death,
[whistle]
Just before you draw your terminal breath.
[whistle]
Life's a piece of ****,
When you look at it.
Life's a laugh and death's a joke it's true.
You'll see it's all a show.
Keep 'em laughing as you go.
Just remember that the last laugh is on you.
And...
Always look on the bright side of life.
Always look on the right side of life.
[whistle]
Always look on the bright side of life!
[whistle]
Always look on the bright side of life!
[whistle]
Always look on the bright side of life!
[whistle]
Always look on the bright side of life!
[whistle]
Always look on the bright side of life!
[whistle]
Always look on the bright side of life!
[whistle]
Always look on the bright side of life!
[whistle]
Always look on the bright side of life!
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